You are Always Stronger than You Think

I have been feeling the need to re-introduce the teachers of SUKHA. 

So many students at SUKHA that have been practicing for over a year now still have few doubts in minds about their yoga practice. I will start out by saying this....you are all amazing and have the ability to do whatever you want whether it's a career, relationship, a home, or a new lifestyle. You are never too old, too fat, too skinny or don't have the money. If you continue to wire your brain with negative thoughts, you will be stuck for a long time.

Today I would like to share this blog by Amy. Amy has been with me since day 1. When I first started teaching. Amy was my only student. We learned together, practiced together and shared a lot together on this yoga road. Amy doubted herself for a long time about going to teacher training. I pushed her and she did with the confidence and determination to do it. And she did. Almost three years later, here she is....

Amy Sowul is a Brielle resident and mother to two boys.

She has been an instructor at Sukha for almost three years. Her classes are a mix of strength and grace, as she creatively takes you from pose to pose. She is always looking for mindful and challenging ways to improve upon the basics, paying close attention to the transitions.

Amy is a writer, poet and nature lover. She is an employee at Barlow Flower Farm where she connects to the beauty all around her. Check out her amazing photos of her passions on her Instagram page @asowul

Class description: Mindful Power Flow

This class is not about being intermediate or advanced. It is about taking the next step, and piecing together what you already know with the things you never tried. Most importantly this class is about faith in your body and it's ability to learn new things - despite your shape or size or age. You are always stronger than you think. 

Yoga Loves Your Curves.....Even if You Don't!!

Writing has been so healing for me the last three years as most of you know. After reading one of my first blogs the other day, I ended the blog by saying "I am not a writer and not pretending to be something I am not". A few years ago one of my former students said to me in response to that blog "you are a writer now". That response gave me confidence to continue whether I thought I was or not. Thank you!!

I do not write to get more likes or followers. I write because it is healing and it has helped me tremendously as I mentioned in my recent podcast with Coaches and Authors of Hug Your Chaos; Chris and Linds Jones. If you missed it, you can listen here by clicking link below. AFTER you read this amazing blog from Curvaceous Yoga Instructor, Jen Cory.

Since childhood, I have always had trouble speaking my truth/feelings in front of others. I am still getting to the root of that, but in the meantime, writing as allowed me improve my communication skills and working memory. It allows me to express exactly how I am feeling, clears my mind, and most importantly it opens up my eyes and mind about my struggles and successes.

After Jen Cory wrote her first blog introducing her new class at SUKHA, we spoke about the healing benefits of writing and Jen decided to write another inspirational blog for everyone to read.

Thank you Jen for sharing and inspiring so many others overcome their fear of yoga, overcoming insecurities and self-love.

Yoga Loves Your Curves….Even if You Don’t

By SUKHA Curvaceous Yoga Instructor Jen Cory

Throughout my yoga journey I’ve read many books, articles, blogs, and so on.  I’ve always been fascinated with the yoga life and the feeling that I get after I spend some time on my mat.  I crave that euphoric feeling and keep searching for a way to extend it throughout my daily life. For some reason, like many of us, I keep looking for the secret to living a truly authentic and happy life.  I’ve come to realize that I’m not going to find the answers in a book. I need to put in the work both on and off my mat. It’s something that I am still working on and will continue to do.

With my countless hours of researching and trying to find the key to happiness, I came across an idea that is very foreign to me.  In Anna Guest-Jelley’s book, Curvy Yoga, I read that yoga can help you accept and love your body!  What!? It sounds crazy and counter intuitive, and I didn’t believe it at first, but slowly I am beginning to understand.  If nothing else, yoga helps you to learn how to move your body through the asanas and teaches you to honor your body by doing what feels right for you.  No matter your size, shape, or stature! You don’t have to be a size 2 and look good in your matching outfit with the perfect ponytail or man bun. You simply have to be YOU!

