Chalk Talk from 2018

Have a seat at your desk, grab a pen and a notebook and take some notes. Here are a few lessons that I have learned in 2018 that will make 2019 even better.

  1. Everything starts in your gut. Illness and intuition. Listen to both very carefully.

  2. Facebook and Instagram listen to you just like Spotify. So listen carefully.

  3. Many women use the hashtag “#empowerwomen, according to stats; women scroll, men actually read, and like. Come on ladies. Get it together. We are all one!

  4. If you think they’re shady, you are probably correct.

  5. Don’t let anyone threaten you, bully you and take your money if you are not sure where it’s going.

  6. Boundaries: Have them and never let them go.

  7. Celery Juice, Yarrow Pom, Coffee Enemas!! Enough Said.

  8. Busy is negative. Productive is positive.

  9. I run my business, you mind your own.

  10. Never let social media bring you down. Connect with people outside of your bubble. There are beautiful, authentic people all over the world. Use social media to expand your bubble.

  11. High School is no joke. It has changed since 1989.

  12. Hire a study habits coach. (Helpme FIND ONE PLEASE)

  13. Stick with your philosophy. ALWAYS

  14. Church has certainly changed. Check it out! You will be surprised.

  15. Contemplative Prayer.

  16. There is a angel looking over my angel.

  17. Get your BOOBIES checked.

  18. Sports bras are painful. Coobie is like wearing nothing! (shop local)

  19. I have the coolest pets. SPIRIT ANIMALS.

  20. Find people that inspire you, not bring you down.

  21. Essential Oils work. FOR EVERYTHING.

  22. Menopause is not bad and it DOES NOT make you fat. (#1)

  23. Always remember the past, it dictates your future. Don’t get stuck there.

  24. Haters are a reflection of themselves. Keep in mind it is a sign that you are on a path towards success.

  25. Stillness.

  26. SUPERSOUL Conversations.

  27. Grey hair is another sign of authenticity.

  28. Creativity ROCKS at 4:00am. So does the algorithm.

  29. Journals are therapy.

  30. Don’t be scared to create and share. There’s a whole world out there that will find you inspiring.

  31. You never know what someone else is going through.

  32. Utah is loaded with nature, beauty and healthy places to eat.

  33. Wizard of US

  34. Grapes are good for your kidneys.

  35. Anthony Williams.

  36. Declutter your house to declutter your mind. Sometimes you need a local pro to do the job!

  37. Renting a home ROCKS!!

  38. Never let anyone take you off your path.

  39. Podcasts are fun.

  40. Doctors really don’t know much about mystery illnesses. Let’s keep it that way so they don’t put regulations on holistic healing alternatives.

  41. Chlorella is a game changer. (buy local)

  42. Holistic Healing is the way to go. Maryjo is the best!!

I hope everyone has a great holiday and the best 2019!!!

There will be bumps like every year, but keep going. Be authentic always.

Create but don’t steal. Look for genuine, real inspiration.

Smile always. Resting bitch faces are not attractive.

SHINE Bright.

Stay focused.

Be You.

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I Hope You're Somewhere Praying

Good morning!! Thank you all for joining me on my blog page. This short blog is something I rarely write about or speak about in class.

As I wake on this fall Saturday morning, I find myself in fetal position as I do everyday. I fall asleep in fetal and wake up the same way.

I say a few prayers every night before bed. One is always the same since childhood. The others are random.

Most of us may have past conditioning and beliefs about prayer. I know I did. Some outdated, old beliefs of mine were that we had to go to church to pray. Now as adults, we make our own decisions and realize at whatever age that is not the case.

My heart knows that prayer exists and I can pray anywhere and anyway I want to whoever I choose. The first thing I needed to do was clear out toxic beliefs about prayer. I remember my grandmother always praying with rosary beads by her bed, in the living room and if I remember correctly, in her house coat and of course at mass.

I have not been to church in a long time. I have considered going back, I need to find the right place with a minister or priest that is open and current to this world we live in today.

Another belief was that prayers should be said at night, on my knees by my bed.

On this Saturday morning, if you wake up in fetal position with your prayer hands on your cheek you can say this short prayer to start your day:

“Allowing my life to be held by a Love that is greater than my own thinking, I am open to this love now”.

Having awareness that LOVE is holding you provides us with a deep sense of peace and connection to the world around us.

We are on a mission to heal whatever “stuff” we have going on from the past or present day. All of this, in my opinion is not possible without some kind of prayer.

When Kelsey was struck by a car on Labor Day, the prayers never stopped. I found myself repeatedly thanking whoever was watching over her. I said “Thank You” seven times. And it continues. Every night from then on.

There are so many things I am thankful for. The list is long, but seven just sticks with me.

No matter what religion, who you pray to or how you do it. Just do it!!

Thank you all for reading and have a great weekend!!

xoxoxo

A Touch of Heaven. Infrared Sauna, Coffee Enema.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, You’ll always get what You’ve got”-Henry Ford

There are so many meanings of this and so many ways of interpretation. Today, it is being in tune with your body, listening to it, and doing something about it.

Last October, just like this October was super busy for me. Always on the go and never taking the time to sit back, say no, take a scan of myself and find stillness.. Almost exactly a year ago, I had that scare. The shooting pain in my left shoulder and racing heart. No fucking way was I having a heart attack. But then again; it’s possible. My grandfather died of a heart attack at 42.

I stayed up all night refusing to fall asleep. The last thing I wanted was to die in my sleep and have my kids find me. The next morning I dropped the kids at school and drove myself to the ER. They hooked me up ASAP!! Heart was good. The lungs not so good. They told me my pleura was inflamed and I probably had pneumonia and did not know it. Of course the scripts were thrown at me like the local high school football players and cheerleaders throw candy off the fire truck during the Thanksgiving Parade. I took them for a few days until I switched to Oregano Oil in a capsule and it worked!!!

Fast forward. Here I am again,almost exactly one year ago with the same pain, but so much worse. Is it seasonal? Stress? Or the constant going, going, going and not stopping? Who knows.What I do know is that I need to find stillness more often, say no and slow down. I have been non-stop for years. Survival mode. Going and going and always feeling great. But was I really? Maybe I was and once menopause kicked in things started to change.

As we get older, everything changes. Our hormones, our gut, our heart, our liver, our skin and pretty much almost everything. It’s not fun but it doesn’t have to be that way and keep in mind it all starts with food. Food is the foundation to our health and well being.

This year I have learned so much from such amazing, intelligent women who have guided me through gut and hormone health, liver and lung health and so much more. Attending convention was eye opening and having many conversations with Kim Traverso and of course my many visits and talks with Mary Jo Kurtz.

Mary Jo wears many hats and brings many tools in her tool box as a health and wellness coach. She has spent the last 25 years studying, exploring and educating herself and all those she comes in contact with about the endless possibilities for healing on all levels. Her approach to healing embodies the true meaning of mind, body and spirit connection. She is a Nutrition and Holistic Health Coach, a Reiki Master Teacher, an Integrative Energy Therapist, a Spiritual Counselor and Ordained Minister Practitioner who uses a myriad of holistic tools to help her clients.  On any given day Mary Jo may talk to you about Traditional Chinese Medicine, your blood type, genetics, food, fears, emotions, your chakras, toxins, your energy field or anything else. She will bring it all together to help guide you to what might be going on with you and help you choose a direction for true healing.

My last visit with Mary Jo was eye opening, relaxing and rejuvenating. As always we started with a “Touch of Heaven.” This therapy is my favorite!! Well, one of many. This therapy helps to promote healing deep within the body. Touch of Heaven is exactly that even though I don’t know what heaven is like but if I had to describe one of the feelings that I think heaven is like, this would be it.

While laying on her heated crystal far-infrared biomat Mary Jo first checked, opened and balanced all of my chakras. She then checks which essential oils my body needs before placing them along the spine and on my feet. The essential oils speak with the cells, release and restore balance and harmony. Who doesn’t need that??? If I could go once a week, I would.

Now I have done this therapy many, many times. This visit was different.

I had called Mary Jo a few days before my visit because I was not feeling good at all. I couldn't pinpoint it, but I was off. I had belly bloat, my back was bugging me, I had no coloring in my face, my eyes seemed pale as well if that is even such a thing. Emotionally, I was just off. I felt like a chilly, fall, rainy morning with a thick fog hovering over the Glimmerglass Bridge unable to see through it at any time during the day. It needed to be lifted so I can parent and teach. I needed my energy. I was craving health but I could not understand why. Gluten was removed from my diet, I hardly eat meat or dairy. I juice. Hell, I just had come back from a yoga retreat and we ate healthy.

Mary Jo added a new therapy that I find absolutely fascinating. After “Touch of Heaven” Mary Jo began to a Bio-Energy Evaluation which helps to evaluate the bio-energy field to see what might be the cause of my energy blocks - probably at the root of what’s going on with my body. In doing this she uses a combination of Direct Resonance Testing, Muscle Testing and Autonomic Response Testing. She uses the energetic frequencies of types of stressors like heavy metals and various microbial toxins like fungus, virus, bacteria, and more as well as the frequencies of things like homeopathics, vitamins, minerals and other supplements. The substances are introduced into the bio-energy-field with the help of specialized devices called Signal Enhancers. In the end Mary Jo uses a combination of all the information she gathers from the energy field to help to come up with a plan for the most effective changes that anyone can make with regard to their diet, supplements, lifestyle, thoughts, emotions and beliefs in order to make changes necessary for a more balanced and healthier life.

