Labor of Love

Are you working for the next new pair of shoes or the next new fancy new car that hits the lot?

What are you hungry for? Stuff? A relationship? Are you confusing depression for the longing of something that is missing in your life?

As I listen, think, learn and write on this beautiful Sunday afternoon preparing for class on Monday; I am blown away. Blown away by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee as he speaks on Super Soul Conversations with Oprah. A must!!

As we sit lay here on our mats on this Labor Day, I would like you all to think about why you work and do you truly love what you do. Does your job serve a purpose besides buying stuff? Remove pensions and 401k. Let's just remove money completely out of the equation.

What would you do to serve others without too many or no financial incentives? How do you think it would make you feel?

Would you be willing to take a risk and serve to remove the "me" and make into a "we"?

When you begin to serve, you will begin to discover that the important things are not "things" at all.  Then all of your work comes from your mind and your heart and you get that amazing feeling in your heart and in your tummy that you want to serve everywhere.

Mother Teresa said "We can do no great things-only small things with love". She made a difference for millions of people. Remember it is not what we do that matters, it's the energy and love that we put into it that counts.

We all have to work to earn so we can give our children what they need; food, shelter and clothes on their back. So many of us want to give our children everything they want because we may have felt slighted growing up. We need to break that cycle. Let's start showing our children what it looks like to serve and help others so it will encourage them to do the same.

Day after day, I hear so many people complain about how much they dislike their job and how unhappy they are. My response is "Leave". Do what you love. What's holding you back? The answers-"Pension. 401K. and  health benefits". 

Guess what? This world could end tomorrow and none of it will even matter. What matters is you do what you love, serve for yourself, your children and others along the way.

Don't chase a job because of the money. Chase ways to help people and promote others, work that brings you joy, and opportunities that will help you to continue to learn and grow . Happy parents=Happy kids.

What is your goal? To be filthy rich with "things" or rich in health, happiness, knowledge, laughter and love?

Today we celebrate Labor Day honoring the American Labor movement and the contributions that workers have made to the strength, prosperity, laws and well-being of the country. Yet, almost every store and restaurant is open for business including SUKHA. I do not consider what I do work. Yes, I obviously need to charge to pay the rent and the bills, but this is love for me. Reading, writing and creating playlists ,dharmas, and sequences everyday takes time. I could not imagine, walking through these doors with a random playlist on my phone and just open a random site or book and read two sentences or rattle off some random non-sense without  any reason or a why. As I learn, I share and teach. Running a business is work. Lots of work no matter how small the business is. 

I am a Doterra Wellness Advocate for a few reasons. The mail reason is I would like to share these oils with as many people as I can. Why? Because I believe in them. They have helped me on so many different levels. Do I consider this "work"? Hard Labor? Nope. I am my own boss. 

I share because I care. Whatever it may be.

Let's start to celebrate labors of love! A piece of hard work that you do because you enjoy it and not because you receive money or praise!

I hope each of you can find space to shine your light by helping others find theirs.

Do what you love.

Love what you do.

Help and serve others when ever you can.

I hope everyone had a great summer!

I wish all of the kids best of luck this school year. Study hard and play hard.

Keep in mind drinking makes you sloppy and slow.

xoxoxox

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Divorce. Relationships. Heart Chakra.

Now this post is way overdue and very hard for me to write. It's time. 

This heart of mine is a tough one. Someone once told me years ago it was frozen along with all of the veins attached. I think that was the first time I ever realized it truly was and it need to be thawed out. But how? Why was I so cold in certain situations? 

Years later, in my early forties, I started to learn about this through yoga, Reiki, Rain Drop Therapy, Card Readings, and learning from amazing women whom I give all  credit. But if Maryjo reads this she will say that I did all the work and she just gave me to tools. Thanks MJ. Love you and thanks.

I am not going to sit here and play the blame game on my parents because we are all victims of victims and they could not have taught us anything they did not know themselves. Although I do believe that my father not being present had a lot to do with it. He did not know how to love himself so therefore, he could not teach me how to do the same. As we grow up, we have a tendency to re-create that early home life. And yes, I did, but got out due to the fact that I was beginning to see myself as my mother sitting, waiting and wishing. 

