Well this week has been one for the books in the wonderful world of sports here at the Jersey Shore.
I love watching my daughter cheer and my son play sports.
I am a fan. A fan of all kids and young adults who play sports it does not matter what school or what town, county or "over the bridge" or "over the tracks". It is inspiring to watch them grow whether it is the same team or kids on the other team. I sit, watch, listen and observe. I am not a screamer. I am a fan. A fan of young athletes playing sports that THEY love.
This is something that I have been wanting to write about for a very long time. How parents behave at grade school and high school sporting events.
I clearly remember the first time. Biddy basketball. My son was 7. He had the ball, hauling ass to the basket. A dad (who never cared for me for some reason) stood up, screamed at his son "GET HIM NOW" "GET THAT KID"!!!
"That kid". Hmmmmmm..... I believe he knew his name VERY well. His eyes were bulging out of his head like he wanted to get on the court and take the ball himself. It's BIDDY basketball. Give me a f'in break you nut job.
Soccer season. First year playing and it was a good one for my son. One comment on parent behavior:
Please do not speak poorly about 13 year old boys. They are children. It is immature, disrespectful and the parent ALWAYS finds out.
A few weeks ago, I witnessed a few parents who were out of line and out of control at a 8th grade basketball game. The words, the actions and the behavior. Unreal. Another mom and I silently said "It's only 8th grade basketball, no one should behave like that". Two seconds later a head came in between the two of us and she stated "all parents act like this at games". Our reply; "not here".
This afternoon was another great game played by BOTH teams. Athletic, young, talented 8th grade boys coached by amazing, hardworking, giving, coaches. The boys played so hard on both teams. As I mentioned earlier, I enjoy watching how these boys have grown playing sports. They have been playing each other in hoops and baseball since they were little and it is wonderful to see how they have grown into young, talented teenagers. I always feel truly amazed and proud of the opposite team.
I usually sit alone. Today was one of those days. I sat on the bleachers with "fans" from the other team. This is what I heard:
"Jesus Christ Ref", "Oh my God he's holding". I will stop there.
hmmmmm.......We played a catholic school. Enough said.
This week there was a local basketball game that my daughter was cheering at. Fortunately and unfortunately, I was not there. I wish I was there to watch my daughter, I am so glad I was not there to witness the inappropriate, immature behavior from parents in the stands from the away team. Another catholic school. (and people knock public schools) Don't get me wrong here. I went to catholic school pretty much my entire life.
My soon to be 16 year old daughter was completely in shock from what she witnessed. A grown man, getting thrown out of his sons basketball game??? Adults stomping their feet, yelling at the coaches, refs and KIDS!!! Adults yelling at kids that are not their own at a High School basketball game?? WTF is going on?
Is this how you want your children to behave when they are adults watching their kids play sports?
Remember, kids are a product of their parents. Monkey see. Monkey do.
We all want our children to succeed in school, sports, college and in life. If they are doing well in anything, it makes us feel proud and happy. Let us all behave like adults at sporting events and set a good example for our children; our future.
Of course I did some homework.
Here are The Top Ten Rules of Expected Parental Behavior by Rick Wolff's WFAN Radio Show, The Sports Edge
- Parents should be seen, but not heard. Blend in with the woodwork. Don't draw attention to yourself.
- If you have something to say, it should only be a positive phrase. It's simple.
- NEVER OPENLY CRITICIZE your kid and whatever you do, NEVER CRITICIZE somebody else's kid.
- Please do not do a play by play of the game. Let the coaches coach.
- If you can't control your mouth, stand alone.
- Refs are not there to be abused.
- It's okay to applaud a nice play to the other team. We are trying to teach our kids to be good sports (I think) teach them to respect their opponents.
- Understand that YOU ARE A ROLE MODEL and they WILL follow your behavior.
- Give your kid a smile. Kids do look for parent approval. If you look like you are having a good time; so will they.
- If a coach or a ref tells you to calm down, take that seriously.
Let's all set good examples for our children by providing encouragement and support no matter what sport or activity they choose. We were their first teachers an we should remain the best teachers for the rest of their lives.
Be a FAN