And then as if that were not enough! It was time for the finishing touches with a new addition to Mary Jo’s services: Infrared Sauna time!!! OMG, was it hot. But a relaxing, hot. Twenty minutes of detoxification that you don’t get in a gym or a hot yoga studio.

Infrared saunas can help increase blood circulation and release built up toxins in the body. This sweatbox helps to support the immune system, great for aches and pains, stress reliever and fatigue.

The last 5 minutes, I wanted out but I knew I needed to complete this detox so I could feel alive again.

Time was up and I was out!!! I felt slightly dizzy, but light. My skin coloring returned and the fog was lifted. Floating in heaven and sweating in a box of relaxation for detoxification. I am on my way.

And now for the conversation….

After this Mary Jo and I sat down to talk about some of the things for me to consider going forward. We talked about why food is the foundation for healing and how there is no one diet that will work for everyone. We talked about how I might be missing some important nutrients in my diet and how I could get them as well as some thing that I was eating that weren’t the best for me. We also talked about the importance of drainage in the body and how my elimination systems could be improved and organs like my liver, kidneys and my lymphatic system could be supported to work better. We discussed other toxins like viruses and infections that could be in my energy field and the importance of helping my body and immune system better maintain balance so I could feel well again.

After my evaluation we discussed what my body needed to heal. The list was long. The list included Coffee Enema!!! Yep. Coffee Enema. Now, I gave up coffee once again after I wasn’t feeling well. So I am no longer drinking it, I am now inserting it. Not for weight loss but for detoxification of the body. Coffee enemas have been around since World War 1.

After the war, intrigued by nurses experience, two German professors investigated the effects. They found that the caffeine entered the liver via the portal system and caused an increased flow of bile. This bile, in turn, allowed accumulated poisons and toxins to be released and evacuated from the body. Years later, realizing the importance of detoxification, Dr. Gerson incorporated coffee enemas in his therapy.

Now, after reading about this, I had to start. I wanted to feel better and start removing toxins from my body.

I ordered the Coffee Enema Kit from Purelife. Purelife’s coffee is air roasted and not drum roasted. Drum roasting by fire can leave a toxic residue on the bean. Their unique “Air Roast” method eliminates any chance of this happening. Clean beans are VERY important since it is going into your liver.

Day One was slightly messy. Trying to get comfortable on a tiny bathroom floor, having the enema tube pretty much flying all over the place. It was a battle for sure.

After ten minutes it was time. I was done.

Twenty minutes later, I felt awesome. I was shocked. My skin color was amazing, belly bloat was gone and I was full of energy.

I sent Maryjo a message thanking her. She advised me to continue for a few more days.

Holy Crap!!! Ha ha. A few more days??

Okay. I finally had it down. In the tub I go. More space and the tub ledge is exactly the height the enema bucket needs to be. Here’s the challenge. Holding the coffee in for 15 minutes!!! Listening  to my favorite podcasts makes the time go by as I try to make the best of my morning coffee.

As I am writing this I am laughing my “ass” off that I am actually writing about this. But I have to. Toxins must be removed from our bodies and I must share with all of you so you can hopefully do the same. There are toxins everywhere my friends. In our food, household products, skin care, and of course the environment. There are so many illnesses out there and most are caused by food and toxins. Who wants to live a long, healthy life? I know I do.

Some of you may ask why can’t we just drink our coffee? So here’s the deal: “Coffee taken orally goes through the stomach causing digestive problems and affects the liver by shutting off the bile ducts.  It also raises blood pressure and tends to cause capillary spasms in the extremities.” -Dr. Gerson

There is so much to write about this, but I will let you do your homework.

I am feeling so much better than I did. Currently still working on the inflammation of the lung lining, learning, practicing, sharing and teaching. Everyday.

Thank you Maryjo for everything!!

If you are interested in scheduling a session with Maryjo click on the link below. Maryjo will be holding a group cleanse very soon. Details to come.

I have added the link to the coffee enema kit as well via Amazon.

If you are interested in starting with essential oils, the link is below as well.

Here’s to a Happy and Healthy New Year. Why wait? Start NOW. No more excuses.




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Love Your BOOBIES!

Thank you to everyone who attended both donation classes and made donations. SUKHA hit the goal and raised $1,225!!

We Love Boobies!! Let’s save them by living a clean, healthy, toxic free life. Obviously there are some things we can’t fully control. Genetics and our environment but we can take action with preventative solutions such as diet, supplements, diet, exercise and less trips to the drug store.

The last few weeks I have been some research on our armpits and boobies and the things we can do to prevent the “C” word.

“Over 85 percent of the lymph fluid flowing from the breast drains to the armpit lymph nodes. Most of the rest drains to the nodes along the breast bone. Bras and other external tight clothing can impede flow”-Michael Schachter, MD.

If you ask any holistic women’s health Practitioner they will tell you that breast heath is a daily thing, and us women need to take it more seriously. We have so many unhealthy breast practices, from ill fitting bras to diets high in inflammatory foods and cooking oils. But no one wants to live in fear constantly right? So what can we do to help our boobies stay healthier and lymph system work well?

DILUTE and apply these three topically as often as you can:

Frankincense supports our breast heath on the cellular level, used topically or internally Frankincense has been shown to reduce instances of free radicals impacting our body, increase cellular vitality and support cellular renewal.

Clary Sage is considered the “women’s tonic herb” and it also functions as a tonic for our breasts.  Apply topically for skin support, tenderness, and circulation support.

Cypress supports normal circulation of fluids in our body. Use topically in clockwise motions aimed towards the underarms to help the lymph fluid flow and restore circulation to areas under compression from clothing.

So, for years we put deodorant on everyday, sometimes twice or three times a day not knowing exactly what harmful ingredients are in them. Here is just a little “secret” list of the toxins that may make you think about your next trip to the “drug” store when you need deodorant.

Aluminum is the ingredient in antiperspirants that actually clogs your pores and prevents sweating. Aluminum exposure has been linked with the development of Alzheimer’s disease and interferes with your estrogen levels. When your body can’t process estrogen properly, there’s a higher risk for breast and prostate cancer.

Parabens is a chemical that is used in a lot of products these days as a preservative, but it is possibly one of the most harmful additives of all. Sometimes parabens act as estrogen in your body, which disrupts hormonal balances and has been linked to breast cancer and prostate cancer

Steareths

These additives are the product of ethoxylation (weakening of harsh chemical in the manufacturing process), which simultaneously produces carcinogens and dioxanes.

Triclosan

The FDA has classified triclosan as a pesticide, yet it is in the majority of brand name deodorants. It’s used to kill bacteria in the manufacturing process, as well as when it comes in contact with your skin. When triclosan is combined with water it can also create a carcinogenic gas called chloroform.

Propylene Glycol

If used everyday, this chemical can cause damage to your central nervous system, heart and liver. It is also shown to irritate skin, especially if you have sensitive skin. Propylene glycol can be harmful at as small a percentage as 2%, yet deodorants generally have a high dose of 50% propylene glycol.

TEA and DEA

Triethanolamine (TEA) and diethanolamine (DEA) are chemicals can seep into your skin and affect your liver and kidneys. In fact, they’re so harmful that these two chemicals have already been banned from products in Europe because they are known carcinogens

It is so crazy for all these years we are buying harmful products that are advertised and marked as “clean” with a “fresh scent”.

So here’s the deal. I have tried many products that are marked natural and by hour 4 of my long day, I started to stink like a number 11 on the sub list! Until 3 weeks ago when I attended convention, purchased my kit and the first thing I tried was the new Balance deodorant from doterra. Smells amazing ALL DAY long and no chemicals!

  • Features CPTG® essential oils of Spruce, Ho Leaf, Frankincense, Blue Tansy, Blue Chamomile, and Osmanthus

  • Aluminum, paraben, phthalate, and talc free

  • Arrowroot powder aids in absorbing underarm moisture leaving you feeling fresh and dry throughout the day

  • Baking soda helps to neutralize and prevent odors

 

Starting today, I am offering a “I love my BOOBIES” special until 10/31.

If you purchase a kit, or the three “I love my BOOBIES” oil care kit, you will receive a FREE Balance Deodorant,..

Recommended kits:

Family Essential Kit $125 wholesale $166.67 retail

In this kit you receive:

5 ml bottles of frankincense, lemon, peppermint, lavender, tea tree, oregano, deep blue, digest zen, breathe, on guard. A perfect starter kit.

Aroma Touch Kit

$110 wholesale $146.67 retail

In this kit you will receive

Balance, lavender, peppermint, tea tree, wild orange, aroma touch, deep blue, on guard and fractionated coconut oil. Perfect kit for the active person. Deep Blue is a must.

Dream Tour Collection (Limited Time)

Wholesale $230

Retail $306

If you purchase the Dream Collection, you will receive a FREE month of unlimited yoga and pilates at SUKHA plus the three “I Love my BOOBIES” oils in a 5ml bottle.

