May You.....

The birds are chirping
The flowers are blooming
Children and young adults are itching to get out of school
The smell of the ocean, the sun on our faces
Walking outdoors to all of our familiar places.
Mothers are celebrated. And birthdays too.

Diplomas will be in hand.
The month of May is oh so grand.

May you….

May you feel everything and attached to nothing.

May the wind be on your back and the sun shine warm your face.

May you realize it’s okay to not be okay.

May you know when to say yes and how to say no.

May you learn from all of your mistakes.

May you follow your heart and your dreams without any one trying to bust them at the seams.

May you get up every time you fall
Dust off and try again.

May you have faith and understand that there is a plan for you.

May you take the time to heal all of your wounds.

May you live in the present and not in the past. This life we live goes way too fast.

May you find stillness in this world of chaos.

May you smile big even when no one is around.

May you sing and dance and act like a clown.

May you grow and flourish at your own pace, and remember that life is not a race.

May you learn, practice, share and teach. Use your gifts to help those in need.

May you one day find your voice. Always remember you have a choice.
It may take time, and that’s okay. Talk less observe more. Be a sponge. Listen.

May you treat your body like the greatest temple in the universe. If something’s not right, listen and take it a step further.

May you find comfort in your skin and walk with your head high.

May you be Authentically perfect imperfect and not follow the crowd.
May you find joy in the little things like the smile on your kids faces or the smell of fresh flowers and not the material things.

May you take time to be alone. Read. Write. Meditate.

May you be independent and able to stand on your own two feet. Remember, dependency is for the weak.

May you live your life your way without hesitation or guilt.

May you be happy
May you be healthy
May you be strong



Resume of Life

There are a few things that inspired me to write this blog. The first being Bayley’s post on Instagram. “Can cross this off my (b) list”. Congrats again to Bayley for finishing her first Half Marathon. For those of you who do not know Bay, she is a almost 20 year old teacher at SUKHA, a now Half Marathon Runner, a College Student, a Care-Giver for children, a daughter, sister, girlfriend, friend, cousin, niece, artisan and a diabetic. For 19 years young, Bayley is crossing things off her list. Congrats Bayley!!

We have told for years from our parents, teachers, and mentors “Stay with one job, it looks bad on your resume”. I disagree. Thanks mom. You never held me back from any of my wacky decisions. Each decision was a learning experience and helped me to grow and be who I am today.

I want to be able to tell my grandchildren that I did it all!! Or at least as much as I can mentally and physically handle.

When I was about 8 years old, I remember playing school and wanting to be a teacher. Then as I got older and being introduced to the New York Times Fashion Magazine, I then wanted to be a Fashion Designer/Merchandiser.

As a teenager, I was a waitress, a cashier at Shoprite. I worked concessions at PNC Art Center, I stuffed envelopes with travel brochures in NYC on the weekends with my mom. I attended Newbury College and received my degree in Fashion Merchandising. I worked at Prudential in NJ and Boston, Merrill Lynch, I even scooped Ice Cream and sold Fanny Farmer Candy then off to NYC where I did billing for a diamond company, then worked my up to Account Executive, then Merchandiser where I traveled to India for quality control.

Years later, I was blessed to have had the most challenging, gratifying, most under appreciated job in the world. I became a mom to two amazing children. When you become a mom, you add to your resume a nurse, a doctor, therapist, teacher, accountant, taxi driver, chef, maid, coach, disciplinarian, and a friend.

This will always be my number 1!

I sold jewelry and skin care products. I held Spa Classes carrying around bins and towels to give people at home spa parties. The list is long.

Oh the car business!! Who would have ever thought. I loved it and hated it. I learned so much as Director of Business Development and I have no regrets. Now years later, at 47, a Yoga Instructor, Small Business owner, Wellness Advocate and Blogger. Make the most from each one. Learn from your experiences. Share them.

These were only jobs/careers. Like Bayley, I have a list. Much has been crossed off, but there is more.

Guess what? I am not stopping here. Who knows what will be next. I am beating my own drum.

Do what you love and love what you do. Learn. Don’t stop because someone told you it looks bad on your resume. Try it all. Be a wealth full of knowledge. In one industry or multiple. Do what YOU want to do. Make your own decisions. Be kind, honest and compassionate. Inspire and motivate yourself and others. Run a 5k or a half. Hike. Paddle. Travel. Read. Write.

The last few days I have been listening to the most inspiring man; the late Wayne Dyer.

I will leave you with this:

“Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You”. -Wayne Dyer

For those who know me, you can see why this is so inspiring to me and how this blog all links together.

“Not dying with your music still in you is not about what you “do with” your life. It is about how you lead your life. Raising children to dance to the beat of their own drum means raising them first to hear, and then follow their own inner calling”-Serena Dyer

Don’t get caught up in what others tell you to do. Follow your heart and not others.