Don’t get me wrong, I still have a lot of insecurities and am still working on accepting and loving my body.  Do I want to lose weight? Yes. Do I want to be healthier? Yes. Do I want to be stronger? Yes. But I am actively trying not to talk down to myself or focus on the negative.  When Maribeth hired me to teach a curvaceous yoga class I was excited! She believed in me, and more importantly wanted to help break the stigmatism of yoga only being for people with the perfect body.  So, I decided to embrace my body and put myself out there.

My first step was taking pictures to help promote the class.  This was NOT easy for me. I hate pictures of myself and am usually the first person to hide when a camera comes out.  Recently a few events in my life have made me realize that capturing important moments with family and loved ones is more important than my self-loathing and hiding from the camera.  I didn’t want to look back at my life and see photos with me missing. So, I decided I was going to go for it!

One Sunday afternoon I spent hours doing various poses with a really cool backdrop of a cement plant.  I really just jumped in and embraced it! I was even having a good time doing it. When I checked out the pictures, I actually liked some of them and didn’t cringe when I looked at them.  It was fabulous! I thought to myself, “wow, I’m starting to accept my body!” Then, on the very last pose of the day…...I fell! I stepped my foot back for Warrior II and quickly found out there was nothing there to catch me.  I dropped backwards on the ground hitting my head on a metal machine on the way down! Seven staples later, I look at those pictures and laugh. It is yet another reminder to me that this is a process and sometimes I’m going to fall…literally!  What matters is that I get back up and keep trying. This is exactly what I plan to do. Hope to see you on your mats.

Jen Cory

Curvaceous Yoga Instructor

Sukha The "Non-Intimidating" Yoga Studio

This is the one that did it!

 

Get Up and Keep Trying

Do You really Care.....

What people think?

There are so many people, all ages that are so worried about what others think of us. The bottom line is it truly does not matter. When we constantly worry and it causes nothing but anxiety and unnecessary stress.

This morning in class I decided to read a great blog about just this topic, take it up a notch and bust out "To Be Real" and just start dancing. Not giving a shit what anyone thought. And guess what? It felt amazing and all of the 21 peeps in the room did the same.

Why do we care about what Jane Smith from the PTO thinks about us? Why? 

It is time to UNFUCK ourselves as Hug Your Chaos has taught me, Let's re-wire our brains with positive thoughts and not negativity.

Start doing the work. Begin by digger deep within yourself because you deserve it and you should start showing the world what a beautiful human you are without trying to impress with stress.

Let's not take this the wrong way. We can and should CARE about others, their feelings and what they think. But if you find yourself becoming anxious and stressed over it, you need to figure out exactly why.

"We have an inside and an outside—an interior landscape and an exterior landscape. Our interior landscape is our subjective experience of our authentic self, while our exterior landscape is a product of our worldview. The two together create a psychosocial dynamic, but that dynamic has only one reference point, leaving us balancing self- and other-perception.

When this delicate balance shifts because we begin seeking approval, or attempting to control outcomes, we become externally focused and can literally lose sight of our essential nature. That essential nature is different from the ego-self—the self-image fed and influenced by what is outside of us. In looking out, rather than within, our sense-of-self and sense-of-place become clouded. The more we attempt to establish these sensibilities through external means, the more clouded our vision becomes and the further we get from our authentic self. Instead of being fully present in our social interactions, our thoughts and behavior become means for eliciting a response, rather than an expression of self-value.

The ego-self is a false self, a façade scripted by the demands of our context as we perceive them. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval. That need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk, which are fear-based. That fear derives from any number of sources, from our original premise concerning fear of rejection to a "less-than" mentality, all of which begs the question:

We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?

Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that, on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power, our full humanity, in the recognition that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us."-Psychology Today

Loose the stress of trying to impress. Your body knows you are not being authentic and that is causing stress and can lead to more dis-ease. And that feels so much wore than having someone dislike you.

Did you know that Ulcers are caused by fear? Fear of not being good enough because we can't stomach who we are and we rip our guts out everyday trying to please others. That's a pretty scary thought. Keep that in your mind when you are stressed over what people think of you and constantly trying to please others.