This amazing kit includes: (savings of $174)

  • Green Mandarin (15ml)

  • Magnolia Touch (10mL)

  • Pink Pepper (5mL)

  • Turmeric (15mL)

  • Yarrow | Pom (15 mL)

  • doTERRA On Guard Mouth Wash (16 fl oz)

  • Copaiba Softgels (60 count)

  • doTERRA Natural Deodorant (2.65 oz)

  • doTERRA SPA Hydrating Body Mist (4.2 fl oz)

  • Kids Oil Collection

The Kids Collection is amazing for all ages. Kids or no kids. This kit is included in the Dream Collection. This kit is formulated for developing minds, bodies and emotions. Flashcards, carrying case, and carabiners included. Get the kids to start learning about what their bodies needs throughout their day.

Nature or drug store?

You can become a wholesale member (just like Costco) and receive 25% off products for a full year whenever you need to shop. If you purchase a kit the $35 membership fee is waived! FYI: As a wholesale member, you are just that. Shop whenever you want with NO OBLIGATION to sell. If you are looking to become a Wellness Advocate, I suggest becoming a wholesale member first so you can try the products and familiarize yourself with them prior to.

If you wish to pay retail, select Retail Customer.


If you are interested in any of the kits or products, please click “start here” below. Fill out your information, find the kit you are interested in, add any additional products, finalize your shipping info and you are on your way. Be sure to include my ID# 3339118 if my information did not appear.

Once you become a wholesale member, you will be added to private groups on Facebook for loads of information on these life changing products given to us from nature.

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#samehere #ditto

Happy Monday!! I hope those who have off today are finding time to relax, disconnect and take time for yourself or spend time with your family and friends.

This weekend was non-stop for me with so many great things happening at the studio. Thank you to everyone who attended the Keep A Breast Donation Class with Amy. We raised $500 towards our goal. Next class will be Sunday, 10/14 with me at 9:00 am.

Thank you to Hug Your Chaos for a powerful workshop on the Real-Life, No Bullshit way of healing our chakras.

Sunday, my dharma was inspired by so many different situations that came up for me.

The first of many was the blog written by Lori. The blog was read by many and then it happened. The comments “I had no idea”, “ We never realize how much we all have in common” and even Amy’s powerful dharma for the donation class about her story. (You can read Lori’s blog below)/ There have been so many women last week that have the same situation going on right now or have in the past.

In a nut-shell; many reactions were “me too” as well as so many other situations we find out about when we share our story.

Now “Me Too” does not always mean the most powerful and popular hash tag among women right now. It should not only be characterized by sexual harassment.

It’s everyday struggles. Struggles from the past and the present. Addiction, physical, mental abuse, anxiety, depression, weight struggles, self esteem, mommy issues, daddy issues or any form of illness or diseases.

I created this space because it allowed me to start the healing process by speaking and sharing my stories for the first time ever. Sharing and teaching what I am learning to heal wounds so I can continue to be a better mom, daughter, sister, aunt, teacher, business owner, x-wife, and girlfriend.

Healing is a life long journey and providing tools and a space so we can heal.

So, whatever it is that you are going through, I can guarantee that someone else in this room is going through the same thing. Whatever it may be. Expressing our imperfections and struggles allows people to say “it’s okay”, “me too” or maybe we should create our own hashtag!! #sameheresukha #ditto. Ha ha. Just did! #dittosukha

Remember. it’s okay to ask for help and a shoulder to lean and or cry on. Having a space and a community to share and heal; it’s a wonderful place to be.

It is also okay to not always be “FINE”. (Feelings Inside Not Expressed).

I am going to close this blog with a quote by Cheryl Strayed

“Let yourself be gutted. Let it open you. START HERE”

#sameheresukha

#dittosukha

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Countdown to 50.

I know this may sound strange since I have 1,026 days left until I turn 50, but I felt the need to write about where I am and where I’ve been and wondering where will I be on the day I turn 50. What will my life be like?

I am not sure what encouraged me to write this. Maybe it was how good it made me feel to get carded in Salt Lake City last weekend, or thinking about how lucky our children are to have so many tools to live a long, healthy life. Whatever it is, here it is…

This blog is not about looking into a crystal ball. It is a challenge. A challenge, a blog and a picture I would like to look back on in 2021 when the big 50 approaches to see how far I have come since 2018 and I encourage all of you to do the same no matter what age.

To date, I have been through a lot just like all of you. Maybe not everything, but we have all been through “stuff”. The good, the bad and the ugly.

I am a child of divorce and a daughter of an alcoholic. We grew up in bad times and good. We lived on food stamps for a short period of time living in a not so great town. My mother was strong and worked hard. My dad had a disease, struggled and lost everything. We were fortunate enough to get out of a horrible town and live where we were meant to be.

My mother worked hard. We went to private school and college. We worked and worked hard. My sister on Wall Street, my brother with a large Pharm Company and me in NYC. As I am writing this, I stopped. WOW!! Not so bad. Three kids coming from a broken home and a father with a terrible disease. We are products of divorce!! Thanks mom!! You did good. It wasn’t easy and neither was I. Thank you. We are all where we are meant to be because of you. There are days where you may feel under appreciated, but guess what? Being a mom is the most UNDERAPPRECIATED job in the world.

I feel the need to also express gratitude to my father for the experience of being a child of an alcoholic so I can share and teach. My father has been gone four years now this month. We have had a few conversations since and I am so thankful for them. It has been healing.

We are far from perfect and each of us has our crap to deal with; but I am proud. Proud of my mom and my siblings. Thank you!

Lesson: Never judge children of a broken family.

Fortunately and unfortunately, my children are children of divorce. They are amazing and I am blessed. Woody and I co-parent well and I am thankful for that. Honors, athlete, no booze or drugs, fun, healthy and happy. And they to are not perfect. No one is. They are driven and have goals and my wish is that they never loose sight.

I have seen divorce, pain, homelessness, addiction, physical, emotional, and mental abuse. I have seen poverty in India as I inspected diamonds. I have driven old cars and new. Fancy and not so fancy. I am blessed now to be doing what I am doing. On the mat and off. Hopefully inspiring, motivating and helping people as best I can because helping others is the way we help ourselves and it feels really good.

I was never a good student. I struggled in school. It never came easy to me and I am not embarrassed to say that I was not “book smart”. I am street smart. Situational awareness and the center of my own knowledge based on MY experiences, not someone else’s. I have learned how to trust my own judgement and fend for myself. The past, present and future and I encourage everyone to try to do the same. Let’s teach our kids how to be street smart.

To date, I have visited many places and this will not stop unless I am physically unable. The beauty and slums of India, the towers and art of Paris, blue waters of Turks and Caicos, green hills, and yummy Guinness of Ireland, the changing of guards and breathtaking countrysides of England, many Caribbean Islands, cruised and boozed, paddled Rincon and sunbathed topless in St. Martin. I have 18 states left to see and many countries and Islands on the list. Travel if you can. Save those quarters. Don’t waste the money at the bar when you can put it towards a trip.

I have had my heart broken and broke a few myself. This body has seen 99 lbs and 180 lbs (no tummy tuck BTW) Boobs yes. Tummy tuck no. It’s called exercise and being in tune with your body. (moral of this story: Don’t bring others down and make shit up to make yourself look good. It has the opposite effect)

We have all suffered from pain. Heartbreak to pushing for 19 hours to give birth to an angel.

There are times when you think emotional and physical pain is so bad that you just want to give up. Storms that you never think you will get through and then you open your eyes and realize “as long as you are breathing, there is more right than wrong with you no matter what is wrong”-Jon Kabat.

This beautiful, yet challenging life I have had has shaped me and encourages me everyday to be perfectly imperfect. I am learning and growing and I will until I die keeping in mind to breathe and be fully present.

In 2021, the year I turn 50, I will have one young woman in college and my young, handsome man on his way. Holy shit!!! I encourage them to see the world. Get out of the bubble. Live. Learn. Be street smart and take care of your bodies inside and out. Where will I be? Hopefully sitting here writing to follow up on this blog. I may not be physically sitting at this desk, but I will write. My hope is that my daughter follows her dream of going to college in California and my son in Florida and I will be writing this in either of those two states as I visit them. I will be proud of them with any decision they make.

As for my professional life….who knows. Taking one day at a time. Learning and sharing through yoga. Learning, sharing and teaching how to live a perfectly imperfect, authentic, natural, healthy lifestyle until I can’t go any longer. It’s going to take a lot for me to stop.

Follow your dreams. Go for it and never give up. There is still time. 40, 50, 60 and 70 on up!! It doesn’t matter.

In three years I will be 50 years old. Wiser, smarter, stronger and healthier than ever before. Maybe my life will be half over, but one thing that I will always take with me is that I have lived a life that made me who I am today. As always, I am blessed and grateful to those who pushed me, pulled me, left me, loved me, messed with me, doubted me and encouraged me. Thank you!!

The road to 50 is going to be great.

No matter what age, learn, live, grow, heal, share, practice, teach, and breathe. Take good care of yourself today and always.

“The best investment that you’ll ever make is in yourself. Never stop exploring, learning, experiencing, and becoming a better person each day”-Mo Seetubtim

Honor Your Voice to Awaken Others

Last night I listened to another amazing podcast from Oprah with Zainab Saibi. It was truly ironic that I had just posted a blog about women sharing their stories and not holding back because you never know who you can help.

Zainab Saibi is a humanitarian, author and founder of Women for Women International. Her story, her message and what she has done and continuing to do is truly amazing.

