Yoga for my Mind and Soul on the Other Side of an Altar.

It’s been a LONG time since I went to church for a full mass. Sunday was worth blogging about.

I have been thinking about it for a long time but just couldn’t seem to get up the nerve. There are so many situations that occurred why I have not continued and I will share a few with you now then I will tell you about my experience Sunday.

We grew up Catholic. I went to Catholic School pretty much my entire life, my parents went to Catholic School, my grandmothers both attended church daily and I was married in the Catholic Church.

Guilt! That feeling of guilt that I remember feeling if I did not go to church every Sunday. The guilt was not from my mom, but it was a deeper feeling that I felt from the church/school itself.

Now you all probably know what the last is. Yep. The disgusting database of sexual abuse by priests. I am not here to write about that but when I told Woody I was going to church, he was shocked and said “do me one favor when you go”. “Think of our kids”.

I get it. I agree. I still went. I felt the need to go and trying to keep those horrific thoughts out of my head.

Prayer has always been something I believe in. I pray every night. Contemplative Prayer.

I have faith and I believe.

I do not believe you have to go to church to pray. Since Kelsey was struck by a car this September, I pray more and more. Shit, I have been praying so much I am actually enrolled in a 21 Days of Prayer to Change Your Life Course. It’s not a religious course. These are prayers about The Strength of Vulnerability, Letting Go, Forgiveness, The Power of Prayer and THANK YOU!! A big one for me. Anyway; back to my field trip to church.

I did not go alone. During a few of my classes, I have been talking about going back to church. One of my beautiful students, Mrs. Kate Liggett invited me to go with her. Kate talked about this young, “hip” priest at St. Martha’s. Kate described his physical appearance as “Jesus Christ”. The picture was embedded in my head. She said he was engaging, funny, and people love him. That is all I needed to hear.

Sunday after class I met Kate at Church.

I was nervous. My belly felt nauseous. That guilt of not being there in so many years was settling in.

We sat in the front.

Once the Priest got to the altar, I could not believe my eyes. He is young, hip, wore Dock Martins and had a Mala Bracelet on and holy shit; HE LOOKED LIKE JESUS!! Ha ha.

Not a grey hair in his hippie, long hair.

As mass began, I thought I had remembered the prayers of the catholic church, but that certainly changed. That’s how long it’s been.

Now it was time for The Sermon. I could not believe my ears. This priest started off talking about rock, paper, scissors and was engaging with the parishioners of all ages. People were laughing and participating. I could not stop smiling. I was 100% fully engaged.

Next up musical chairs!! I won’t get into the entire sermon, but the first thing that popped in my head was Wayne Dyer, his daughters book and the dharma and blog I wrote a few weeks ago. This priest reads Wayne Dyer!! We spoke about the same thing!! “Don’t Die with Your Music Still in You”.

As he continued to conclude his sermon; his ending was simple and true. “You never know when the music is going to stop, so live everyday like it’s your last”.

I finally found somewhere to go to listen to a really good dharma. Yoga for my mind and soul while sitting on the other side of an altar.

Thank you Kate!!!

xoxoxo

No More EXCUSES

Happy Sunday! I hope everyone had a nice weekend and not dreading tomorrow. If you are, why? Are you still in that place? The place of being stuck? Are you always making excuses?

Excuses of not finding a better job that will make you happy? Do you have a dream of starting your own business? Do you want to start that diet or maybe trying yoga or you want to start running?

What’s your excuse?

Are you constantly telling yourself it will be “too hard”? Risky? Do you find yourself so comfortable that you don’t know any other way of thinking?

Have you been criticized by a family member or spouse for years that made you think you are not strong enough? Smart enough? Too old? No energy? Too busy?

The list of excuses is long and you need to stop making them and start NOW.

This blog is short and I will leave you with a few affirmations and the link to my new purchase:

“Excuses BEGONE”-Dr. Wayne Dyer

  • I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.

  • Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live fearlessly.

  • I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.

  • I would rather be loathed for who I am than loved for who I am not

  • I am connected to an ultimate source of abundance.

  • I am willing to attract all that I desire, beginning here and now.

  • I have access to unlimited assistance. My strength comes from my connection to my source of being.

  • I am a creation of the divine mind; all is perfect and I am a genius of my own right.