Be Real

Be You

Dance

Sing

Laugh

Smile

xoxoxox

Don't forget to Follow SUKHA on Insta @sukha_south

Divorce. Relationships. Heart Chakra.

Now this post is way overdue and very hard for me to write. It's time. 

This heart of mine is a tough one. Someone once told me years ago it was frozen along with all of the veins attached. I think that was the first time I ever realized it truly was and it need to be thawed out. But how? Why was I so cold in certain situations? 

Years later, in my early forties, I started to learn about this through yoga, Reiki, Rain Drop Therapy, Card Readings, and learning from amazing women whom I give all  credit. But if Maryjo reads this she will say that I did all the work and she just gave me to tools. Thanks MJ. Love you and thanks.

I am not going to sit here and play the blame game on my parents because we are all victims of victims and they could not have taught us anything they did not know themselves. Although I do believe that my father not being present had a lot to do with it. He did not know how to love himself so therefore, he could not teach me how to do the same. As we grow up, we have a tendency to re-create that early home life. And yes, I did, but got out due to the fact that I was beginning to see myself as my mother sitting, waiting and wishing. 

As a tween I never had self confidence, I thought I was ugly because kids told me I was. I never thought I was good enough to have a boyfriend and that was the case for years. Yes,  I "dated", but never had a SERIOUS boyfriend that I truly cared for and that truly cared for me until junior year of high school. And of course I fucked that up. Years later I finally figured out that it was a fear, a heart blockage and deep down I did not think I was worthy to have such a great guy. Unfortunately, we choose our thoughts and the "I'm not good enough" was one that deep down was running through my veins for years. I am not funny enough, rich enough, skinny enough, athletic enough, etc....how the hell could I have ever created a loving, happy, healthy relationship with that subconscious belief?

Let's fast forward because the past is the past. It is over and done but I can change my thoughts about the past and that has been step 1. To release the past we need to forgive. Forgive everyone and most importantly ourselves. I'm almost there, but I found my self giving the out a few weeks ago.

Going on 13 years divorced, single for the majority. Dated here and there, creeped on a bit, stalked, made stupid mistakes and learned lessons from all of them. I was not ready for a committed relationship. I love being alone and the easy feeling of not having to answer to anyone, not share a bed, a bathroom and just do my own thing when I want and how I want and being independant. And most importantly for my kids. I refused to make the mistake most newly divorced men and women do. They jump right in. Some don't even wait until the ink is dry and this makes me crazy. Every divorced man or woman need to heal and it doesn't matter who cheated, who doesn't love anymore, or who did what. HEAL friends. HEAL first. Don't let your home be a revolving door and most importantly, not with kids. They fear abandonment, just like we do. My children are happy in this very quiet, small house on the tracks. There is no yelling, fighting or screaming and no egg shells to be walked on. In my opinion, I have made very good decisions in this department. My children come first before anyone or anything. Fully 100% present.

For the divorced men who feel the need to jump in because they "need someone to cook, clean or take care of them when they are sick"; try to do for yourself for a while or go back home to mom. For the divorced ladies who "don't want to go back to work or need the security": GET A FUCKING JOB. Start your dream job/career. MAKE IT HAPPEN. I know you can do it!!

 Heal so you can be in a healthy relationship and not continue to revisit old wounds and get back in another crappy relationship. When you jump in and find yourself attracting the same people and you are always complaining about it and trying to find the answer, well; the answer is you have not healed.

Back to the heart. It's pretty open. But it doesn't take long to close up again. I have the most amazing boyfriend that anyone could ever ask for. He's kind, loving, thoughtful, understanding, mushy, genuine, sweet, loyal, a yogi, fuckin hot as hell and funny.  How he puts up with me is mind blowing. He has opened my heart and knows me so well when it is starting to freeze up. WHY?? It must still be fear and those stupid thoughts of me not deserving someone like him. A few weeks ago I said to myself that he deserves someone better. Why? We make a great couple. We laugh, have so much in common and the chemistry is there. Why is it that I want to shut down? I have no interest in ANYONE else but him.

