The Ideal Dad

Happy Dad's Day to all!

For those who have been taking my class or read my blogs, you know my past. I am not getting into that today. If you would like to read, all of the blogs can be found on under "New Blog".

I hope all of you dads have a great day whatever it is that you are doing. Hopefully it's spending the day with your children. Especially, if you work crazy hours throughout the day and get home late at night. 

I have decided to call this day, "Dads Day"!!

You see there's a  big difference between what makes a Father and a Dad. A father is someone who believes that by just creating you by having sex and sending his sperm off for creation, he has done his duty in life with little emotional investment. A dad is someone who gets up every day and does whatever he can do support, guide, and most of all be present. It is just not about providing food and roof our their children's heads. There is so much more in my opinion.

You become a father at birth, you earn the title of dad.

What does The "Ideal Dad" look like in my head? A role model for boys and girls. Physically and mentally strong. The dad who helps around the house, gets up at any hour the night or gets on the floor to play or outside to play catch. A man who can do this without being short of breathe, who lives a healthy lifestyle and is driven to do life a long life to see his children grow old. A dad who shows love, kindness and compassion,  and admits when he'w wrong and not perfect. A man who leaves his ego at the door and does not expect his dinner to be ready and on the table every night. This dad shows love and respect to his wife/x-wife always and will offer to take on some of the daily responsibilities because he is fully aware of everything mom's do to make the house a home and the children happy, and healthy. 

A man who sees that his primary role is not just a check book and that there is so much more.

The Ideal Dad accepts all responsibilities to his children even if he has "others", or not.

A dad is present. A father is just the is the sex ed version of a parent. A sex partner to create; to be blunt. 

Someone who makes spending time with his child/children a priority and actively participating in their lives as much as possible.

A dad who empowers, teaches, educates and disciplines just as much as the mom. If not more.

A man who can take care of himself when he is not feeling well. In order to be a great dad, you must take care of your health. A dad should be a role model who lives a healthy life.

A man who doesn't think it's cool that his 2 year old knows what a beer is and has him get him one from the cooler. A man who doesn't "check  out" attractive women in front of their son and daughter and shows respect to all life. 

A man who is authentic at home, in the office, on the field, at a school meeting and most importantly around others. A dad is someone who does knows how to say no when necessary. To say no to his friends, co-workers, girlfriend and say yes to his kids. 

Parenting is not easy. It requires, love, support, guidance, discipline, honesty, friendship, and loyalty. 

Teach them confidence and self-esteem but make sure you are good to yourself. Every parent deserves time to themselves to clear their mind a connect with themselves. 

A dad and a man who is good to mom. Be good to the mother of their children whether they are married or not and be sure to remember who your biological children are.

Remember, kids learn from their parents and they are always watching. Drinking, smoking will become planted in their brain. Bad manners and inappropriate behavior will rub off on them.

One thing kids want most is time. Quality time with their dad. Make time before it's too late.

If there is anything I ever wanted, it was a dad and to have quality time with my Father. 




A Father's Day "Presence"

Happy Father's Day to all of the amazing men that wear the title of "Dad" proudly and legitimately.  Hardworking, supportive, loving, caring, fun, and present. I respect all of you that wear each of those badges on your sleeve every day and continue to do so until you leave this earth. 

Life is short and the days seem to fly by more now than ever before. Enjoy the time you have with your children.

Doctor, Lawyer, Police Officer, Bartender, Teacher, Coach, Salesman. Whatever profession it is; spend the time no matter how old or tired you may be.

Don't let divorce, a new wife, girlfriend or an addiction ever come between you and your children. 

Your son; he has your mannerisms. Your oldest daughter  has your coloring and sensitivity and the youngest daughter; has your love for music and stubbornness.

Your grandchildren; well they have...

The athletic talent and the ocean blue eyes.


The proud grandfather.

The present father.

Be that.


Be it all until you just can't be.

The one very important man that I never had enough time with. And that human being that my children never met. My father.

A void.

A completely empty feeling that will never be filled.

The love, the light, the emptiness that fills my soul is my children. I wish he would have met them in person instead of on screen and photo prints. 

Be proud.

Be the love.

Be present.


You never met him. Only pictures and a few stories.

He was a good man with a bad disease.

He had your eyes of blue.

He had your passion for sports.

Each of you are a part of him.

He was your Grandpa Tom.


You have his eyes of blue.

You have his passion for sports.

He is your Father.

Each of you are a HUGE part of him.

Happy Father's Day Woody!

You are a great dad! 

Her eyes light up when she sees you.

His energy level rises when you talk about any sport. Anytime.

They both can tell a joke with that "Woody" humor.

Thank you for all that you do!

Happy Father's Day to all!

Be Happy.

Be Healthy.

Be Strong.