You have Gifts, Talents and a Purpose. LIVE IT!

I felt the need to write tonight as a "week in review". It will not be poetic, or maybe some of you may think its pointless. There are certain times I feel selfish not sharing. Sharing is caring and when we hold ourselves back from sharing, we are holding back love from ourselves and others.

Last week was hectic. My calendar was full of classes, football, cheer,  a fundraiser, preparing for High School, writing dharmas, posting blogs, playlists, laundry, bills, scheduling, bike repairs, food shopping, cleaning and grey removal!!( I needed to fit some self care in)

Two amazing blogs were posted written by two amazing, brave, perfectly imperfect women. Michelle Amy wrote about her relationship with her yoga mat and Krissy-Jo poured her heart out about her weight loss journey, self-love and acceptance. Continue to write, to heal and share your work. Water it with compassion, kindness and light. It deserves to be seen by everyone. You ladies have a purpose. You ladies have a gift. You ladies have a talent. LIVE IT. SHARE IT.

It was a week of running around. One to cheer and work, and the other to football. I don't want to get into the football experience, because I am still trying to figure out how I am going to be able to sit through a season without cringing and coming pretty close to passing out. A football blog will soon follow. I would like to share with you a great movie I watched Saturday night on Amazon that is for everyone to watch. Parents and kids. ATHLETES!! It's a must. "Peaceful Warrior" staring Nick Nolte. "A warrior does not give up what he loves, he find the love in what he does".

Friday  early evening I decided to meet up with two good friends for a couple of hours. It was great catching up, sharing stories, thinking, creating, laughing and enjoying the moment. WE have a purpose. WE are living it and we WILL SHARE IT.

How do you find people that inspire you? Do your friends inspire you or do they bring you down? When you find people that help you find the best version of yourself, KEEP THEM.

Find people who want to learn, grow, share, raise their vibration and live authentically.. Men and women who want to be grow, transform and have the same interest in personal development.

As you continue to lift yourself up by learning and growing you start to attract the same. Shine bright, SMILE, be full of energy and you will find the same. You will lift them and they will lift you. Stay clear from the ones who bring you down. I have had many the last few years.

We all have the desire to want those around them on the same level they are. )At least good people do).

When a person makes s decision that they are going to improve their life, lift themselves up, those around them (the nay-sayers) instinctively try to pull them down. They will make fun of your efforts, work and success or try to minimize it. They will belittle your abilities to reach new levels. Bottom line? Those peeps are no good. (I am being very kind)

What is the reality? They are bringing you down to lift themselves up. 

Stop accepting the advice of people who you would never want to be like. Take a VERY close look.  It may take you days, months or a year. That's okay.

Begin to slowly remove the trash talkers, the downers, the nay-sayers. Anyone who keeps you from growing, and reaching new heights. Hang on tightly to the ones who help you grow. Be the one who shines bright and has the energy to pull others up. Be that beautiful, smiling, energetic, compassionate soul that encourages others who are actively working to improve their own life.

I will conclude this blog giving a shout out to a group of women who I have witnessed lifting each other up, supporting their dreams, who are looking to improve their circumstances, and are glowing, alive and want to raise their vibration and bring others along for the ride. It has been so refreshing to meet Jenn, Debra, Lauren, Lindsey, Ellen, Alexis and Viki. These amazing women I was blessed to meet a few months ago through yoga. We flowed Thursday night for Debra and her son River. There were tears, smiles, and lots of hugs. These women are a TRIBE. A Perfectly Imperfect, Good Vibe Tribe who lifts each other up personally and professionally.

These amazing women are members of The Bloom Foundation. The Vision of this foundation is to create a world where every mother has access to a new standard of care for maternal mental health and wellness. Viki has been holding Akashic Record Readings at SUKHA and will be holding a breath work circle at SUKHA 9/25. 

Ladies, you have gifts, talents, and a purpose!! Continue to LIVE IT and SHARE IT. 

 

 

 

Bloom Foundation

Do You really Care.....

