What people think?
There are so many people, all ages that are so worried about what others think of us. The bottom line is it truly does not matter. When we constantly worry and it causes nothing but anxiety and unnecessary stress.
This morning in class I decided to read a great blog about just this topic, take it up a notch and bust out "To Be Real" and just start dancing. Not giving a shit what anyone thought. And guess what? It felt amazing and all of the 21 peeps in the room did the same.
Why do we care about what Jane Smith from the PTO thinks about us? Why?
It is time to UNFUCK ourselves as Hug Your Chaos has taught me, Let's re-wire our brains with positive thoughts and not negativity.
Start doing the work. Begin by digger deep within yourself because you deserve it and you should start showing the world what a beautiful human you are without trying to impress with stress.
Let's not take this the wrong way. We can and should CARE about others, their feelings and what they think. But if you find yourself becoming anxious and stressed over it, you need to figure out exactly why.
"We have an inside and an outside—an interior landscape and an exterior landscape. Our interior landscape is our subjective experience of our authentic self, while our exterior landscape is a product of our worldview. The two together create a psychosocial dynamic, but that dynamic has only one reference point, leaving us balancing self- and other-perception.
When this delicate balance shifts because we begin seeking approval, or attempting to control outcomes, we become externally focused and can literally lose sight of our essential nature. That essential nature is different from the ego-self—the self-image fed and influenced by what is outside of us. In looking out, rather than within, our sense-of-self and sense-of-place become clouded. The more we attempt to establish these sensibilities through external means, the more clouded our vision becomes and the further we get from our authentic self. Instead of being fully present in our social interactions, our thoughts and behavior become means for eliciting a response, rather than an expression of self-value.
The ego-self is a false self, a façade scripted by the demands of our context as we perceive them. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval. That need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk, which are fear-based. That fear derives from any number of sources, from our original premise concerning fear of rejection to a "less-than" mentality, all of which begs the question:
We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?
Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that, on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power, our full humanity, in the recognition that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us."-Psychology Today
Loose the stress of trying to impress. Your body knows you are not being authentic and that is causing stress and can lead to more dis-ease. And that feels so much wore than having someone dislike you.
Did you know that Ulcers are caused by fear? Fear of not being good enough because we can't stomach who we are and we rip our guts out everyday trying to please others. That's a pretty scary thought. Keep that in your mind when you are stressed over what people think of you and constantly trying to please others.
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