  • I am an infinite being. The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.

All of these excuses, I once told myself and sometimes still do. Why? Because maybe there are still some birds chirping in my ear from the past or even current day.

I was not a good student. My second grade math teacher called me a “ding bat” and I hated school since and thought I was dumb for many, many years.

I am not a spring chicken and I am far from wealthy. I am happy.

What did I do? I stopped making excuses and I went for it. Now I am on another path. A path of a routine that includes many things.Currently, I am scattered. I need to set a schedule and stick to it with NO MORE EXCUSES. NO MORE GUILT. I know what I need to do.

“It’s the awareness…of how you are stuck, that makes you recover”-Fritz Perls

Happy Monday Eve my friends!

xoxox

Resume of Life

There are a few things that inspired me to write this blog. The first being Bayley’s post on Instagram. “Can cross this off my (b) list”. Congrats again to Bayley for finishing her first Half Marathon. For those of you who do not know Bay, she is a almost 20 year old teacher at SUKHA, a now Half Marathon Runner, a College Student, a Care-Giver for children, a daughter, sister, girlfriend, friend, cousin, niece, artisan and a diabetic. For 19 years young, Bayley is crossing things off her list. Congrats Bayley!!

We have told for years from our parents, teachers, and mentors “Stay with one job, it looks bad on your resume”. I disagree. Thanks mom. You never held me back from any of my wacky decisions. Each decision was a learning experience and helped me to grow and be who I am today.

I want to be able to tell my grandchildren that I did it all!! Or at least as much as I can mentally and physically handle.

When I was about 8 years old, I remember playing school and wanting to be a teacher. Then as I got older and being introduced to the New York Times Fashion Magazine, I then wanted to be a Fashion Designer/Merchandiser.

As a teenager, I was a waitress, a cashier at Shoprite. I worked concessions at PNC Art Center, I stuffed envelopes with travel brochures in NYC on the weekends with my mom. I attended Newbury College and received my degree in Fashion Merchandising. I worked at Prudential in NJ and Boston, Merrill Lynch, I even scooped Ice Cream and sold Fanny Farmer Candy then off to NYC where I did billing for a diamond company, then worked my up to Account Executive, then Merchandiser where I traveled to India for quality control.

Years later, I was blessed to have had the most challenging, gratifying, most under appreciated job in the world. I became a mom to two amazing children. When you become a mom, you add to your resume a nurse, a doctor, therapist, teacher, accountant, taxi driver, chef, maid, coach, disciplinarian, and a friend.

This will always be my number 1!

I sold jewelry and skin care products. I held Spa Classes carrying around bins and towels to give people at home spa parties. The list is long.

Oh the car business!! Who would have ever thought. I loved it and hated it. I learned so much as Director of Business Development and I have no regrets. Now years later, at 47, a Yoga Instructor, Small Business owner, Wellness Advocate and Blogger. Make the most from each one. Learn from your experiences. Share them.

These were only jobs/careers. Like Bayley, I have a list. Much has been crossed off, but there is more.

Guess what? I am not stopping here. Who knows what will be next. I am beating my own drum.

Do what you love and love what you do. Learn. Don’t stop because someone told you it looks bad on your resume. Try it all. Be a wealth full of knowledge. In one industry or multiple. Do what YOU want to do. Make your own decisions. Be kind, honest and compassionate. Inspire and motivate yourself and others. Run a 5k or a half. Hike. Paddle. Travel. Read. Write.

The last few days I have been listening to the most inspiring man; the late Wayne Dyer.

I will leave you with this:

“Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You”. -Wayne Dyer

For those who know me, you can see why this is so inspiring to me and how this blog all links together.

“Not dying with your music still in you is not about what you “do with” your life. It is about how you lead your life. Raising children to dance to the beat of their own drum means raising them first to hear, and then follow their own inner calling”-Serena Dyer

Don’t get caught up in what others tell you to do. Follow your heart and not others.

“When you follow the herd, you’re bound to step in shit. Avoid the herd. Think for yourself. Do what you feel is right for you”-SD

Teens: Study and continue to learn. Have fun. the right way. Never stop learning. I know you may hate it now, but trust me; Don’t “F” up. You are young. Learn to balance it all. You can do it!! DON’T FOLLOW THE HERD.

xoxoxox