What people think?

There are so many people, all ages that are so worried about what others think of us. The bottom line is it truly does not matter. When we constantly worry and it causes nothing but anxiety and unnecessary stress.

This morning in class I decided to read a great blog about just this topic, take it up a notch and bust out "To Be Real" and just start dancing. Not giving a shit what anyone thought. And guess what? It felt amazing and all of the 21 peeps in the room did the same.

Why do we care about what Jane Smith from the PTO thinks about us? Why? 

It is time to UNFUCK ourselves as Hug Your Chaos has taught me, Let's re-wire our brains with positive thoughts and not negativity.

Start doing the work. Begin by digger deep within yourself because you deserve it and you should start showing the world what a beautiful human you are without trying to impress with stress.

Let's not take this the wrong way. We can and should CARE about others, their feelings and what they think. But if you find yourself becoming anxious and stressed over it, you need to figure out exactly why.

"We have an inside and an outside—an interior landscape and an exterior landscape. Our interior landscape is our subjective experience of our authentic self, while our exterior landscape is a product of our worldview. The two together create a psychosocial dynamic, but that dynamic has only one reference point, leaving us balancing self- and other-perception.

When this delicate balance shifts because we begin seeking approval, or attempting to control outcomes, we become externally focused and can literally lose sight of our essential nature. That essential nature is different from the ego-self—the self-image fed and influenced by what is outside of us. In looking out, rather than within, our sense-of-self and sense-of-place become clouded. The more we attempt to establish these sensibilities through external means, the more clouded our vision becomes and the further we get from our authentic self. Instead of being fully present in our social interactions, our thoughts and behavior become means for eliciting a response, rather than an expression of self-value.

The ego-self is a false self, a façade scripted by the demands of our context as we perceive them. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval. That need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk, which are fear-based. That fear derives from any number of sources, from our original premise concerning fear of rejection to a "less-than" mentality, all of which begs the question:

We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?

Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that, on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power, our full humanity, in the recognition that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us."-Psychology Today

Loose the stress of trying to impress. Your body knows you are not being authentic and that is causing stress and can lead to more dis-ease. And that feels so much wore than having someone dislike you.

Did you know that Ulcers are caused by fear? Fear of not being good enough because we can't stomach who we are and we rip our guts out everyday trying to please others. That's a pretty scary thought. Keep that in your mind when you are stressed over what people think of you and constantly trying to please others.

Be Real

Be You

Dance

Sing

Laugh

Smile

xoxoxox

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Divorce. Relationships. Heart Chakra.

Now this post is way overdue and very hard for me to write. It's time. 

This heart of mine is a tough one. Someone once told me years ago it was frozen along with all of the veins attached. I think that was the first time I ever realized it truly was and it need to be thawed out. But how? Why was I so cold in certain situations? 

Years later, in my early forties, I started to learn about this through yoga, Reiki, Rain Drop Therapy, Card Readings, and learning from amazing women whom I give all  credit. But if Maryjo reads this she will say that I did all the work and she just gave me to tools. Thanks MJ. Love you and thanks.

I am not going to sit here and play the blame game on my parents because we are all victims of victims and they could not have taught us anything they did not know themselves. Although I do believe that my father not being present had a lot to do with it. He did not know how to love himself so therefore, he could not teach me how to do the same. As we grow up, we have a tendency to re-create that early home life. And yes, I did, but got out due to the fact that I was beginning to see myself as my mother sitting, waiting and wishing. 

As a tween I never had self confidence, I thought I was ugly because kids told me I was. I never thought I was good enough to have a boyfriend and that was the case for years. Yes,  I "dated", but never had a SERIOUS boyfriend that I truly cared for and that truly cared for me until junior year of high school. And of course I fucked that up. Years later I finally figured out that it was a fear, a heart blockage and deep down I did not think I was worthy to have such a great guy. Unfortunately, we choose our thoughts and the "I'm not good enough" was one that deep down was running through my veins for years. I am not funny enough, rich enough, skinny enough, athletic enough, etc....how the hell could I have ever created a loving, happy, healthy relationship with that subconscious belief?

