12 Days of Slow Living

This month I participated in the #12daysofslowliving Challenge on Instagram with Beth Kirby. Now, slow living is not something I practice. Moving at a slow pace does not come easy for me. It never has. Some health issues the last year and this fall has told me that I have to start. This challenge came at the perfect time. Normally I do not participate in social media challenges. I like to offer them, especially 28 days of yoga for $28 or to get my shy clients out of their comfort zones. The Grind and Shine Yoga Challenge is to practice yoga everyday for 28 days.

If any type of challenge is offered to me, it needs to be something I really need to incorporate in my life.

Slow Living and lots of yoga.

Last year, my body was giving me the signs. The signs to slow down. This year, my body was screaming at me. October is a “productive” month for me. Workshops, back to school, sports, and this year SUKHA hosted the first yoga retreat. It was non-stop. After the retreat, I was not myself. Everything was a blur. My lungs, my brain, my gut. Physically and mentally foggy.

Once again, thank you to Maryjo Kurtz at Wellnecessity for all of her services and guidance to getting me back to the healthy me. I try to see Maryjo as much as I can and I highly suggest you do the same!

Slowing down is something I must do but I feel as if when I do, important things may slip through the cracks. This challenge so far, has encouraged me to do a few little things in my daily routine. Self care has always been part of my life it is routine, but slowing down and embracing the time is not. Now don’t get me wrong, I do not rush through life, or am I always in a “rush” , or “can’t get my shit together”. I am very balanced but I rarely take the time to sit back and appreciate drinking cup of tea or be aware of how blessed I am to have nature’s gifts to heal my body.

My children will always come first and I am so fortunate that I have the flexibility to attend games, cook them dinner and be there for them whenever they need me.

When my body gives me the signs to slow down, I never can understand how I am supposed to slow down when I have so many big responsibilities. I am one person doing so much. No wonder one of my Spirit Animals is the Octopus. Speaking of the Octopus; I decided it was time to have a logo for my personal brand. I have had these visions of part octopus, with some SUKHA branding incorporated but never thought I would be able to find someone who understands my thinking. Well, I did. This is the power of Instagram. All the way from Denmark I found a talented, creative, patient, responsible, professional, beautiful Graphic Designer who understood what I was looking for and created my logo. Thank you Anamarija Designs

How can I possibly slow down? This mind never stops.

This challenge has showed me to take the time, notice and appreciate the time I spend slowing down.

Here’s a recap of the first 8 days

Day One/Meditate

Day Two/Move

Day Three/Hydrate

Day Four/Nature

Day Five/Nourish

Day Six/Glow

Day Seven/Create

Day Eight/Relax

Day Nine/Indulge

Everything I have done so far with only a few days left is posted on Instagram @mbwishes and Facebook @myblogsaboutlife

Today is Day Nine/INDULGE and I did exactly what my body was calling for. “Do something luxurious for yourself”

Most people automatically think of indulging as eating a burger, fries or candy. Today I needed to relax my muscles .after a week of teaching and practicing in a Infrared Sauna at Current Recovery & Performance new location on Brick Blvd. I was honored to have a tour of the new, spacious and clean facility yesterday and went back this morning after my class for a 35 minute session in the sauna. The staff is friendly, kind, and extremely knowledgeable.

Current Recovery offers TPI Golf Screening, Cupping, Cryotherapy, Spot Cryo, Normatec and ARRC Therapies. Now Michael explained these to me yesterday in detail but my brain could not soak all of the amazing information in one sitting. But stay tuned. I will go back and bring my son. Current is not only for people with injuries. These services are perfect to prevent injuries.

Day Nine of Slow Living was worth writing about. I feel amazing, my skin looks even better and I took 40 minutes of my morning to detox, relax and move slowly.

Now, back to my normal routine of working, cooking, cleaning, laundry, wrapping and getting ready for Christmas. I am now able to actually hydrate SLOWLY and embrace every sip. Thank you Beth!

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas!!

Don’t forget to take time to S L O W D O W N

Many thanks again to Beth Kirby, Maryjo, Current Recovery and Anamarija!!

Please take a moment to download the ANCHOR app and listen to my new Podcast!! Authentically Speaking. Link is right here…

xoxox

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Take Responsibility for Lighting Your Own Flame

This week I spoke about my visit to the church, mindsets, childhood wounds and being proud.

We always tell our children how proud we are of them for all of their accomplishments and I think it should be said when deserved and be sure we make it about them and not ourselves. We must give the credit when the credit is due with taking ourselves out of the equation.

This Tuesday I came to the studio and found myself dead in my tracks at the front door. I actually looked up at the purple sign, the stickers on the door and as I walked in, I stopped and said to myself “wow”. “This is your studio. You did this.”

I have never had this feeling and I have never given myself any kudos for creating such a great space.

