Take Responsibility for Lighting Your Own Flame

This week I spoke about my visit to the church, mindsets, childhood wounds and being proud.

We always tell our children how proud we are of them for all of their accomplishments and I think it should be said when deserved and be sure we make it about them and not ourselves. We must give the credit when the credit is due with taking ourselves out of the equation.

This Tuesday I came to the studio and found myself dead in my tracks at the front door. I actually looked up at the purple sign, the stickers on the door and as I walked in, I stopped and said to myself “wow”. “This is your studio. You did this.”

I have never had this feeling and I have never given myself any kudos for creating such a great space.

This moment brought so much up for me. Childhood wounds, fear of expressing myself or the fear of what others may think if I verbalized my feelings of achievements. I don’t crave attention or praise. I actually don’t like it. Yes, it feels good but I am humble. Humble and proud.

Be proud of yourself. Give yourself some credit. “You’ve survived heartache and heartbreak. You work your ass off for what lights your soul on fire. Take time to say “great job”. “I am proud of you”. Because guess what? It’s nobody’s responsibility to keep your flame lit but your own”.

This quote came rolling off of my tongue last night. I was hesitant to post it with the fear that it was too rough. But it’s tough love and it’s the truth. It is time to take responsibility for your own life. Why? Taking responsibility of your life moves you from victim to victor. This will change your energy and will raise your vibration.

When people seek constant praise, approval and admiration it is a noticeable sign of Narcissistic personality. This is why it is so important to give praise to others, especially our kids when most deserved. Not when they draw a good picture, come home at curfew or take out the trash.

If you find you are looking for praise for all of your hard work, look in the mirror and say:

“I am proud of all of my efforts”

Take in deeply, beyond the layers of self doubt to the truth of your glowing spirit.

You are amazing.

Take responsibility for lighting your flame and….

BE PROUD.

Are You Living Courageous and Free?

Today we celebrate Independence Day. Music Speaks Dharma has been my description of all of my classes since I started SUKHA in 2015 and I traditionally teach all of the holidays. By now, many try to do the same, and I am so honored to have inspired others.

I decided today I would change it up slightly and steer away from the normal July 4th class.

Independence-" the fact or state of being independent. self-determination, freedom" 

Independent- "free from outside control; not depending on others authority"

You see, I am very independent. Always was and always will be. I can honestly say that if I was dependent, I would not be living a truly authentic life.

Many people live in a state of co-dependence and allow others to shape our beliefs and decisions from how to dress, political views, financial decisions and so many other things that we forget who we really are and this I can't seem to digest. (it gets my blood boiling)

Independence is knowing who you are, owning it, being aware of boundaries, saying no, speaking your truth, being clear on exactly what you want and most importantly respecting yourself and owning your life.

Today, start making your own decisions, give yourself permission to think, feel, support, love and do whatever the fuck makes you happy.

How the hell do people survive, achieve and live a life based on what someone else dictates to them?

America is the LAND OF THE FREE!! Get your shit together and start living your life, YOUR WAY.

The place where we can do whatever we wish. So let's do it. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart, your dreams, wear what you want, be whoever you want, travel, quit the job that you are constantly complaining about and find a new one, stop bitching and start doing. Stop asking permission and advice from the people that will tell you "don't do it". (this will be for another dharma)

America. "Home of the Brave"

Are you courageous? Do you step into your true self? Do you tell your story? Are you afraid of making decisions on your own? What is holding you back from having the courage to do what you want? Is it you that keeps telling yourself that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, educated enough or is it someone from the past or the present that has planted these thoughts in your head. Those thoughts are going to stop TODAY!!

"Courage is required in almost every basic human activity or endeavor. For instance, to allow oneself to love and commit to another person takes courage. Separating from our parents and forging an independent life for ourselves is a courageous act. To survive an abusive, traumatic or neglected childhood or relationship with dignity and integrity demonstrates courage and resilience." -Wizard of Us

Stop basing your dreams and decisions on someone else. Put on your big girl/big boy pants and take the step into independence. You will begin to start doing everything that inspires you on your terms. Stop wasting time living someone else's life.

Let's begin to have the confidence, courage, self-love to live the life you want to live. In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.

Be happy

Be healthy

Be strong

Be free

Be Brave

Today and always

Have a Happy Independent Life!