As a tween I never had self confidence, I thought I was ugly because kids told me I was. I never thought I was good enough to have a boyfriend and that was the case for years. Yes,  I "dated", but never had a SERIOUS boyfriend that I truly cared for and that truly cared for me until junior year of high school. And of course I fucked that up. Years later I finally figured out that it was a fear, a heart blockage and deep down I did not think I was worthy to have such a great guy. Unfortunately, we choose our thoughts and the "I'm not good enough" was one that deep down was running through my veins for years. I am not funny enough, rich enough, skinny enough, athletic enough, etc....how the hell could I have ever created a loving, happy, healthy relationship with that subconscious belief?

Let's fast forward because the past is the past. It is over and done but I can change my thoughts about the past and that has been step 1. To release the past we need to forgive. Forgive everyone and most importantly ourselves. I'm almost there, but I found my self giving the out a few weeks ago.

Going on 13 years divorced, single for the majority. Dated here and there, creeped on a bit, stalked, made stupid mistakes and learned lessons from all of them. I was not ready for a committed relationship. I love being alone and the easy feeling of not having to answer to anyone, not share a bed, a bathroom and just do my own thing when I want and how I want and being independant. And most importantly for my kids. I refused to make the mistake most newly divorced men and women do. They jump right in. Some don't even wait until the ink is dry and this makes me crazy. Every divorced man or woman need to heal and it doesn't matter who cheated, who doesn't love anymore, or who did what. HEAL friends. HEAL first. Don't let your home be a revolving door and most importantly, not with kids. They fear abandonment, just like we do. My children are happy in this very quiet, small house on the tracks. There is no yelling, fighting or screaming and no egg shells to be walked on. In my opinion, I have made very good decisions in this department. My children come first before anyone or anything. Fully 100% present.

For the divorced men who feel the need to jump in because they "need someone to cook, clean or take care of them when they are sick"; try to do for yourself for a while or go back home to mom. For the divorced ladies who "don't want to go back to work or need the security": GET A FUCKING JOB. Start your dream job/career. MAKE IT HAPPEN. I know you can do it!!

 Heal so you can be in a healthy relationship and not continue to revisit old wounds and get back in another crappy relationship. When you jump in and find yourself attracting the same people and you are always complaining about it and trying to find the answer, well; the answer is you have not healed.

Back to the heart. It's pretty open. But it doesn't take long to close up again. I have the most amazing boyfriend that anyone could ever ask for. He's kind, loving, thoughtful, understanding, mushy, genuine, sweet, loyal, a yogi, fuckin hot as hell and funny.  How he puts up with me is mind blowing. He has opened my heart and knows me so well when it is starting to freeze up. WHY?? It must still be fear and those stupid thoughts of me not deserving someone like him. A few weeks ago I said to myself that he deserves someone better. Why? We make a great couple. We laugh, have so much in common and the chemistry is there. Why is it that I want to shut down? I have no interest in ANYONE else but him.

This fuckin heart chakra drives me cra cra. Our heart chakra is the fourth primary chakra located in the center of the human body and is associated with love and understanding, What causes this chakra to get blocked? Emotional pain, caused by bad memories, old programming, emotions and even overthinking. In my case, I do not believe it is overthinking. That part was fixed years ago. I am proud to say, I live in the present moment and have so many things going on that I don't have time to overthink.

As I am writing and thinking it could be that hold onto emotions and this could cause the blockage or just procrastinating for the reason of time and the amount I have on my plate.

Whatever it may be, I will continue to stay connected to myself and know when the heart is starting to close and work on myself everyday. This process does not happen over night and there is not a magic pill that will cure the blockage forever. 

The bottom line is this....

I am so grateful to have someone who understands me and all of this chakra healing stuff and someone who can fully admit he has healing to do as well. You see real men understand it, and know when to leave the ego at the door. Real men admit to their flaws. Real men understand authenticity. Oh; and real men do yoga!! ha

Thank you for being real and thawing out my heart and understanding when it starts to freeze up. I take 100% responsibility for doing the work/healing. Thank you for making me smile and always listening.

Thank you all for reading. Continue to do the work-in my friends.

When we really love , accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works. Our health improves, our relationships become more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in fulfilling ways. Loving and approving of yourself, creating space of safety, trusting, deserving and accepting, will create organization in your minds, creating loving relationships, maybe a new job, or a better place to live. Whatever it may be.  Try to approve of yourself, do the work and see what happens.

WRITE my friends.

It's so healing. 

xoxoxox

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Are You Living Courageous and Free?

Today we celebrate Independence Day. Music Speaks Dharma has been my description of all of my classes since I started SUKHA in 2015 and I traditionally teach all of the holidays. By now, many try to do the same, and I am so honored to have inspired others.