This moment brought so much up for me. Childhood wounds, fear of expressing myself or the fear of what others may think if I verbalized my feelings of achievements. I don’t crave attention or praise. I actually don’t like it. Yes, it feels good but I am humble. Humble and proud.

Be proud of yourself. Give yourself some credit. “You’ve survived heartache and heartbreak. You work your ass off for what lights your soul on fire. Take time to say “great job”. “I am proud of you”. Because guess what? It’s nobody’s responsibility to keep your flame lit but your own”.

This quote came rolling off of my tongue last night. I was hesitant to post it with the fear that it was too rough. But it’s tough love and it’s the truth. It is time to take responsibility for your own life. Why? Taking responsibility of your life moves you from victim to victor. This will change your energy and will raise your vibration.

When people seek constant praise, approval and admiration it is a noticeable sign of Narcissistic personality. This is why it is so important to give praise to others, especially our kids when most deserved. Not when they draw a good picture, come home at curfew or take out the trash.

If you find you are looking for praise for all of your hard work, look in the mirror and say:

“I am proud of all of my efforts”

Take in deeply, beyond the layers of self doubt to the truth of your glowing spirit.

You are amazing.

Take responsibility for lighting your flame and….

BE PROUD.

Labor of Love

Are you working for the next new pair of shoes or the next new fancy new car that hits the lot?

What are you hungry for? Stuff? A relationship? Are you confusing depression for the longing of something that is missing in your life?

As I listen, think, learn and write on this beautiful Sunday afternoon preparing for class on Monday; I am blown away. Blown away by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee as he speaks on Super Soul Conversations with Oprah. A must!!

As we sit lay here on our mats on this Labor Day, I would like you all to think about why you work and do you truly love what you do. Does your job serve a purpose besides buying stuff? Remove pensions and 401k. Let's just remove money completely out of the equation.

What would you do to serve others without too many or no financial incentives? How do you think it would make you feel?

Would you be willing to take a risk and serve to remove the "me" and make into a "we"?

When you begin to serve, you will begin to discover that the important things are not "things" at all.  Then all of your work comes from your mind and your heart and you get that amazing feeling in your heart and in your tummy that you want to serve everywhere.

Mother Teresa said "We can do no great things-only small things with love". She made a difference for millions of people. Remember it is not what we do that matters, it's the energy and love that we put into it that counts.

We all have to work to earn so we can give our children what they need; food, shelter and clothes on their back. So many of us want to give our children everything they want because we may have felt slighted growing up. We need to break that cycle. Let's start showing our children what it looks like to serve and help others so it will encourage them to do the same.

Day after day, I hear so many people complain about how much they dislike their job and how unhappy they are. My response is "Leave". Do what you love. What's holding you back? The answers-"Pension. 401K. and  health benefits". 

Guess what? This world could end tomorrow and none of it will even matter. What matters is you do what you love, serve for yourself, your children and others along the way.

Don't chase a job because of the money. Chase ways to help people and promote others, work that brings you joy, and opportunities that will help you to continue to learn and grow . Happy parents=Happy kids.

What is your goal? To be filthy rich with "things" or rich in health, happiness, knowledge, laughter and love?

Today we celebrate Labor Day honoring the American Labor movement and the contributions that workers have made to the strength, prosperity, laws and well-being of the country. Yet, almost every store and restaurant is open for business including SUKHA. I do not consider what I do work. Yes, I obviously need to charge to pay the rent and the bills, but this is love for me. Reading, writing and creating playlists ,dharmas, and sequences everyday takes time. I could not imagine, walking through these doors with a random playlist on my phone and just open a random site or book and read two sentences or rattle off some random non-sense without  any reason or a why. As I learn, I share and teach. Running a business is work. Lots of work no matter how small the business is. 

I am a Doterra Wellness Advocate for a few reasons. The mail reason is I would like to share these oils with as many people as I can. Why? Because I believe in them. They have helped me on so many different levels. Do I consider this "work"? Hard Labor? Nope. I am my own boss. 

I share because I care. Whatever it may be.

Let's start to celebrate labors of love! A piece of hard work that you do because you enjoy it and not because you receive money or praise!

I hope each of you can find space to shine your light by helping others find theirs.

Do what you love.

Love what you do.

Help and serve others when ever you can.

I hope everyone had a great summer!

I wish all of the kids best of luck this school year. Study hard and play hard.

Keep in mind drinking makes you sloppy and slow.

xoxoxox

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Happy Imperfect Mother's Day

What a great weekend of celebrating. My baby boy turned 14 and today we are celebrating Mother’s Day. Every day is Mother’s Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you hard working, multi-tasking, beautiful, strong, sometimes under appreciated, talented, mom’s out there.

