Haters Gonna Hate

Many use it as a hashtag for many different reasons. I have used it more than once for sure.

Hate is really a strong word. I always tell my kids never use hate. Use "dislike strongly". But that hashtag is not too popular and unfortunately hate is used way too much in this world.

I found this blog in Entrepreneur Magazine and wanted to share with all of you. You don't have to have a business. This is for everyone. Whatever your role in life. Student, athlete, brain, beauty queen, mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather. boyfriend, girlfriend, business owner. friend. Negative, unhappy people will always find a reason to demonstrate in their behavior the "H" word. Don't let it get to you.

Be proud of you!!! Always!! 

The "haters" are making judgement out of jealousy or their own negativity! LET IT GO!

Upon reaching a certain level of success, there will almost certainly be haters that enter your life. These are people that either fundamentally do not believe in your values or, more likely, are jealous of your accomplishments.

It is easy to let these people get you down. Understandably, we don't like when others are mean to us or don't like us. The reality, though, is that having these haters around us is almost inevitable, especially true upon achieving success. Therefore, the options are to either let them affect you or to take advantage of the situation.

John Rampton

Entrepreneur VIP / Entrepreneur and Connector

Here are 10 ways that you can take advantage by using your haters as fuel for your success:

1. Understand that it means you are doing things right.

The emergence of haters is a signal that you have achieved a certain level of success. If you have not accomplished anything, then, almost certainly, nobody would be paying enough attention to give you criticism.

When there are people hating on you and what you do, then it is a sign that you are on the path toward success. Use this sign as a validation that you have been doing the right types of things.

2. Learn from their attitudes to be more accepting of others.

Seeing the ways in which people negatively treat you can teach you how to be more accepting of others. Instead of mimicking your haters' actions toward other people, do the opposite. You will develop an empathy for what it is like to receive flack.

Then, when you see others in similar boats as you, you can provide support and motivation. This will both help others and allow you to develop meaningful relationships with successful people.

3. Use their criticism as a way to evaluate yourself.

Although a lot of criticism can be rooted in jealousy, there are times when certain criticisms are well-founded. You should not take the hate that you get to heart, but you should listen to what others have to say. At certain times, it can help you become a better person.

If you are working on a project that is environmentally harmful, for example, and you had not realized it, then listening to your haters can give you an important perspective to consider.

Others' opinions can help you find ways in which you are coming across poorly. Recognizing those ways will empower you to be better.

4. Be more humble.

You can use criticism as a lesson to take the high road. There will be situations when you can either fight back with others or you can do the right thing. You might be much more accomplished than those that are giving you a hard time.

That being said, you should be humble in your responses. There is no need to brag or try to validate yourself further. Instead, trust your own instinct and respond in a humble, respectful manner.

5. Use them to learn how to deal with conflict.

Dealing with your haters is also a great opportunity to better handle conflict. You could be put in challenging situations, with someone calling you out in a big way on social media or at an event.

Use these experiences as opportunities to learn to navigate conflict. Sometimes you can just take the high road but, in other situations, the response needs to be more nuanced.

6. Learn to control your anger.

Managing anger is also a great challenge in life. People might say things to you that invoke high levels of anger for a variety of reasons. Instead of lashing back, learn to respond calmly.

Take advantage of all the negative words and actions you might be victim to. If you can stay composed in these high-pressure or anxiety-provoking situations, then you will learn to control your anger. Doing so will pay off countless times throughout life.

7. Use them to learn how to ignore negative influences.

There are going to be many negative people in your life. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. We cannot get everyone to like us. Therefore, haters serve as a great group to learn this lesson.

We feel even less of an urge to get them to like us compared to people we might know better. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on the things that matter more. These include being present, challenges at hand, and working to become a better person.

8. Utilize them to become more independent thinking.

You might receive deeply personal insults that attack your beliefs or character. That said, you do not have to conform to anybody else's beliefs. Instead, you should be proud of what makes you unique.

Learning to love yourself for who you are will enable you to live a more independent-thinking life. That will lead to greater levels of satisfaction and accomplishment.

9. Allow them to motivate you.

Others might tell you that your self employed business will never succeed or that you will never accomplish your goals. You can use these negative responses as motivation to succeed. You do not need to prove anything to anybody.

That said, if it will motivate you to know that upon your achievements, you will be able to quiet the haters, then take advantage of that, and use it as motivation to work harder.

10. Appreciate your victories.

Haters can also be a great way to better appreciate your victories. Accomplishing something after many people told you that you would not be able to is a great feeling.

You should be proud of what you are able to achieve throughout your life. Your haters can serve as a reminder to appreciate these victories and be grateful for all the good you are fortunate to have.

Slow Down

I hope everyone is doing well and adjusting to the cooler, fall weather. Summer temps definitely hung around for a while which was nice and fall took its time. Wouldn't it be nice if we all took our time and slowed down?

Those words have been coming up so much in my head, out loud and in conversations with others so I felt the need to write about it. 

SLOW DOWN.

Life goes by so fast. Why are we rushing?

Rushing to get places. Rushing to leave places.

Rushing to get the new fashion trend. Buying the latest and greatest. The biggest and the best.

Not thinking long and hard before accepting a job offer.

Taking on more sports, fitting it in to one season.

Running non-stop and constantly checking our phones, emails and social media.

 

Everyday seems to be a traffic jam during rush hour.

 

Do I go the speed limit on a daily basis? No. 

Did I get scared? Yes

Did I get a warning? FUCK YES

I am not talking about driving a car. I am talking about life. Daily life.

Our society rushes through life. It starts early. Even before technology. 