I decided today I would change it up slightly and steer away from the normal July 4th class.

Independence-" the fact or state of being independent. self-determination, freedom" 

Independent- "free from outside control; not depending on others authority"

You see, I am very independent. Always was and always will be. I can honestly say that if I was dependent, I would not be living a truly authentic life.

Many people live in a state of co-dependence and allow others to shape our beliefs and decisions from how to dress, political views, financial decisions and so many other things that we forget who we really are and this I can't seem to digest. (it gets my blood boiling)

Independence is knowing who you are, owning it, being aware of boundaries, saying no, speaking your truth, being clear on exactly what you want and most importantly respecting yourself and owning your life.

Today, start making your own decisions, give yourself permission to think, feel, support, love and do whatever the fuck makes you happy.

How the hell do people survive, achieve and live a life based on what someone else dictates to them?

America is the LAND OF THE FREE!! Get your shit together and start living your life, YOUR WAY.

The place where we can do whatever we wish. So let's do it. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart, your dreams, wear what you want, be whoever you want, travel, quit the job that you are constantly complaining about and find a new one, stop bitching and start doing. Stop asking permission and advice from the people that will tell you "don't do it". (this will be for another dharma)

America. "Home of the Brave"

Are you courageous? Do you step into your true self? Do you tell your story? Are you afraid of making decisions on your own? What is holding you back from having the courage to do what you want? Is it you that keeps telling yourself that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, educated enough or is it someone from the past or the present that has planted these thoughts in your head. Those thoughts are going to stop TODAY!!

"Courage is required in almost every basic human activity or endeavor. For instance, to allow oneself to love and commit to another person takes courage. Separating from our parents and forging an independent life for ourselves is a courageous act. To survive an abusive, traumatic or neglected childhood or relationship with dignity and integrity demonstrates courage and resilience." -Wizard of Us

Stop basing your dreams and decisions on someone else. Put on your big girl/big boy pants and take the step into independence. You will begin to start doing everything that inspires you on your terms. Stop wasting time living someone else's life.

Let's begin to have the confidence, courage, self-love to live the life you want to live. In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.

Be happy

Be healthy

Be strong

Be free

Be Brave

Today and always

Have a Happy Independent Life!

Personal Yogis, Schedule Changes and More

I hope everyone had a great weekend and found their way to yoga wherever it may be. When you practice, please continue to really practice yoga on the mat and off. Let's have a re-cap in case some forgot shall we? 

The Five Yamas of Yoga

  1. Ahimsa- the practice of non-violence which includes physical, mental, and emotional violence towards others and the self.
  2. Satya-truthfulness. urges us to live and speak our truth at all times.
  3. Asteya-NON-STEALING is best defined as not taking what is not freely given. 
  4. Brahmacharya- (continence) states that when we have control over our physical impulses of excess we attain knowledge, vigor and increased energy. To break the bonds that attach us to our excesses and addictions, when we need both courage and will.
  5. Aparigraha-(non-coveting) urges us to let go of everything we do not need, possessing only as much as necessary.

Why the re-cap? Well, this weekend unfortunately our good friend, talented, gifted, brilliant, hard working, single mom; Krista Eggering who you all know from our Mala Workshops was notified that a so called "yogi" stole her intellectual property. Every word from her posts, invites and went so far as to copy the description of the work shops and used it on all social media outlets as well as her mala work. Truly heartbreaking. 

 Why was I notified? Well, this "yoga" decided to steal my intellectual property as well. This situation put the two of us in a rip-roaring spin. We work hard. We think. We are creative. We spend hours and hours creating. From descriptions, to posts, playlists, logos, dharmas, what ever the case may be to find out that someone just can't think for themselves. And I do not want to hear that we inspired her. Stealing is different than inspiring. She went so far and obviously did not see my logo watermarked on the photo. Silly yogi. Tricks are for kids.

Krista and I spoke, messaged each other, and were there for each other and we both did what we needed to do to calm down and remember that this will return to her.

Krista said it best. " I connected this situation to the energy of the year..being that it is an 11 year and an inner reflection year....we were her mirror."

And I will add; that mirror has cracked. 

So, this situation has been resolved and this WILL NEVER happen again with this "yogi".

What a great way to end a emotional week! Sunday's class was full of light and POSITIVE energy. I am proud to say, almost one year and I have not yet had to sage the studio after class!!! Thank you for always coming to class smiling, happy, not complaining, not demanding, no criticizing and always spreading positive vibes.

