How many of you can honestly say that you are thriving or just surviving? Are you up all night stressing and worrying about things that have not even happened yet? Are you dreading going to work the next day and causing yourself anxiety instead of the falling into a peaceful sleep thinking of happiness, joy and accomplishments that are fueling your fire?
If you are tossing and turning every night with anxiety and stress, chances are you are just surviving and not thriving. What's the difference? To survive means to continue to live or exist, especially during hard times. To thrive means to be fortunate or successful, to grow and flourish.
Unsure? Ask yourself these questions. Write them down if needed.
Do you feel stuck?
Are you constantly complaining and blaming others?
Day after day are you being your authentic self or do you always feel inauthentic?
Do you always feel sorry for yourself and telling yourself that "things always go wrong"?
"Thrive Mode is characterized by what psychologist Martin Seligman refers to as PERMA"
- Positive emotions
- Engagement and flow
- Positive relationships
The first thing you have to do is admit the mode you are in. Maya Angelou said it best
"My mission in life is not to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style".
Years ago, I did nothing but worry. Many sleepless nights. Then one day, I woke the fuck up. "There is nothing that I can do about this particular situation at 12:30 am, 2:30 am, or 4:00 am and why don't I just chill out and see how it plays out. I began to take one minute and one day at a time with a positive mindset and then it happened.....
I began to "Move Mountains" by changing my mindset, removing toxic people out of my life, and doing what I wanted to do and not listen to others. Granted, there were other things I needed to work on such as setting boundaries with certain people and situations and I am 95% there.
What is the secret to reaching to where you want to be mentally, physically, spiritually and professionally?
Have small accomplishments every day and start with the inner work first. Our brains record EVERY one of our experiences. The bad, the good, the ugly and the beautiful. Guess what? More often our brains record the positive experiences more than the negative. I know it sounds crazy but it's all about your mindset. The more inner work we do and heal, the more motivation and momentum we have.
Don't worry about huge accomplishments, instead be happy and celebrate the small wins of everyday life. The small wins are the secret to moving mountains and thriving.
Remember you can't do it alone.
"I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot.
Together we can do great things"-Mother Theresa
Let's do great things together.
This morning I guided my class through a meditation that I would like to share a piece of it with you.
In summer, there’s no snow on the mountain except perhaps for the very peaks. In fall, the mountain may wear a coat of brilliant fire colours. In winter, a blanket of snow and ice. In any season, it may find itself at times enshrouded in clouds or fog or pelted by freezing rain. People may come to see the mountain and comment on how beautiful it is or on how it’s not a good day to see the mountain. None of this matters to the mountain which remains at all times its essential self. Clouds may come, and clouds may go. The mountain’s magnificence and beauty are not changed one bit by the way people see it or not or by the weather. Seen or unseen, in sun or clouds, broiling or frigid, day or night, it just sits, being itself. At times, visited by violent storms, buffeted by snow and rain and winds of unthinkable magnitude. Through it all, the mountain continues to sit unmoved by the weather, by what happens on the surface, by the world of appearances.
And in the same way, as we sit in meditation, we can learn to experience the mountain. We can embody the same unwavering stillness and rootedness in the face of everything that changes in our own lives over seconds, over hours, over years. In our lives and in our meditation practice, we constantly experience the changing nature of mind and body and of the outer world. We have our own periods of light and darkness, our moments of colour and our moments of drabness. Certainly, we experience storms of varying intensity and violence in the outer world and in our own minds and bodies. We endure periods of darkness and pain, as well as the moments of joy. Even our appearance changes constantly, experiencing a weather of its own.
By becoming the mountain in our meditation practice, we can link up with its strength and stability and adopt it for our own. We can use its energies to support our energy to encounter each moment with mindfulness and equanimity and clarity. It may help us to see that our thoughts and feelings, our preoccupations, our emotional storms and crises, even the things that happen to us, are very much like the weather on the mountain. We tend to take it all personally but its strongest characteristic is impersonal. The weather of our own lives is not to be ignored or denied. It is to be encountered, honoured, felt, known for what it is and held in awareness. And in holding it in this way, we come to know a deeper silence, and stillness, and wisdom. Mountains have this to teach us and much more if we can come to listen.