This podcast opened with “Giving Women a Voice”-Letting Women share their stories. Honoring your own voice to awaken others for new possibilities. Help heal so others are not alone”.

Mind you, I had just posted my blog and this is what I heard within minutes. I felt relieved and happy. Some may say, I should only be teaching yoga and call it a day. Why?

I was very broken and I have been putting the pieces back everyday. As I am mending myself, why would hold back from sharing with others? That is called selfish.

This blog is not about how I am going to try to save the world or that I want to be the next Oprah or Yoga Girl. I just want to be me and teach how I want to teach, learn, share and help others who are interested in doing the same through yoga, conversation, blogs, email, text message or social media. There is so much to learn. As we age, the learning does not have to stop and everyday we are offered the opportunity to learn and grow. No one “Knows it All” so don’t be one. Be open to others ideas and opinions, and always remember there is always more than one way besides your way to look at situation.

With that being said…..

Happy Menopause Monday!!

Why are so many women embarrassed to discuss menopause? There is nothing to be ashamed

of. Going through these changes does not make us less of a woman or less attractive. It may cause weight gain, crankiness, exhaustion, low sex drive, dryness, hair loss, mood swings, rashes, bloating, constipation and so many other attractive side effects.

But guess what? All of this can be controlled!! Don’t let what you read online fool you. Read the Medical Medium to find out.

About eight months ago, I decided I needed to remove gluten from my diet for a few reasons and weight loss was not one, so don’t roll your eyes. I was having extreme digestive issues and rashes on my hips. Juicing and gluten free worked!!! No more bloat, itchy rashes. I felt great.

About three weeks ago, I went bad. This summer has been challenging with cooking. The kids are rarely home so I haven’t cooked because they are out with friends. I caved. My family was in town, I went to visit my mom and HAD to have her sauce, and a few late afternoon early bird happy hours with the BF. Well, going  bad was horrible. I developed itchy rash behind both knees and a few days after, I started bleeding. CRAZY!!! I haven’t had a period in years. WTF!!!

As most of us do these days, we run to Google before the doctor. “What causes bleeding after menopause”? The answer:

Vaginal bleeding after menopause isn't normal and should be evaluated by your doctor. Post-menopausal vaginal bleeding can be caused by: Cancer of the uterus, including endometrial cancer and uterine sarcoma. ... Thinning of the tissues lining the uterus (endometrial atrophy) or vagina (vaginal atrophy)

Not the answer I was looking for, so I kept searching only to find the same response, if not worse. So I called my doc and the next morning I was having a ultrasound and three days later having a endometrial biopsy. Both tests were negative. A cyst on the ovary and a polyp on the cervix. Nothing to worry about except going back in two months for another.  

I truly believe that all of these situations are caused by food. Of course you won’t find that on Web MD. But you will find out from being fully in-tune with your body.

The Rolling Stones sang it best: “Time is on My Side” and guess what? So is menopause.

Anthony Williams states in his book, “Secrets Behind Chronic and Mystery Illness and How to Finally Heal: (BUY IT)

“Menopause is actually on your side. Believe it or not, the aging process slows down after menopause. That’s not the message that is out there. Women think of menopause as the onset of aging and age-related health problems-when in fact it’s just the opposite.”

“Women are told reproductive hormones are the fountain of youth. The irony is that your youth wasn’t in your 20’s, 30’s or 40’s. Your true youth happened before puberty. Reaching menopause is a way of reconnecting with that time. Menopause ends the reproductive system’s cycle (and its drain on your body) and brings down reproductive hormone levels. It’s the body’s natural way of slowing down aging so that you can live a long, healthy life”-Anthony Williams

How lucky am I to slow down the dreaded aging process at 47? I have now accepted this stage of my life and looking forward aging and living a happy, healthy life. Perfectly Imperfect. My way. By learning, practicing, sharing and teaching.

 

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Do You really Care.....

What people think?

There are so many people, all ages that are so worried about what others think of us. The bottom line is it truly does not matter. When we constantly worry and it causes nothing but anxiety and unnecessary stress.

This morning in class I decided to read a great blog about just this topic, take it up a notch and bust out "To Be Real" and just start dancing. Not giving a shit what anyone thought. And guess what? It felt amazing and all of the 21 peeps in the room did the same.

Why do we care about what Jane Smith from the PTO thinks about us? Why? 

It is time to UNFUCK ourselves as Hug Your Chaos has taught me, Let's re-wire our brains with positive thoughts and not negativity.

Start doing the work. Begin by digger deep within yourself because you deserve it and you should start showing the world what a beautiful human you are without trying to impress with stress.

Let's not take this the wrong way. We can and should CARE about others, their feelings and what they think. But if you find yourself becoming anxious and stressed over it, you need to figure out exactly why.

"We have an inside and an outside—an interior landscape and an exterior landscape. Our interior landscape is our subjective experience of our authentic self, while our exterior landscape is a product of our worldview. The two together create a psychosocial dynamic, but that dynamic has only one reference point, leaving us balancing self- and other-perception.

When this delicate balance shifts because we begin seeking approval, or attempting to control outcomes, we become externally focused and can literally lose sight of our essential nature. That essential nature is different from the ego-self—the self-image fed and influenced by what is outside of us. In looking out, rather than within, our sense-of-self and sense-of-place become clouded. The more we attempt to establish these sensibilities through external means, the more clouded our vision becomes and the further we get from our authentic self. Instead of being fully present in our social interactions, our thoughts and behavior become means for eliciting a response, rather than an expression of self-value.

The ego-self is a false self, a façade scripted by the demands of our context as we perceive them. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval. That need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk, which are fear-based. That fear derives from any number of sources, from our original premise concerning fear of rejection to a "less-than" mentality, all of which begs the question:

We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?

Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that, on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power, our full humanity, in the recognition that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us."-Psychology Today

Loose the stress of trying to impress. Your body knows you are not being authentic and that is causing stress and can lead to more dis-ease. And that feels so much wore than having someone dislike you.

Did you know that Ulcers are caused by fear? Fear of not being good enough because we can't stomach who we are and we rip our guts out everyday trying to please others. That's a pretty scary thought. Keep that in your mind when you are stressed over what people think of you and constantly trying to please others.

Be Real

Be You

Dance

Sing

Laugh

Smile

xoxoxox

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How Yoga Helps Women in Midlife

A few weeks ago I received a email asking if I would post a "guest blog" for Meera Watts.

Meera Watts is a yoga teacher, entrepreneur and mom. Her writing on yoga and holistic health has appeared in Elephant Journal, CureJoy, FunTimesGuide, OMtimes and others. She’s also the founder and owner of Siddhi Yoga, a yoga teacher training school based in Singapore. Siddhi Yoga runs intensive, residential trainings in India (Rishikesh, Goa and Dharamshala), Indonesia (Bali)

Once I saw the topic and read the blog it was a no brainer. "How yoga helps women in midlife"!! Duh. How could I not? I am there. After just turning 47 years young and notice what yoga has done for me and so many of my students that are mostly around the same age. Some are younger, but that's okay because guess what girls?? Time flies and you will be "midlife" before you know it. I am so proud of all of the young men and women that get on their mats at such a young age and overly impressed by the ones who really get it and not just for the leggings and the "trend".

With that being said, it is my pleasure to post this great blog written by Meera Watts.

Going through midlife isn't easy. It's that point where you suddenly feel trapped, tired, and miserable. It's like time sucked your enthusiasm and you're left clueless about what to do with your life.

For women, midlife can be twice as challenging. This is why most of them try so hard to hide from it and avoid talking about it. They refuse to acknowledge the changes they are going through and that makes things a lot harder.

This is where yoga becomes beneficial. If you're still not doing it, here are some of the most important benefits you're missing out.

Stress management

Stress is something you can't easily avoid. Whether it's at work or at home, you're bound to experience stressful situations that can make you feel worse.

The problem with stress is that it can make your decision making and problem-solving skills dull. It can even make you physically ill.

By performing yoga on a daily basis, you'll be able to increase your feel-good hormones while lowering the levels of the stress hormone cortisol in your body. When the hormones and chemicals in your body return to their normal levels, your body will  be able to experience balance which can improve your overall health.

Improve your bodily functions

As you age, your body experiences a decline in function. This puts you at an increased risk for several illnesses, like diabetes and heart diseases.

By putting your mind and body in a relaxed state, both your blood pressure and blood sugar become lower. Even the hormones that affect the way your blood clots and heart pumps become more stable.

Better sleep

Insomnia and other sleep problems tend to get worse with age. As you constantly worry about your work, family, health, and finances, sleep becomes less and less satisfying for you. A busy work schedule can also make it hard for you to get proper sleep.

And when you fail to get enough sleep, a lot of health problems come up. Even your mood becomes affected that you become chronically grumpy. You'll find it hard to stay focused and calm, too.

Yoga has this unique way of making it easier for one to fall asleep. It can even improve the quality of sleep so you can wake up feeling well rested and rejuvenated.

Better fitness

Because of the changes women experience in their body during their midlife years, it's perfectly normal for them to feel frightened about going out and exercising. There's always the fear of getting injured or creating more harm than good.

However, contrary to what most women believe in, yoga isn't entirely bad once you reach your midlife years. Unless you have spine problems or issues with balance, it's totally safe for you to practice yoga. It's actually a great way to stay in shape, particularly if you aren’t a fan of intense workout routines.