Happy Mother’s Day to my beautiful mom!!! I know I was not easy and guess what? Some days it is coming back in full force to bite me in the ass. But that’s okay. It’s full circle. Thanks for putting up with my shit during my younger years and even sometimes now. This strong mind of mine just keeps getting stronger. Thank you for doing what you did back in 1981. I am not sure the three of us would be who are today and where we are in life if you stayed. Working your ass off. I get it. Boy; do it get it. Full Circle for sure. Anyway, thank you and I love you. Have a Happy Mother's Day!

Before I continue to write, I would like to share something from a “unknown author”

“Mama, you were given these children. You—no one else. You were given these children because you are who they need. You have the soul to love them even on their hard days. You have the motivation and love to give to these children everything they need. You have the heart to wake up every morning and do it all over again, even when you are exhausted. You have the smile that they crave and the touch to make everything okay. You are their sunshine and their comfort. You are theirs, and they are yours, Mama. On the days you are questioning yourself, remember this…you’ve got this.” ~ Unknown

Yes!!! We’ve got this!!! There are so many days when we may think we don’t. There are days where you just want to run. Days where you are not sure how you are going to possibly handle everything. Days when you forget to pack lunches, baseball hats, give lunch money, forget to wash their favorite jeans, days when you don’t feel like having 6 teens over the house because you don’t feeling like dealing with 6 more sets of hormones or maybe the house isn’t clean enough or you just don’t have enough food in the fridge to feed 6 more mouths. But, it’s okay. We are human. We are superheros and some days we lose our power but it is only just for a moment.

There are plenty of sleepless nights. Worrying if some idiot that’s drinking and driving will run off the road and not see your kid on their bikes. Stressing over how you are going to pay for the next set of braces, the next trip to Spain, cars, college. Thinking about grades, parties, games, friends. The list is endless. What guess what? We’ve got this!!! We are strong, powerful, we are natural nurtures. We are doctors, taxi drivers, therapists, cooks, teachers, accountants, a voice, ear, and the eyes of amazing people that came out of us!! Think about that. WE CREATED!!! We created, we teach, we learn, we practice and we continue to share in hopes that our children turn out to be just as AMAZING as we are. But guess what? We need show that we are not perfect, show our flaws and teach them that it is okay.

I read a blog a while ago that inspired me to write what I am going to write.

I am sorry that I will NEVER be the perfect mother.

Everyday, I wake up knowing that Kelsey and Patrick deserve the best. Kelsey and Pat, I hope you read this one day.

I love you both will all of my heart and soul and I hope you know that. I am so blessed to have smart, talented, funny, beautiful, respectful teenagers. Some days, I am simply amazed at how amazing you both are and I  wonder “How the “F” did this happen”. I am proud. I am happy. I am blessed. But I am far from perfect.

I am sorry you did not grow up in a “traditional family”. But this is the road we were meant to be on. I have no regrets at all, but this is what  you needed even if our situation is different than your friends. You are simply two of the most wonderful young humans I have ever met. Not perfect, but that’s okay. 

I would fight for you and die for you.

I am sorry to the things I have to say no to. It’s rare and there isn’t a whole hell of a lot I deny you of. If I can make it happen, I will and I am in the process of doing so. Sit tight. 

I am sorry that in the past, I dragged you to before care at 6:30 am and after care until 6:00 pm and being so tired and slightly grumpy when we got home.

I am sorry some nights, I was logged on working remotely. I am sorry I dragged you to work with me on Saturday’s.

I had to and will continue to work. I am not perfect. But now I finally have the flexibility to pick you up from school, attended games, cook dinner almost every night and be there for you. Some days and nights I have to teach, and get work done when you are home. I hope that one day you understand my drive, motivation and determination for my why’s, and I hope it’s contagious for you in your future. Good work ethic is hard to find these days. If I can teach you a few things; I hope you have the ethic and drive to work hard at whatever you choose to do in the future.

I am sorry I was so tired that I just did not have the energy to play catch or bake with you at the time you wanted, but I am so glad that I did make the time and push myself to get out there enough times to make memories to practice, bake cookies, color or watch I Carly, Power Rangers,  because it was well worth it.

I am sorry for yelling at times in the past, present and I know I will continue to raise my voice in the future. But I promise that I will take a step back and remember to breathe. Remember that I love you. I am your parent, your disciplinarian and then your friend. I am not perfect and I am not a “Disney Parent”. You will understand what that means one day when you begin to figure it all out.

We are going to fight. We are going to disagree. You may not like me some days and I will not like you at that present moment, but the only thing we can do is know that these crappy moments will not last forever.

I am sorry I was not a honor student and can’t help you with all of your homework. Continue to study hard and work “your way”. I will guide and support you but this brain just doesn’t function well with academics and I am not embarrassed to say so. Continue to study and work hard. I am proud of the both of you for the achievements you have made so far. Keep it up. Don't "B" so hard on yourself if you get a "B". 

I am sorry some days the fridge is slightly empty.