This fuckin heart chakra drives me cra cra. Our heart chakra is the fourth primary chakra located in the center of the human body and is associated with love and understanding, What causes this chakra to get blocked? Emotional pain, caused by bad memories, old programming, emotions and even overthinking. In my case, I do not believe it is overthinking. That part was fixed years ago. I am proud to say, I live in the present moment and have so many things going on that I don't have time to overthink.

As I am writing and thinking it could be that hold onto emotions and this could cause the blockage or just procrastinating for the reason of time and the amount I have on my plate.

Whatever it may be, I will continue to stay connected to myself and know when the heart is starting to close and work on myself everyday. This process does not happen over night and there is not a magic pill that will cure the blockage forever. 

The bottom line is this....

I am so grateful to have someone who understands me and all of this chakra healing stuff and someone who can fully admit he has healing to do as well. You see real men understand it, and know when to leave the ego at the door. Real men admit to their flaws. Real men understand authenticity. Oh; and real men do yoga!! ha

Thank you for being real and thawing out my heart and understanding when it starts to freeze up. I take 100% responsibility for doing the work/healing. Thank you for making me smile and always listening.

Thank you all for reading. Continue to do the work-in my friends.

When we really love , accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works. Our health improves, our relationships become more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in fulfilling ways. Loving and approving of yourself, creating space of safety, trusting, deserving and accepting, will create organization in your minds, creating loving relationships, maybe a new job, or a better place to live. Whatever it may be.  Try to approve of yourself, do the work and see what happens.

WRITE my friends.

It's so healing. 

xoxoxox

mb

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Yoga Helps Women in Midlife

A few weeks ago I received a email asking if I would post a "guest blog" for Meera Watts.

Meera Watts is a yoga teacher, entrepreneur and mom. Her writing on yoga and holistic health has appeared in Elephant Journal, CureJoy, FunTimesGuide, OMtimes and others. She’s also the founder and owner of Siddhi Yoga, a yoga teacher training school based in Singapore. Siddhi Yoga runs intensive, residential trainings in India (Rishikesh, Goa and Dharamshala), Indonesia (Bali)

Once I saw the topic and read the blog it was a no brainer. "How yoga helps women in midlife"!! Duh. How could I not? I am there. After just turning 47 years young and notice what yoga has done for me and so many of my students that are mostly around the same age. Some are younger, but that's okay because guess what girls?? Time flies and you will be "midlife" before you know it. I am so proud of all of the young men and women that get on their mats at such a young age and overly impressed by the ones who really get it and not just for the leggings and the "trend".

With that being said, it is my pleasure to post this great blog written by Meera Watts.

Going through midlife isn't easy. It's that point where you suddenly feel trapped, tired, and miserable. It's like time sucked your enthusiasm and you're left clueless about what to do with your life.

For women, midlife can be twice as challenging. This is why most of them try so hard to hide from it and avoid talking about it. They refuse to acknowledge the changes they are going through and that makes things a lot harder.

This is where yoga becomes beneficial. If you're still not doing it, here are some of the most important benefits you're missing out.

Stress management

Stress is something you can't easily avoid. Whether it's at work or at home, you're bound to experience stressful situations that can make you feel worse.

The problem with stress is that it can make your decision making and problem-solving skills dull. It can even make you physically ill.

By performing yoga on a daily basis, you'll be able to increase your feel-good hormones while lowering the levels of the stress hormone cortisol in your body. When the hormones and chemicals in your body return to their normal levels, your body will  be able to experience balance which can improve your overall health.

Improve your bodily functions

As you age, your body experiences a decline in function. This puts you at an increased risk for several illnesses, like diabetes and heart diseases.

By putting your mind and body in a relaxed state, both your blood pressure and blood sugar become lower. Even the hormones that affect the way your blood clots and heart pumps become more stable.

Better sleep

Insomnia and other sleep problems tend to get worse with age. As you constantly worry about your work, family, health, and finances, sleep becomes less and less satisfying for you. A busy work schedule can also make it hard for you to get proper sleep.