Increases energy

Your midlife years mark the moment when most of your body processes slow down. As a result, you get tired easily and you start to lose energy. Partnered with stress, your energy levels can get worse.

There are yoga poses you can do to combat stress and improve your energy.

The Cobra Pose is one great example. It opens up 4 chakras within your body while reducing stress, tension, and fatigue. The Downward Dog, Bow Pose, Shoulder Stand, and Fish Pose are excellent options as well.

Take note that although those poses can boost your energy, they aren’t for everyone. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you, consider consulting your doctor or yoga instructor.

In Conclusion

Yoga offers tons of benefits and most of us are already aware of that. For women in midlife, however, they are extra helpful. From enhancing their sleep quality to boosting their overall health, practicing it on a daily basis can make the process a lot less stressful and easier to cope with.

Of course, you’ll need patience and dedication before you see results. While yoga is effective, it’s still not an overnight miracle. You need to be consistent in practicing it on a daily basis.


 

A Better Boat

It’s that time of year again but this year I decided not to count the minutes, the days or the months that I have been here on this earth. (But I may do a cute post with a sign that says how many months old I am) ha

Counting just makes it seem that much longer and make the hand on the clock move that much faster. I am learning to try and slow the fuck down. I breathe in, I breathe out.

I started writing this blog a few days before my 47th birthday. For the simple reason of time. It flies by, there is not enough of it, time is precious, of the essence, an illusion, on my side, it heals wounds, time is not wasted if you enjoy doing what you are doing. And that is EXACTLY it. I am enjoying everything that I am doing.

This past year I have learned so much personally and professionally. I have dug deep and looked on the inside on what I needed to work on, what my triggers are and the things I need to fix to continue to evolve. And I have done the same with others. I have felt their energy, sadness and fear, happiness and relief, bitterness and resentment. Authenticity and fake. It was a year of digging, learning and clearing. I have increased awareness to interpret myself and others much deeper than before on so many different levels. And I wanted to share what I have learned during year 46.

Lately, it has been the onion and the mask. Reading, thinking and trying to figure it all out. Let’s remove the first layer of the onion my friends. Take off the mask. Behave and appear the same everyday and everywhere. Stop hiding your authentic self. Although I have seen many “true colors shining through” this last year. Do the inner work!! Once you dig you will realize what a great person you are. Lose the ego. Peel back the layers and be yourself. Stop following the crowds, and show up where you want, when you want and most importantly walk in without a mask. Throw it in the trash. Because guess what? That is exactly where it belongs.. And I don’t give a shit what town or county you live in or what car you drive or how big your house is. You are all amazing, beautiful beings. Show the real you. Thinka bout this...After the mask comes off, begin peeling off all of the layers. What's left?

" I ain't lonely, but I spend a lot of time alone. More than I'd like too. But I'm okay with staying home. My how the last few months have changed. I'm smiling more despite the pain"

Yes!! I am not sure what happened. From extrovert to introvert!! I am actually proud to have this come out of mouth. Most treat introverts as weird  or a personality trait. Some just get physically exhausted by spending a lot of time with other people. I have found that I need alone time to rest and recharge so I can continue to do what I do everyday. I sit and enjoy life without being in constant motion with others. Maybe it's because I am now 100% aware and tapped into those who are authentic and those who are not and I prefer to be around authenticity. I choose wisely.

Happy Hump Day, July 18th. I am back continuing the blog for what I have learned during year 46.There is so much I want to write and it may just be a mish mosh of crap so bare with me.

Let’s go back to 1973. I was two years old and I specifically remember watching The Wizard of Oz belly down with my hands under my chin, close to the big, old school, hand channel changer tv with 2, 4,5, 7, 11 and 13. I buried my head everytime that scary, green faced, screechy wicked witch with those cheesy long ass nails would come on the screen. It didn't take so long for me to stare at the screen and look her straight in the eyes. After 45 years of watching this movie over and over again I always found a new meaning. A deeper meaning. But nothing as deep as this amazing book I discovered just a few months ago. I have shared it in class but feel the need to share it today, on my 47th Birthday. This movie is a part of me. It always was and always will be.

“It is a story we remember, believe, and cherish in our hearts. To each generation, the story rises and blooms anew in the psyche. It is a story invested with all of our potentials and highest ideals, as well as our shadows and terrors.  It speaks to the basic human need for companionship. It is innocent and sincere. As it remembers a golden age in our past, it simultaneously portrays a technological golden age in the immediate future. We find the security of place, the assurance that we have in us a sufficiently of capacities to confront evil and survive, and the ability to trust in our own enormous untapped potentials.  Then, like Dorothy, we can come back and re-green the wasteland, the Kansas of our lives. We are OZ. In any mythic structure we may identify with the hero, but in truth we contain all of the characters. Dorothy might be any one of us. Or we might be the Tin Man in our longing to feel loving connections, the Scarecrow seeking our true intelligence, or the Cowardly Lion seeking courage. We contain the Great and Powerful Wizard. What would happen if we dared to dip into this high and holy magic within ourselves??”-The Wizard of Us.

This movie has so many lessons that so many of us can learn from and The Wizard of Us is one book that I am learning from everyday. It just makes sense to me. I can relate 100%.

For many years on this earth, I cared so much of what others thought of me. The last few, specifically this last I have finally removed that completely out of my head. It no longer exists. Theo Roosevelt said it best “I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do” That is character!”

I have taken the time to really figure out who I would like in my life. Those who I value, respect and trust and those who respect and value me just the same. Those who are real, who lead and don’t follow. The people who can understand and accept decisions I have made or need to make and some were harder than others that’s for sure. Each decision has been a true lesson and wake up call that goes back to wearing masks and living a truly authentic life. I have made a commitment to myself to send only love, kindness and sympathy to those who portrayed themselves to be something they are not. I have let go of the situations that have occured. From phony emails and phone calls to cards and letters blowing smoke up my ass saying how much I changed their lives and then once things didn’t go their way; the real people under those masks appeared.

“A balanced individual is free to make the choice to change something if they’re comfortable with feedback that may be unflattering”-Wayne Dyer

Oh boy, did I get feedback. Ha ha.

I will continue to go on a rampage of appreciation rather than discussing the evils of the world and take every opportunity to continue to radiate joy whether you are on my side or not. Today, as I am approaching my 47th birthday I am sending nothing but hug and kisses to the evils of my world and everyday hope that halos are given and pitchforks are thrown in the trash along with the masks. Thank you for the lessons.

Boundaries.

Now this has taken a long time for sure and I am still working on it and the first step has been to practice self-awareness personally and professionally. SUKHA is a place of business and not a free for all. I will no longer allow a student or teacher to dictate or demand how I operate. I am always open to suggestions and there is now a suggestion box in the studio. In the beginning of my journey I have let too much get by. I have had past students drive to my house and threaten me if I raised prices, I have had negative comments thrown at me if I did not come around with oils, etc...Of course we all know people such as these have so much inner work to do. They just don’t seem to get the true meaning of yoga. With that being said, in November of 2017, I had felt like I failed as a teacher. With the number one thing coming to mind-”Did they not listen to ANY of my dharma talks? Holy shit, all the time and preparation and they still don’t get it but that’s okay. I get it now. I now fully understand that not everyone thinks they have healing to do and that many only think of yoga for the physical benefit or a social hour. Some people make situations so easy to walk away from. (Especially when you have a bird chirping in your ear front and center that likes to stir the pot)

I will continue to share even if some don’t fully understand the real reason why I am here

and what I am teaching and sharing. I congratulate everyone of my students who are on their authentic journey and practice yoga for the work-in.

As far as the personal boundaries go, well; I believe I am almost there with certain people that will unfortunately be in my life for a long time.

"I breathe in. I breathe out. What ain't working, what's still hurting. All the things I feel like cussing out."

Always remember, no person, no place, and no thing has any power over you, for you are the only thinker in the situations you create. When you create peace, harmony and balance in your mind you will find it in your life.
 

Competition.

It is only a word. Something I do not want to participate in. When I first opened SUKHA I was expecting peace, love and happiness from all and that was not the case. But again. That’s okay.  When it comes to the “C” word the best thing for me to do is mind my own business and that is exactly how I operate. I still struggle with others stealing Intellectual Property. Everyday I try to now to send peace to those who can’t seem to think for themselves, it’s been challenging, but I’m getting there. I am always flattered, but it still gets me heated. The hours and time brainstorming for someone else to steal? Ugh.

From the bottom of my heart, all yogis are welcome to SUKHA to practice. Not to spy,or have any alternative motive but to practice. And keep in the back of your mind that SUKHA is not only for beginners and we leave egos at the door and continue to keep it real. On the mat and off. On the screen and off. My wish is for yoga instructors all over the world to share this beautiful practice with as many people as possible and from the  heart, I wish you all nothing but the best on this magical, yet challenging venture. Always remember to be yourself. Teach how you want to teach and what feels right to you. Be your authentic self and teach that way. Let go of the script and teach from your heart. Your book and your lessons. Make people smile.

Healing.

Even at this age I am healing every freakin day. Healing from old wounds, present day bruises and learning to accept things that I can’t change.