Let's fast forward because the past is the past. It is over and done but I can change my thoughts about the past and that has been step 1. To release the past we need to forgive. Forgive everyone and most importantly ourselves. I'm almost there, but I found my self giving the out a few weeks ago.

Going on 13 years divorced, single for the majority. Dated here and there, creeped on a bit, stalked, made stupid mistakes and learned lessons from all of them. I was not ready for a committed relationship. I love being alone and the easy feeling of not having to answer to anyone, not share a bed, a bathroom and just do my own thing when I want and how I want and being independant. And most importantly for my kids. I refused to make the mistake most newly divorced men and women do. They jump right in. Some don't even wait until the ink is dry and this makes me crazy. Every divorced man or woman need to heal and it doesn't matter who cheated, who doesn't love anymore, or who did what. HEAL friends. HEAL first. Don't let your home be a revolving door and most importantly, not with kids. They fear abandonment, just like we do. My children are happy in this very quiet, small house on the tracks. There is no yelling, fighting or screaming and no egg shells to be walked on. In my opinion, I have made very good decisions in this department. My children come first before anyone or anything. Fully 100% present.

For the divorced men who feel the need to jump in because they "need someone to cook, clean or take care of them when they are sick"; try to do for yourself for a while or go back home to mom. For the divorced ladies who "don't want to go back to work or need the security": GET A FUCKING JOB. Start your dream job/career. MAKE IT HAPPEN. I know you can do it!!

 Heal so you can be in a healthy relationship and not continue to revisit old wounds and get back in another crappy relationship. When you jump in and find yourself attracting the same people and you are always complaining about it and trying to find the answer, well; the answer is you have not healed.

Back to the heart. It's pretty open. But it doesn't take long to close up again. I have the most amazing boyfriend that anyone could ever ask for. He's kind, loving, thoughtful, understanding, mushy, genuine, sweet, loyal, a yogi, fuckin hot as hell and funny.  How he puts up with me is mind blowing. He has opened my heart and knows me so well when it is starting to freeze up. WHY?? It must still be fear and those stupid thoughts of me not deserving someone like him. A few weeks ago I said to myself that he deserves someone better. Why? We make a great couple. We laugh, have so much in common and the chemistry is there. Why is it that I want to shut down? I have no interest in ANYONE else but him.

This fuckin heart chakra drives me cra cra. Our heart chakra is the fourth primary chakra located in the center of the human body and is associated with love and understanding, What causes this chakra to get blocked? Emotional pain, caused by bad memories, old programming, emotions and even overthinking. In my case, I do not believe it is overthinking. That part was fixed years ago. I am proud to say, I live in the present moment and have so many things going on that I don't have time to overthink.

As I am writing and thinking it could be that hold onto emotions and this could cause the blockage or just procrastinating for the reason of time and the amount I have on my plate.

Whatever it may be, I will continue to stay connected to myself and know when the heart is starting to close and work on myself everyday. This process does not happen over night and there is not a magic pill that will cure the blockage forever. 

The bottom line is this....

I am so grateful to have someone who understands me and all of this chakra healing stuff and someone who can fully admit he has healing to do as well. You see real men understand it, and know when to leave the ego at the door. Real men admit to their flaws. Real men understand authenticity. Oh; and real men do yoga!! ha

Thank you for being real and thawing out my heart and understanding when it starts to freeze up. I take 100% responsibility for doing the work/healing. Thank you for making me smile and always listening.

Thank you all for reading. Continue to do the work-in my friends.

When we really love , accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works. Our health improves, our relationships become more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in fulfilling ways. Loving and approving of yourself, creating space of safety, trusting, deserving and accepting, will create organization in your minds, creating loving relationships, maybe a new job, or a better place to live. Whatever it may be.  Try to approve of yourself, do the work and see what happens.

WRITE my friends.

It's so healing. 

xoxoxox

mb