Announcements and Reminders!!

Saturday, May 12 at 11:00 am is the Mother/ Daughter Workshop with Michelle and Bayley. $40 sign in on the SUKHA app and pay at the door. I am sad to announce that Brittany has decided to pause her yoga teaching career to focus on her full-time teaching job and make that her first priority. I would like to share with you what Brittany had to say in case some of you don't see her. "I want to thank you for being an incredible boss and operating an amazing studio that has such a beautiful community attached to it. I've loved teaching at SUKHA so much and I have grown so much from it." 

We will miss you. Brittany will hopefully be subbing for us.

Friday, May 18th 6:00 pm Big Hearts to Little Hearts Fundraiser at All Dolled Up Paul Mitchell Salon in Brick " A night of Wellness". Yoga, Reiki, Angel Card Readings, Playa Bowls, Local Vendors, Essential Oils and give-a-ways. $20 at the door. All proceeds go to Big Hearts.

Tuesday, May 29 7:00 pm will be a Full Moon Cord Cutting with Maryjo. $20 Check in on SUKHA app, pay at the door.

Thursday, June 7th 7:00 pm-   Clean. Green. Home.  A Free class on how to clean your home with chemical and toxic free oils. From glass cleaner to hard wood floors. I am so excited to announce that this will be held at SUKHA neighbor "A Shore Style" Unique Coastal Industrial Decor and so much more. Light refreshments will be served. Tips and DIY tricks to get your house CLEAN and GREEN. Toxic FREE. 

Personal Yogis!!!! Well, this is going to be exciting!! Just a teaser. but stay tuned for a new and exciting offer from SUKHA. 

Check the app my friends for schedule updates and changes.

May Specials!! $12 drop in or 5 classes for $50 for new guests

Gentle Yoga/Restorative with Cathy Higgins will begin Mid June. Sunday's 10:30

Monday the 4:30 pm is BACK with Destinee!!

Monday 6:30 pm CLASSIC Rewind with Maria ( this class is one time only. this week) keep checking up for new Monday evening class times)

Two for Tuesday with Bayley!!!! 9:30 am and 5:45 pm

I feel like Carol Miller!!! HA HA. LMAO

Have a great week my friends,

xoxo

 

 

 

 

The Secret to Fighting Menopause

This is part two of fighting the frightening mood swings, tire around the waist and all of the other things that comes with menopause.

Guess what ladies???

It is all what you put in your mouth.

I have been reading, and reading on this even though I am officially done, I need to share with as many of you as possible because it does not have to be horrible.

In fact, did you know that in the 1800's menopause wasn't even a thing?  It was never mentioned. Hot flashes and night sweats did not exist.

It all changed around 1950 when women were rushing to their doctors with all of the common menopausal symptoms and the doctors had no clue what to do or say. "Once the big pharma companies got wind they decided to capitalize on this and the false discovery of female hormone issues was discovered".-(Anthony Williams. Medical Medium)

How did this happen?

The crops began being sprayed and modified.  All of these symptoms are caused by the food we eat.  So, don't blame the menopause, men; don't blame the menopause. The blame is inaccurate. 

So before you start blaming menopause, start reading, learning, practicing and sharing.

A few things before I close. If you are serious about fighting the tire, the hot flashes, night sweats and mood swings; pick up "Secrets Behind Chronic and Mystery Illness and How to Finally Heal" MEDICAL Medium. Start there. But before you do, start with celery juice, eat apples, avocados, asparagus, cucumbers,leafy greens, tumeric, nettle tea, bag the dairy and the coffee. 

Don't forget about Clary Sage, Frankincense and Ylang Ylang. ALL AMAZING!!

I am officially done at 46 1/2. Found answers and not from my doctor. From reading, learning and practicing. And guess what? IT F'in works. I feel great. I was getting worried for a while.

Be determined and motivated not to get that tire, fight the "blame". You can do it!!!!

There are so many tools available for us to learn from. So before you blame menopause and dip into the ice cream and drink every night blaming menopause; think again. 

The Medical Medium Books can be found on Amazon.

Doterra Essential Oils can be purchased through my website. This month, buy a kit and get $50 in free oils next month. You don't have to sell and you don't have to buy every month. Sign up to purchase at wholesale. You won't regret it. It's the healthy way of eating, cleaning, staying young and fit. #justdoit