I am trying to figure myself out and this is just the emotional healing. What I have learned is that any physical problems are caused from emotional issues that we carry and hold on to and I have many. This year I have found the root cause of a few and have found ways to heal through juice, essential oils, and making a change to my diet and letting go and removing blockages caused by people, places, and food.

To end this mish mosh of a blog, I would like to end with this:

I am proud of my flaws and I have so many and I will continue to work on them everyday.

I breathe in. I breathe out.

“We are each responsible for all of our experiences.

Every thought we think is our future.

The point of power is always in the present moment.

Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt.

The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough”.

It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

We create every so-called illness in our body.

Resentment, criticism, and guilt are the most damaging patterns.

Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer.

We must release the past and forgive everyone.

We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves.

Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are keys to positive change.

When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”-Louise Hay

Thank you for reading, learning, practicing and sharing with me everyday. It’s going to be a great ride and I wouldn’t jump off just yet if I were you. :)

"I think I'm stronger than I was. I breathe in, I breathe out. I got friends to call who let me talk about. What ain't working, what'still hurting. All the things I feel like cussing out. Now and then I let go around the waves I can't control. I'm learning how to build a better boat"-Kenny Chesney

Listen to it here. It's a good one! (Amy may even like it) :)

 

 

A Blog about a Boutonniere

I felt the need to write last night. My mind was non-stop. I knew what was on my mind, but not sure how to get it all out.

Last night was the 8th Grade Dance. The "Last Dance".

For months, Patrick was going solo until the day before. Kelsey and I were thrilled by who decided to ask a beautiful and smart young lady, but as a busy mom, last minute running around is not fun. But this time it was. Shoes, a tie, a hair cut and bonding. Late Monday night it dawned on me about FLOWERS!! Crap. Amy to the rescue! The first thought was a Succulent for Patrick. Not sure why, but it was the first thought and it was perfect. Keeping reading on how it all comes together.

My stomach was torn up with emotions that as always, I held back. This is hitting me pretty hard. High School. College. Life. My baby. The man of my house. 

Anyway, the night went like this....

5:30 pm pictures at my house with Patrick, Kelsey, Woody and I. The Perfectly Imperfect Divorced Parents. The tide was up and the train was flying by. The ducks, the birds, the perfect breeze and two sets of the most beautiful blue eyes a brown eyed mother would only have look at her in her dreams. Smiling, making jokes and of course hitting one another on a creaky, old, white-washed gazebo that is just perfect at high tide and mucky and buggy at low tide with the train still cruising by no matter what. I love the train and I love mud. No mud. No lotus. You first have to sit in the mud. In life's terms, the work and suffering that we put in are what yield in return, the reward. (I don't mean a bigger house or money. For me anyway.)

You see, when I first moved to Brielle someone asked me, "Where do you live"? I was confused because our kids both went to Brielle and you have to be a resident. I answered. Her response."Oh, "over there". Slightly taken back by response I asked what exactly does that mean? Response "On the "Other Side of the Tracks". Tracks? What Tracks? The Rail Road Tracks? You see I love the train. My grandmother lived in the Bronx. No air, windows always open, the sounds of horns honking and the train chugging, hissing, screeching and whistling. Music to my ears!! A small home, by the tracks, low tide or hide, it doesn't matter. Less is more. Noise can be calming. Silence and sterile can be sad and lonely.

Still torn about the reasoning for this blog I was starring at the Instagram post I posted on my personal page. swiping and swiping. Looking and thinking about the afternoon, the "photo party in the hills", the breathtaking view, the beautiful young teens, the parents, and my son and his friends. Then I figured it all out. It all came together.

The first photo is Patrick and I on the gazebo with the tracks and the "creek" in the background, the second was Patrick and his date on the River up in "the hills", the third photo is Patrick and his two friends, then Lilly and Patrick, Kesley and Patrick and Patrick solo.

You see the three boys in the photo are all sons of hardworking, very strong, single moms that continue to work their asses off for their children and continue to thrive everyday.

 Next pic....LILLY!!!! Patrick and Lilly have been best friends for years. They are one! Most Athletic and friends until the end. I admire and look up to this young lady so much than I can say or write in any blog or any book. Before I continue I want to say that from the teens I did see, everyone looked beautiful and handsome, but Lilly stole the show!!! Classic white button down, pink khaki pants, a low, wind blown pony, clear, bright, natural ,glowing, freckled skin and a smile that projected her confidence across the river. Come to find out Patrick and Lilly spoke the evening before about the dance. She did not want to go. I am not sure of the entire conversation, but what I do know is, real friends stick together. Through the mud and the rough waters. Friends help each other up when they are feeling down. Friends are confidence boosters and a support system. Lilly, continue to be you. Less is more. Walk with your head high ALWAYS.

Still confused about this blog? So am I. Here's the deal.....

SUCCULENTS.

They are difficult to kill and require little maintenance.

 

They are grown as ornamental plants because of their striking and unusual appearance.

They survive in HARSH climates.

They're reflections and reminders of our existence and consciousness. The colorful leaves brighten up any room. They are living Mandalas. (means circle in Sanskrit)

The circle center of our power is the third chakra. Solar Plexus. It is the center of will power, personal power, confidence, responsibility, reliability, self-esteem and warmth in your personality.

Succulents and Mandalas. Both like art, just like every photo that I described. We overcome situations that gives us a clear opportunity for doing things in ways we have always known we should do. We learn how to make it work by making it work. Just like three single moms, a teen putting it all together within one day  and a natural beauty inside and out, showing up. HER WAY.

Lastly....

No mud. No Lotus.

"Most people are afraid of suffering. But suffering is a kind of mud to help the lotus flower of happiness grow".

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong,

 

The happy, single mom, living on the tracks in the mud. 

Proudly.

 

Be a Succulent

Wonder Woman or Washing Machine

What role do you play? How do you want your children to remember you?

Getting it all done. Being in two different places at the same time. This is nothing new because I have been doing it for over a decade with no complaints. Just get up and GO!! FLY. Everyday. For this is the life I chose and to be honest, this is the life I love. Some days are harder than others and on the dark days I would like to fly up, up and away. I push through and carry on, surround myself with like minded people who truly want to prosper in life and looking to improve themselves everyday just like Super Heroes. Eliminating Villains and keeping "Super Friends". Unfortunately, for every genuine person you meet, there is always the opposite. There will be one or more people that appear as an evil force spreading their negative influence on whoever will listen to make things difficult. By being a "super" person with a positive mind and outlook, you will always come out on top.

A few things inspired me to write this blog. How I was feeling Sunday night and a few things that I heard and read about. 

How do you want your children to see you now and what will they say when you are gone? As a hero or a 1950's housewife/Washing Machine? I guess it can be both but.....

I choose the cape and wristbands. Maybe because lipstick,  pressed skirts, fancy clothes and afternoon tea (which is not the local drink of choice), is not my thing and having the sense of feeling worthy and not boring is. (Without judgement. To each is own.)

I chose to empower my kids. And with power comes the responsibility of being super. To have a normal life. To have a career and have fun and basically live a regular, genuine life with super powers so they can be stronger than reality and overcome obstacles and stand up for themselves and to all villains . To be mentally strong like steel. To speak their truth always and have enhanced senses/intuition and trust it.

I want them to remember me as someone who can do it all (not only as the washing machine a maid and a cook), so they know that they can be and do anything they want. Follow their dreams and do whatever comes their way, even if it does include laundry but not to leave that as a lasting impression.

All superheros have weaknesses and I want them to recognize those which I know they do. Slowly we learn to use our strengths to overcome our weaknesses, work through all conflicts the dark and light ones; the good and the evil. To conquer any challenge and obstacle that they may face. To be fearless and empower others.

"Wonder Woman is not fiction. She is a state of mind"

"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable"-Chrsitopher Reeve

Be a super person. Not a Villain.

What will your legacy be? Leave an impact of being a super person. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salted Gems, Yoga and Meditation

You do not need to be a yogi to join us for a very special evening on the beach for a yoga/meditation essential oil class.

Combing essential oils with your yoga and meditation practice is a great way to support your body, let go of all of the negative thoughts, uplift your confidence, promote happiness, clarity and courage.

During meditation, combing crystals with essential oils will assist you in clearing any blocked chakras you may have.

You will learn about the top ten oils, the uses and Benefits and how to start living a healthy, vibrant lifestyle with certified pure therapeutic grade oils.

Join us on June 21st at 6:30 pm.

Meet up at Salted Gems then we will walk to the beach for meditation and yoga
$10 per person

906 Grand Central Ave.

Lavallette

The Secret to Fighting Menopause

This is part two of fighting the frightening mood swings, tire around the waist and all of the other things that comes with menopause.

Guess what ladies???

It is all what you put in your mouth.

I have been reading, and reading on this even though I am officially done, I need to share with as many of you as possible because it does not have to be horrible.

In fact, did you know that in the 1800's menopause wasn't even a thing?  It was never mentioned. Hot flashes and night sweats did not exist.

It all changed around 1950 when women were rushing to their doctors with all of the common menopausal symptoms and the doctors had no clue what to do or say. "Once the big pharma companies got wind they decided to capitalize on this and the false discovery of female hormone issues was discovered".-(Anthony Williams. Medical Medium)

How did this happen?

The crops began being sprayed and modified.  All of these symptoms are caused by the food we eat.  So, don't blame the menopause, men; don't blame the menopause. The blame is inaccurate. 