I am sorry for not buying the junk food you crave, and going out for ice cream every night in the summer. Outings like this should be a special treat and a special moment. Not a demand or a habit. One day will thank me for the healthy lifestyle, I can promise you that.

I am not sorry for signing and dancing to Johnny Cash in the kitchen back in the day and singing Kenny Chesney with the top down in my jeep present day. I hope that one day you will remember the silly things and most importantly to sing and dance like no one is watching and not give a shit if some one is. Why? Because it feels good. "I hope you dance" "Now and Forever."

I am not sorry for posting selfies on my Instagram page because one day you will look back at them and be proud of me. Continue to share your stories. Follow the real, genuine stories and keep scrolling through the ones that portray themselves to be perfect. It's called False Advertising.

I am not perfect and to be honest, I am not looking to be. I am not the perfect mom, friend, sister, daughter, girlfriend, and boss. I will curse. I will go out of the house looking like a slob. And I will continue to take all of my hard work in the home and outside the home seriously.

I don’t need a big house, a fancy car or fancy clothes in order for people to think I live a perfect life or think that I am a perfect mother. There are days when I get nervous that my imperfections will somehow transfer to you. But guess what? You don’t need someone to show you perfection. You need someone to show you what REALNESS looks like. Realness is meant for the three of us. Real. Honest. Genuine. Low maintenance.Slightly Messy. IMPERFECT. This is US!! In a peaceful, happy, quiet, no frills, small kitchen house.

I am not sorry for not being be perfect. But I WILL NEVER BE SORRY for doing the best I can to continue to raise two awesome teenagers every day. Play hard. Study hard. Work hard. Laugh hard. Live hard.

I love being your mom even on the crappy days. It’s going to be a bumpy ride, but in the end you will realize that perfect is so F’in boring and does not exist.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the IMPERFECT mom’s out there! Have a great day today and everyday!

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong

The Proud, Imperfect Mom

SUKHA Supporter of the Month

It is my pleasure to announce the SUKHA Supporter of the month.

This yogi has been coming to SUKHA since day one, makes her way on her mat almost every day and with EVERY teacher.

Yogi, mom, wife, music lover and author; Barbie Bohrman!

You are always bringing in positive energy into the studio, smiling, singing and sharing it with others. Sharing and wearing the SUKHA love on the mat and off.

Learning everyday from all teachers, taking workshops and growing.

And your taste for music........WELL my friend we have the same set of ears no matter what era or genre.

Thank you for your support, love of music and yoga and sharing the SUKHA philosophy.

Have a wonderful BirthMONTH!! 

xoxoxox

Stay tuned for what Barbie has to say about how SUKHA has changed her life! And some pics!!

Save the Dates

So many exciting things going on at SUKHA in the next few months.

Before I announce them, I would like to mention that I HAVE NOT been sending out email blasts like I have in the past. So, for those that have mentioned that I "removed" them from the list; that is incorrect. There are no emails going out. In fact, the last email was in November. Not sure? Always come back to The Four Agreements:

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don't take anything personally.
  3. Don't make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.

There are so many great things happening at SUKHA the next few months.

Every Wednesday Mommy & Me 9:30 am-10:00 am ages 1-3

This Friday at 11:00 am Crystal Bowl Meditation with Mary Jo

Reiki Level One Certification with Maryjo this Saturday 12:00-5:00 pm. Pre-pay by this Tuesday.

Gypsy Soul 100 hours teacher training information session 2/24/18 11:00 am

Warriors of Love Couples Yoga with Crystal 3/3/18 at 11:00 am

Unlock the Lotus with Jivamutki Teacher Jessica Stickler. Pre-pay at SUKHA or mail to:602 Mantoloking Road Brick 08723. No credit cards accepted

To Me, Love Me, Self Love Workshop with Maribeth 3/31/18 11:00 am

Energy of Numbers and Mala Bracelet Workshop with Krista Lynn. April 20th 7:00 pm

You can find all of the details on the website under "New Blog" and on the SUKHA app. Just click on the photo of the workshop and it will direct you to the link.

Facebook does not seem to be the best source of reaching people these days. If you are on Instagram please follow @sukha_south and @mbwishes for all updates and news. If you are not thrilled about social media and not on, you can create a false account and follow Sukha South to stay in the loop. The SUKHA app is always current as well with workshops.

Thank you all that continue to do the "work-in". SUKHA will continue to offer classes and workshops that will benefit each and everyone of you. Whether it's clearing your energy field during meditation, connecting with your partner, connecting with yourself, healing others and or teaching others the greatest practice in the world. YOGA. 

No goats. No glow sticks. No beer.

Just tools to improve ourselves, others and the world. One day. One breathe at a time.

Have a great week!

Please check the schedule this week. I am taking a short break. Please continue to learn and grow from all of the teachers at SUKHA.

xoxox