“When you follow the herd, you’re bound to step in shit. Avoid the herd. Think for yourself. Do what you feel is right for you”-SD

Teens: Study and continue to learn. Have fun. the right way. Never stop learning. I know you may hate it now, but trust me; Don’t “F” up. You are young. Learn to balance it all. You can do it!! DON’T FOLLOW THE HERD.

xoxoxox

#samehere #ditto

Happy Monday!! I hope those who have off today are finding time to relax, disconnect and take time for yourself or spend time with your family and friends.

This weekend was non-stop for me with so many great things happening at the studio. Thank you to everyone who attended the Keep A Breast Donation Class with Amy. We raised $500 towards our goal. Next class will be Sunday, 10/14 with me at 9:00 am.

Thank you to Hug Your Chaos for a powerful workshop on the Real-Life, No Bullshit way of healing our chakras.

Sunday, my dharma was inspired by so many different situations that came up for me.

The first of many was the blog written by Lori. The blog was read by many and then it happened. The comments “I had no idea”, “ We never realize how much we all have in common” and even Amy’s powerful dharma for the donation class about her story. (You can read Lori’s blog below)/ There have been so many women last week that have the same situation going on right now or have in the past.

In a nut-shell; many reactions were “me too” as well as so many other situations we find out about when we share our story.

Now “Me Too” does not always mean the most powerful and popular hash tag among women right now. It should not only be characterized by sexual harassment.

It’s everyday struggles. Struggles from the past and the present. Addiction, physical, mental abuse, anxiety, depression, weight struggles, self esteem, mommy issues, daddy issues or any form of illness or diseases.

I created this space because it allowed me to start the healing process by speaking and sharing my stories for the first time ever. Sharing and teaching what I am learning to heal wounds so I can continue to be a better mom, daughter, sister, aunt, teacher, business owner, x-wife, and girlfriend.

Healing is a life long journey and providing tools and a space so we can heal.

So, whatever it is that you are going through, I can guarantee that someone else in this room is going through the same thing. Whatever it may be. Expressing our imperfections and struggles allows people to say “it’s okay”, “me too” or maybe we should create our own hashtag!! #sameheresukha #ditto. Ha ha. Just did! #dittosukha

Remember. it’s okay to ask for help and a shoulder to lean and or cry on. Having a space and a community to share and heal; it’s a wonderful place to be.

It is also okay to not always be “FINE”. (Feelings Inside Not Expressed).

I am going to close this blog with a quote by Cheryl Strayed

“Let yourself be gutted. Let it open you. START HERE”

#sameheresukha

#dittosukha

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Are You Living Courageous and Free?

Today we celebrate Independence Day. Music Speaks Dharma has been my description of all of my classes since I started SUKHA in 2015 and I traditionally teach all of the holidays. By now, many try to do the same, and I am so honored to have inspired others.

I decided today I would change it up slightly and steer away from the normal July 4th class.

Independence-" the fact or state of being independent. self-determination, freedom" 

Independent- "free from outside control; not depending on others authority"

You see, I am very independent. Always was and always will be. I can honestly say that if I was dependent, I would not be living a truly authentic life.

Many people live in a state of co-dependence and allow others to shape our beliefs and decisions from how to dress, political views, financial decisions and so many other things that we forget who we really are and this I can't seem to digest. (it gets my blood boiling)

Independence is knowing who you are, owning it, being aware of boundaries, saying no, speaking your truth, being clear on exactly what you want and most importantly respecting yourself and owning your life.

Today, start making your own decisions, give yourself permission to think, feel, support, love and do whatever the fuck makes you happy.

How the hell do people survive, achieve and live a life based on what someone else dictates to them?

America is the LAND OF THE FREE!! Get your shit together and start living your life, YOUR WAY.

The place where we can do whatever we wish. So let's do it. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart, your dreams, wear what you want, be whoever you want, travel, quit the job that you are constantly complaining about and find a new one, stop bitching and start doing. Stop asking permission and advice from the people that will tell you "don't do it". (this will be for another dharma)

America. "Home of the Brave"

Are you courageous? Do you step into your true self? Do you tell your story? Are you afraid of making decisions on your own? What is holding you back from having the courage to do what you want? Is it you that keeps telling yourself that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, educated enough or is it someone from the past or the present that has planted these thoughts in your head. Those thoughts are going to stop TODAY!!

"Courage is required in almost every basic human activity or endeavor. For instance, to allow oneself to love and commit to another person takes courage. Separating from our parents and forging an independent life for ourselves is a courageous act. To survive an abusive, traumatic or neglected childhood or relationship with dignity and integrity demonstrates courage and resilience." -Wizard of Us

Stop basing your dreams and decisions on someone else. Put on your big girl/big boy pants and take the step into independence. You will begin to start doing everything that inspires you on your terms. Stop wasting time living someone else's life.

Let's begin to have the confidence, courage, self-love to live the life you want to live. In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.

Be happy

Be healthy

Be strong

Be free

Be Brave

Today and always

Have a Happy Independent Life!