So before you start blaming menopause, start reading, learning, practicing and sharing.

A few things before I close. If you are serious about fighting the tire, the hot flashes, night sweats and mood swings; pick up "Secrets Behind Chronic and Mystery Illness and How to Finally Heal" MEDICAL Medium. Start there. But before you do, start with celery juice, eat apples, avocados, asparagus, cucumbers,leafy greens, tumeric, nettle tea, bag the dairy and the coffee. 

Don't forget about Clary Sage, Frankincense and Ylang Ylang. ALL AMAZING!!

I am officially done at 46 1/2. Found answers and not from my doctor. From reading, learning and practicing. And guess what? IT F'in works. I feel great. I was getting worried for a while.

Be determined and motivated not to get that tire, fight the "blame". You can do it!!!!

There are so many tools available for us to learn from. So before you blame menopause and dip into the ice cream and drink every night blaming menopause; think again. 

The Medical Medium Books can be found on Amazon.

Doterra Essential Oils can be purchased through my website. This month, buy a kit and get $50 in free oils next month. You don't have to sell and you don't have to buy every month. Sign up to purchase at wholesale. You won't regret it. It's the healthy way of eating, cleaning, staying young and fit. #justdoit

 

If you think you know it all, you are not listening..

What a great quote!!

Learning, practicing, sharing and teaching has been my mantra the last week thanks to two text messages that made my day.

I have said it before and I will repeat it again; it doesn't matter how old you are, how many degrees or certifications you have; how much money you make or have in the bank. We have to continue to learn. If not, learn to learn, learn to practice, share and teach. If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

This is for everyone. Especially the "know it all's". UGH. Now there's one on my pet peeve list. No one knows it all. There is so much out there to learn. Stop dismissing opinions, comments, ideas or suggestions of others. 

There is so much to learn about in this life and as I am approaching 47, I want to learn more now than I ever have. Obviously, time is a factor, but I am finding the time either at 5:00 am or 5:00 pm. Whenever I have a few extra minutes or an hour.

Mother, yoga instructor, business owner, daughter, sister, friend. Still learning everyday on how to be better at all of the above. I will never be perfect, and that's okay. There is NO SUCH THING. Nobody has a perfect yoga practice (I don't care what fancy pics you see on social media), daughter, boss, business owner and definitely a perfect parent. If you think you are, write a book and please share.

Everyday I am listening and learning from people, books, pod casts and blogs. Two years ago I was introduced to essential oils. I loved the smell and purchased a kit not really knowing exactly all of the amazing benefits. I used them in my yoga classes. As a few months went on, I continued doing homework, listening to a friend about the benefits, reading her posts and digging deeper. I then started using them on my face, neck and chest. Then colds, sore muscles. And holy shit!!! They work. 

Did you know that doTerra oils are pure plant derivatives, with no pesticides or fillers and have the highest quality testing and can be ingested? The oils in Whole Foods and other companies are not pure. Who knew? Now I do. I am learning, practicing, sharing and teaching. One drop of lemon oil is equivalent of 20 squeezed lemons! Our sense of smell is so powerful, and immediately upon breathing in an oil, this purifying and calming effect begins to work the limbic system of the brain that deals with; emotions, memories and stimulation. This system connects parts of the brain that deals with high and low functions for thinking and movement.

Now there's some interesting facts that I bet you did not know. 

What has essential oils done for me? The list is long. But first, my skin. Tighter, smaller pores, crows feet lines are reduced, my skin tone is more even especially on my forehead where I had major sun damage, and the wrinkles on my chest have reduced tremendously.

I share what I learn, so I am sharing with you.

Join me Friday May 5th at 6:00 pm for a FREE one hour information session on using essential oils for your skin. The oils I have been using and I will review the top 10 doTerra oils. These oils can be use aromatic, topically, internally and in the home. Safe and kid and pet friendly. 

There is no obligation to purchase anything. Come and LEARN. 

Fall in love with taking care of yourself-Mind-Body-Spirit

Teach and show your children how to do the same. The environment is not getting any better and the food is not either. Teach them to eat the right foods, exercise and take care of that beautiful skin. 

Visit the SUKHA South Facebook page under events to see the before and after pictures :)

 Visit the FREE SUKHA app to check in.

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong

 

 

 

How Two Text Messages Made My Day

This Tuesday after my 9:30 am class, as always I am so f'in happy and feeling; well; pretty f'in good. We all chat after class for a few minutes about stuff. Lots of stuff. Celery, oils, kids, and life in general. After everyone left and I ventured over to see Alison at her new store a few doors down. And what a beautiful store it is BTW.

As we were chatting I received a text message. A very, very, nice text message. At first I was confused as to why I was getting it.

As I was driving home, another message came through. Another very, very, nice text message. I said to myself "WTF"! What did I do? What did I say? I honestly could not think of why I received two sweet text messages within 2 hours. I checked my social media accounts to see what I posted. I was still confused. Normal stuff. Yoga, me, sharing what I am learning and sharing. Whatever it was; those messages made me feel really good. (Text is at bottom of blog)

Both of these text messages did not come from people who practice at SUKHA. One has been twice, and the other has never been to Brick.

Then I thought about it. Mabye it was the posts and what I was sharing.

Why am I sharing this? Well, you see I teach yoga because I want people to feel good no matter what age, size or what they wear. I am sharing the practice and other practices that I am doing or in the process of doing so we can all live the healthiest and happiest life. 

Shit, it isn't easy as we age, but we need to prevent aging and illness the best we can. Whatever I learn, I share in class or on social media. I may post three times a day or I may not post for a few days. Sometimes the post may get 30 likes sometimes 111. The numbers do not matter to me. What matters is that the post about yoga, a quote, food, oils, skin care, or my son playing a sport reaches people. Reaching people to learn, practice, to be healthy, happy and grow. My posts come from the heart and I say it like it is. Sometimes it may come out harsh or bitchy but it all depends on how it is being read and by who.

If I post a quote, it means something to me and I feel it may strike a cord with someone else. 

By sharing your stories, experiences and lessons you have learned you are providing an opportunity for people to learn. You can take what you want, ask questions,  and choose what you want to act upon. 

LEARN-APPLY-SHARE-TEACH but do it AUTHENTICALLY. Your way. Authenticity is meant to be imperfect. If you mess up, that's okay. If you can't do a pose, that's okay. If you have a crappy day; well, WE ALL DO. Even the Instagram Famous have bad days.They may not post it, or some write way too much. Authenticity is not an image. Authenticity for some is still having a closed heart chakra that won't bust open, dropping the F Bomb often, working hard, being slightly selfish at times and forgetting to call your mother back. 

Own your life. Own your experiences and own how you feel about those experiences.

Tips from others and experiences are all around us. Everyone has a story  that we can learn and grow from. Some will come from people with years of experience, and others that are just learning and sharing as they go along. :) 

What you think is a minor aspect of your story might just be exactly what someone else needs to move forward.

So, be authentic, learn, apply what you learn, share and teach. Remember this is not only pertaining to yoga. Although yoga is LIFE. Practice, learn, apply and share on what you learn about life.

Before I close, I want to say that I have been posting and saying for years BE YOU. I came across a note/quote that says " I would say to be yourself, but it's too cliche', so instead I will say to own yourself, and to own your life"

Thank you again to the two amazing women who sent me the text messages. Although we live in the same town and we don't see each other all that much; you are AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL! 

be happy

be healthy

be strong

own yourself,

xoxox

 

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Cleansing, Calming, Breathing and Overall Wellness

So here's the deal!!! And what a deal it is....

doTerra has a great promotion for the month of April where you can get $50 worth of FREE oils of your choice with any starter kit purchase.

If you are loving the oils, attending the Essential Oil workshop at SUKHA, read posts and all information about these oils and still unsure, NOW is the time to get some additional FREE oils.

You will NOT BE disappointed. The uses are endless. Younger looking skin, digestion, congestion, hormones, acne, skin rashes, bug bites, bug replant, sore throat, sinus infections, inflammation, cradle cap, lice, warts, headaches, motion sickness, hair care, sore muscles, bloating, cellulite, canker sores, bruising, high cholesterol, fatigue, hyperactivity, hives, bacterial and viral infections, hiccups, hemorrhoids, mucus, menstrual cramps, toxic liver, influenza, fevers, food poisoning, strep throat, oral care, joint pain and stiffness, hair loss, diverticulosis, bursitis, sagging skin, lack of libido, ADD, autism, bed bugs, UTI, Crohn's, shall I go on??? There is more.

We need to address our overall health. Mind, Body and Soul. Cleanse, nourish and support these amazing vessels in which we live.

There are three ways to apply these oils in your life.

Aromatic, Topically, and Internal.

You will have no regrets. Start making changes to your life. A happy, healthy, strong, clean, life.

If you are interested in purchasing your kit during the month of April, please email or call me or you can go directly to: www.mydoterra.com/maribethwoodford

Yesterday's Wisdom, Tomorrow's Destiny

I am not sure why it has taken me so long to write, promote and share about what I want to share with all of you. Maybe because I have done this for years, see so many people doing it, receiving emails from people asking me to help them promote the company they are selling for. Directly or indirectly. (Directly is always best)

I get it. I have been with many direct sales companies before. It is not easy and it certainly becomes overwhelming and can be slightly annoying. Party this, indirect schemes, and people maybe coming to your place of business just to get in front of groups of people to see how it can benefit them.

