Are You Living Courageous and Free?

Today we celebrate Independence Day. Music Speaks Dharma has been my description of all of my classes since I started SUKHA in 2015 and I traditionally teach all of the holidays. By now, many try to do the same, and I am so honored to have inspired others.

I decided today I would change it up slightly and steer away from the normal July 4th class.

Independence-" the fact or state of being independent. self-determination, freedom" 

Independent- "free from outside control; not depending on others authority"

You see, I am very independent. Always was and always will be. I can honestly say that if I was dependent, I would not be living a truly authentic life.

Many people live in a state of co-dependence and allow others to shape our beliefs and decisions from how to dress, political views, financial decisions and so many other things that we forget who we really are and this I can't seem to digest. (it gets my blood boiling)

Independence is knowing who you are, owning it, being aware of boundaries, saying no, speaking your truth, being clear on exactly what you want and most importantly respecting yourself and owning your life.

Today, start making your own decisions, give yourself permission to think, feel, support, love and do whatever the fuck makes you happy.

How the hell do people survive, achieve and live a life based on what someone else dictates to them?

America is the LAND OF THE FREE!! Get your shit together and start living your life, YOUR WAY.

The place where we can do whatever we wish. So let's do it. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart, your dreams, wear what you want, be whoever you want, travel, quit the job that you are constantly complaining about and find a new one, stop bitching and start doing. Stop asking permission and advice from the people that will tell you "don't do it". (this will be for another dharma)

America. "Home of the Brave"

Are you courageous? Do you step into your true self? Do you tell your story? Are you afraid of making decisions on your own? What is holding you back from having the courage to do what you want? Is it you that keeps telling yourself that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, educated enough or is it someone from the past or the present that has planted these thoughts in your head. Those thoughts are going to stop TODAY!!

"Courage is required in almost every basic human activity or endeavor. For instance, to allow oneself to love and commit to another person takes courage. Separating from our parents and forging an independent life for ourselves is a courageous act. To survive an abusive, traumatic or neglected childhood or relationship with dignity and integrity demonstrates courage and resilience." -Wizard of Us

Stop basing your dreams and decisions on someone else. Put on your big girl/big boy pants and take the step into independence. You will begin to start doing everything that inspires you on your terms. Stop wasting time living someone else's life.

Let's begin to have the confidence, courage, self-love to live the life you want to live. In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.

Be happy

Be healthy

Be strong

Be free

Be Brave

Today and always

Have a Happy Independent Life!

The Ideal Dad

Happy Dad's Day to all!

For those who have been taking my class or read my blogs, you know my past. I am not getting into that today. If you would like to read, all of the blogs can be found on sukhayogaclass.com under "New Blog".

I hope all of you dads have a great day whatever it is that you are doing. Hopefully it's spending the day with your children. Especially, if you work crazy hours throughout the day and get home late at night. 

I have decided to call this day, "Dads Day"!!

You see there's a  big difference between what makes a Father and a Dad. A father is someone who believes that by just creating you by having sex and sending his sperm off for creation, he has done his duty in life with little emotional investment. A dad is someone who gets up every day and does whatever he can do support, guide, and most of all be present. It is just not about providing food and roof our their children's heads. There is so much more in my opinion.

You become a father at birth, you earn the title of dad.

What does The "Ideal Dad" look like in my head? A role model for boys and girls. Physically and mentally strong. The dad who helps around the house, gets up at any hour the night or gets on the floor to play or outside to play catch. A man who can do this without being short of breathe, who lives a healthy lifestyle and is driven to do life a long life to see his children grow old. A dad who shows love, kindness and compassion,  and admits when he'w wrong and not perfect. A man who leaves his ego at the door and does not expect his dinner to be ready and on the table every night. This dad shows love and respect to his wife/x-wife always and will offer to take on some of the daily responsibilities because he is fully aware of everything mom's do to make the house a home and the children happy, and healthy. 

A man who sees that his primary role is not just a check book and that there is so much more.

The Ideal Dad accepts all responsibilities to his children even if he has "others", or not.

A dad is present. A father is just the is the sex ed version of a parent. A sex partner to create; to be blunt. 

Someone who makes spending time with his child/children a priority and actively participating in their lives as much as possible.

A dad who empowers, teaches, educates and disciplines just as much as the mom. If not more.

A man who can take care of himself when he is not feeling well. In order to be a great dad, you must take care of your health. A dad should be a role model who lives a healthy life.

A man who doesn't think it's cool that his 2 year old knows what a beer is and has him get him one from the cooler. A man who doesn't "check  out" attractive women in front of their son and daughter and shows respect to all life. 

A man who is authentic at home, in the office, on the field, at a school meeting and most importantly around others. A dad is someone who does knows how to say no when necessary. To say no to his friends, co-workers, girlfriend and say yes to his kids. 

Parenting is not easy. It requires, love, support, guidance, discipline, honesty, friendship, and loyalty. 

Teach them confidence and self-esteem but make sure you are good to yourself. Every parent deserves time to themselves to clear their mind a connect with themselves. 

A dad and a man who is good to mom. Be good to the mother of their children whether they are married or not and be sure to remember who your biological children are.

Remember, kids learn from their parents and they are always watching. Drinking, smoking will become planted in their brain. Bad manners and inappropriate behavior will rub off on them.

One thing kids want most is time. Quality time with their dad. Make time before it's too late.

If there is anything I ever wanted, it was a dad and to have quality time with my Father.