We can't wait to get out of grammar school, can't wait to drive, can't wait to turn 21, can't wait to get engaged, can't wait for the wedding, can't wait for the first house, can't wait for to get prego, can't wait for a bigger house, can't wait for the second baby so baby number one won't be lonely and it doesn't  matter if we have no money because we are speeding through life and we must do what everyone else is doing.

Then the family is set and the house is bigger. Not because we NEED a 5,000 sf house for a family of four because we need the biggest and the best. Then we can't wait until the kids can feed themselves, can't wait for them to go to school full time so mommy can get her body back and have a few hours to get things done. We can't wait until our husband gets home. Not to have sex with him but to have some time alone or go out with the girls and have wine. 

The kids are now driving and we couldn't wait for them to get their license so we don't have to play cab driver anymore. 

Next thing you know, the house is empty, kids in college and you can't wait for them to graduate and get a job, meet their love, get married and have kids so you can be a grandparent. 

We just rushed through life.

Right there.

Boom.

WTF just happened? We rushed through life and our kids are going to do the same and it becomes a vicious cycle. Rushing. Speeding. Flying through life.

SLOW DOWN.

It has been a eye opener the last few weeks. Constantly going. Keep going. Don't stop. Won't stop. It is nothing new to me thou. My entire life. I am not a couch potato. Never was. Never will be. But I need to know when to SLOW DOWN. I rush. We all do. Rush to get kids to school, rush to work, rush home, rush to feed family, rush to get kids to sports, meetings, so much rushing. Why? For what? Really think about it. Can Johnny Boy be five minutes late for the Recreation Soccer Practice? Did you pay for him to play? Is he on the Celtics and getting paid millions? Will he get fined? Enjoy your dinner. Take time to taste it and not see it on the soccer field. Don't do 40 in a 25 to get Sally Jane to Field Hockey at the High School. Maybe start dinner early or teach Sally how to start dinner for you.

 SLOW DOWN. 

You may get a WARNING!

I tell everyone in class to listen to their body. I needed to do the same. And I did.

Two weeks ago.

A strange, numbing feeling in my left shoulder blade. It would come and go.

Then the heart beat. The fast heartbeat. 

Telling no one. No phone calls. No text messages.

I stayed up all night. Taking baby aspirins and praying that I wasn't going to have a heart attack. It can happen to anyone. My grandfather died at 42. It was in my head. Shit. I take vitamins, I eat well. Shit!!! I am a fucking yoga instructor. This can't be.

Drove the kids to school the next morning and went straight to the ER. I was hooked up to machines within minutes.

Results back. Heart good.

Phew. Relieved.

But, not 100% good.

"Your Pleura is inflamed". Pleura?

Now, I am not a nurse or a doctor and really don;t know that much but I thought they just did blood work and EKG and my legs were not in stirrups. PLEURA just sounds so gynecological. Pleura is a membrane consisting of tissue that lines the inner side of the chest cavity and a layer of tissue around the lungs.

This could have been caused by pneumonia and I never knew I had it because I can't slow the fuck down. I do recall one day I didn't feel right. I did everything I normally do. Green Tea, Essential Oils and lots of water. I felt fine. Back to normal.I kept going as I always do ( BTW, essential oils are a LIFE SAVER.)

Am I "burning out"? FUCK NO.

Do I need to SLOW DOWN? FUCK YES.

What have I been doing? 

Putting my feet up.

Diffusing Essential Oils.

Meditating.

Reiki Treatments.

Breathing.

Teaching.

Getting Fresh Air.

Writing.

Being a mom.

Really, nothing different, but SLOWING THE FUCK DOWN. Not rushing to get to the next moment.

"Surrender to the Moment". Accept what is. The present moment is all we really have. Yet we"re so busy rushing ahead and planning, we are never able to enjoy the moment.-Eckhard Tolle

What does this quote mean? Stop rushing. Surrendering the mind is self-mortification. 

Always Remember Good Things Take Time!

Let's not look back on days, weeks or months and wonder where it all went.- 

Enjoy what is in front of you and take your time doing it, and do it well.

Smile

Put Your Feet up

Breathe

Slow down, you move too fast

You got to make the morning last

Simon and Garfunkel

 

 

 

Go Back To The Basics

SUKHA "The Non-Intimidating" Yoga Studio. 

Is SUKHA for beginners only? That seems to be what people think. The answer is no. SUKHA is for everyone. Yoga is a practice for the mind, body and soul whether you have been practicing for 1 day or 15 years. We learn new poses everyday. So, EVERYONE is a beginner. No one knows it all. We are not GOOGLE.

Just like life, we learn something new every day.

Leave the ego at the door. There is no need to look for the toughest teachers and force yourself to get into the toughest pose. Why? So you can post a really fast picture on Instagram and walk out limping? 

Advance your practice by going back to the basic fundamentals.

Every teacher has a different way of approaching a pose and describing it. All of the teachers at SUKHA have a different way of teaching. We make sure everyone in the room is comfortable no matter what level.

We all have a different "personal practice". It doesn't mean we teach that way. 

We ALL modify every class accordingly based on each students level. That is what teachers do. We accommodate; modify and support. EVERYONE! EVERY CLASS! 

Open up your mind, maybe go back to the beginners mindset and be proud of how far you have come. 

There are two workshops approaching soon at SUKHA.

This Saturday, June 17th at 10:30, join Maria Preuster for a Back Bending workshop.  Learn the fundamentals as your open your heart and your mind.

Saturday, July 15th at 10:30, join Melanie for "Yoga FUNdamentals". Whether you are new to yoga, or don't know your asana from your elbow, this workshop is for you. Build confidence on and off the mat by going back to the basics. From breath work to modifications. First class or 101st class. We can all use a refresher. 

All welcome. Except EGO. They can be left at the door.