So here's the deal, I think direct sales is awesome. I started with a skin care line back in 2006 before I got divorced. I needed to start saving money and to be honest I needed to get out of the house. I was passionate about the products. I worked hard to make it work. And it did. I was passionate, not pushy and very honest. 

A few years ago when I started my yoga practice, I tried essential oils. For myself and to share with my students. I have been hooked every since. I place a drop on my students third eye before class, maybe a foot massage, and a cold wash cloth after class with lavender. I did this to make my students feel good. I never promoted. Never announced. Never asked if anyone was interested in buying or selling. I just wanted my students to feel as good as I do when experiencing essential oils. If they asked, I told them.

Fast forward to present day. After learning more and more and healing with essential oils; it is time to really share the crap out of these life changing oils.

Starting with lavender for sleeping, peppermint for congestion and my sons smelly sneakers, lemon for my water to oregano oil for inflammation of my pluera. Not to mention cooking, sore muscles, fine lines and wrinkles, cleaning the house, hormone balance and diffusing. The list is long.

Essential Oils-The Missing Link in Modern Medicine

Plants not only play a vital role in the ecological balance of our planet, but they have also been intimately linked to the phyiscal, emotional, and spiritual well-being of mankind since the beginning of time.

The plant kingdom continues to be the subject of an enormous amount of research and discovery. Most often prescription drugs are based on naturally occurring compounds from plants. Each year millions of dollars are allocated to private labs and universities that are searching for new therapeutic compounds that lie undiscovered in the bark, roots, flowers, seeds, and foliage of jungle canopies; river bottoms; forests; hillsides; and vast wilderness regions throughout the world.

Essential oils and plant extracts have been woven into history since the beginning of time and are considered by many the missing link in modern medicine.  They have been used medicinally to kill bacteria, fungi, and viruses and to combat insect, bug and snake bites in addition to treating all kinds of mysterious maladies.  Oils and extracts stimulate tissue and nerve regeneration.

Essential oils also provide exquisite fragrances to balance mood, lift spirits, dispel negative emotions and create a romantic atmosphere.

This is not a trend my friends.

Essential oils are know as Man's First Medicine! From ancient writings and traditions, it seems that aromatics were used for religious rituals, the treatment of illness and other physical and spitiutal needs, They say that the people of ancient times had a greater understanding of esstial oils than we have today.

The reintroduction of essential oils into modern medicine first began during the late 19th and early 20th centuries.  During World War 1, the use of aromatic essences in civilian and military hospitals became widespread. Essential oils were used extensively for their antibacterial and wound-healing properties and developed several kinds of aromatic ointments. 

A few more little pieces of information regarding essential oils vs pharmaceutical drugs that I would like to share before I finish. (my brother may not like this) ha ha 25 plus at J & J

They both have different effects on the body. Drugs usually infiltrate our bodies while having a toxic effect but essential oils on the other hand have a detoxifying effect. Pharm drugs are not really able to provide clear information for receptor sites while oils actually perform the right operations for the receptors.  Drugs usually don't provide any coverage for the immune system while oils are constantly trying to provide strength. For example, antibiotics will battle both good and bad bacteria, but essential oils will only battle the bad ones, allowing our body to maintain a strong immune system.

The information on essential oils is never ending. There is so much out there to read on these oils. It is truly amazing.

Doterra oils are carefully and thoroughly tested using the strict CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade quality protocol. If you are experienced with essential oils, you will immediately recognize the superior quality standard for safe, purely effective therapeutic-grade doterra essential oils.

Before I stop writing; I want to share with you my favorite oils.

Frankincense-Part of my skin care!!! Emotional and hormonal balance, healthy immune system, blend it and diffuse it for a peaceful and spiritual environment.

Sleep!!- Lavender for sleep and dark circles, and tired, puffy eyes.

Peppermint-Stomach aches, headaches, respiratory, tight and sore muscles, bad breathe.

Oregano- Sinus, arthritis, inflammation, prevents infections, anti-fungal

Geranium Oil- SKIN!!! Amzing, clear, beautiful, young skin!!! Balances hormones, alleviates effects of menopause.

Lemon- Respiratory, household cleaner, add to water to support healthy respiratory function

Wild Orange- Circulatory stimulant, insomnia, fluid retention, wrinkles and fine lines, household cleaner

Rosemary-Liver-protector, anti-cancer, mental clarity, anti fungal, anti bacterial

Ylang Ylang-  HORMONES!! Balances male-female energies, enhances spiritual attunement, combats anger and low self-esteem, hair loss

Clove- anti-inflammatory, sore throat, stomach issues, sinus and lungs, toothaches, acne, numbs pain (waxing)

Ginger-Muscular aches, arthritis, digestive aid, congestion

I have so many more and I will be posting often. I always say that I share what I believe in; so that is what I am going to do. We are not getting any younger, take care of your body the natural way. Who wants to look their age? Who wants to look their age without spending a shit load of money on expensive skin care products? Less is more in my opinion. I don't remember the last time I really wore makeup. Who needs it? Luckily, not me at 46 1/2. Maybe some mascara. Some is genetics and most is self care. I use coconut oil mixed with frankincense or geranium. Two drops. A bottle lasts a very long time. Use it on your face, diffuse it, drink it, clean with it. So many uses for these oils for these oils without breaking the bank because they have multiple uses. So you can trash your toxic household cleaners, stop wasting money on spices that will eventually go bad and stop dropping big bucks on moisturizer when you can buy a tub a coconut oil. People say "It's so greasy and doesn't absorb". Well, are you putting it on your skin that needs to be exfoliated??? DRY BRUSH prior. Your face and your entire body. Dry brushing helps shed dead skin cells and encourages new cell renewal. By one for the face and one for your body. (CVS or Rite Aid) Then you can apply the oils on your face for smoother, brighter, younger looking skin. Or you can make your own exfoliator using coconut oil, sugar and essential oils. 

Coconut oil uses are endless as well!!! Cooking, baking, and cleaning. You will save money.

Celery Juice, No Gluten (I learned the hard way), Essential Oils, Coconut Oil, Yoga, Good Books, Good, loyal, trustworthy friends, healthy, happy, independent, smart kids and a roof over my head,  and running water is all I need. My great grandmother lived until 96, two aunts passed at 104 and 105 with one still living. Their secret? OIL!!!! Ha ha and homemade pasta!!! 

If you are interested in Doterra as a retail customer you can order directly through my site.

If you would like to be a Wholesale Customer you will get 25% off retail, Loyalty Rewards Points, Shipping Rewards Points, Free Products.

If you are interested in becoming a Wellness Advocate you receive bonuses and Compensation, a Personal Website, product discounts, shipping rewards, free products, Facebook Groups with tips, DIY Recipes and amazing, inspiring, women and a healthy, happy, clean lifestyle. 

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong

Maribeth

www.mydoterra.com/maribethwoodford

 

 

 

Living In The NOW

You read it, hear it and see it everywhere.

"Live in the present moment".

Blah. Blah. Blah. Rolling eyes I am sure. 

And I have done the same thing until I starting reading" The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle.

This past week was one for the books. Living in the now. Because as Eckhart says "nothing exists outside the now" How f'in true is that? NOTHING EXISTS OUTSIDE THE NOW.

Currently, I am typing by the fireplace on a cold, Saturday night in January. Nothing else is going on but exactly this. Just typing. My mind is focused on this blog and nothing else. 

Try to grasp this..

"Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now".

"Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.".

Get it? Chances are; probably not. I didn't until this past week really making a effort to be in the now with everything. From cooking dinner (which I did every day), driving kids, attending games, teaching, writing dharmas, running a studio, cleaning the house, doing laundry and making time for my BF; STRESS FREE. Not thinking. Just doing. I did have a list of groceries to buy for the awesome, healthy meals I cooked all week. But I did not stress about when I was going to get to the store. No plan, no stressing. I went in the NOW.

Tolle says "The moment you grasp it, there is a shift in consciousness from mind to Being, from time to presence. Suddenly, everything feels alive, radiates energy, emanates Being".

It sure does. 

Not just me. This week the kids were happy, focused, helpful and fed!! ha ha all week.

Maybe it was the healthy meals we had all week or just maybe it was the energy that I was giving. Whatever it was, The Power of Now worked and I am going to try my best every day to live just like this.

Don't get me wrong; I have focused on living in the present and I think I have done a pretty good job, but it has been challenging. How can it not be with a crazy schedule with kids and yoga and everything else in my life.

"I don't have the time"!!! How many times have we said this to our kids, our husbands, boyfriends, friends, co-workers and ourselves? At least 5-10 times a day.

We must "END THE DELUSION OF TIME".

Here is the key from Tolle: End the delusion of time. Time and mind are inseparable. Remove time from the mind and it stops-unless you choose to use it.

To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. This creates preoccupation with the past and future and an unwillingness to honor and acknowledge the present moment and allow it to be. The compulsion arises because the past gives you an identity and the future holds promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions.

Well, my friends I will not go any further. This book is a must read. It is inspiring, spiritual, and pretty intense.

Just wanted to share.

Enjoy your Saturday evening!

xoxoxo