And when you fail to get enough sleep, a lot of health problems come up. Even your mood becomes affected that you become chronically grumpy. You'll find it hard to stay focused and calm, too.

Yoga has this unique way of making it easier for one to fall asleep. It can even improve the quality of sleep so you can wake up feeling well rested and rejuvenated.

Better fitness

Because of the changes women experience in their body during their midlife years, it's perfectly normal for them to feel frightened about going out and exercising. There's always the fear of getting injured or creating more harm than good.

However, contrary to what most women believe in, yoga isn't entirely bad once you reach your midlife years. Unless you have spine problems or issues with balance, it's totally safe for you to practice yoga. It's actually a great way to stay in shape, particularly if you aren’t a fan of intense workout routines.

Increases energy

Your midlife years mark the moment when most of your body processes slow down. As a result, you get tired easily and you start to lose energy. Partnered with stress, your energy levels can get worse.

There are yoga poses you can do to combat stress and improve your energy.

The Cobra Pose is one great example. It opens up 4 chakras within your body while reducing stress, tension, and fatigue. The Downward Dog, Bow Pose, Shoulder Stand, and Fish Pose are excellent options as well.

Take note that although those poses can boost your energy, they aren’t for everyone. If you aren’t sure if it’s right for you, consider consulting your doctor or yoga instructor.

In Conclusion

Yoga offers tons of benefits and most of us are already aware of that. For women in midlife, however, they are extra helpful. From enhancing their sleep quality to boosting their overall health, practicing it on a daily basis can make the process a lot less stressful and easier to cope with.

Of course, you’ll need patience and dedication before you see results. While yoga is effective, it’s still not an overnight miracle. You need to be consistent in practicing it on a daily basis.


 

A Better Boat

It’s that time of year again but this year I decided not to count the minutes, the days or the months that I have been here on this earth. (But I may do a cute post with a sign that says how many months old I am) ha

Counting just makes it seem that much longer and make the hand on the clock move that much faster. I am learning to try and slow the fuck down. I breathe in, I breathe out.

I started writing this blog a few days before my 47th birthday. For the simple reason of time. It flies by, there is not enough of it, time is precious, of the essence, an illusion, on my side, it heals wounds, time is not wasted if you enjoy doing what you are doing. And that is EXACTLY it. I am enjoying everything that I am doing.

This past year I have learned so much personally and professionally. I have dug deep and looked on the inside on what I needed to work on, what my triggers are and the things I need to fix to continue to evolve. And I have done the same with others. I have felt their energy, sadness and fear, happiness and relief, bitterness and resentment. Authenticity and fake. It was a year of digging, learning and clearing. I have increased awareness to interpret myself and others much deeper than before on so many different levels. And I wanted to share what I have learned during year 46.

Lately, it has been the onion and the mask. Reading, thinking and trying to figure it all out. Let’s remove the first layer of the onion my friends. Take off the mask. Behave and appear the same everyday and everywhere. Stop hiding your authentic self. Although I have seen many “true colors shining through” this last year. Do the inner work!! Once you dig you will realize what a great person you are. Lose the ego. Peel back the layers and be yourself. Stop following the crowds, and show up where you want, when you want and most importantly walk in without a mask. Throw it in the trash. Because guess what? That is exactly where it belongs.. And I don’t give a shit what town or county you live in or what car you drive or how big your house is. You are all amazing, beautiful beings. Show the real you. Thinka bout this...After the mask comes off, begin peeling off all of the layers. What's left?

" I ain't lonely, but I spend a lot of time alone. More than I'd like too. But I'm okay with staying home. My how the last few months have changed. I'm smiling more despite the pain"

Yes!! I am not sure what happened. From extrovert to introvert!! I am actually proud to have this come out of mouth. Most treat introverts as weird  or a personality trait. Some just get physically exhausted by spending a lot of time with other people. I have found that I need alone time to rest and recharge so I can continue to do what I do everyday. I sit and enjoy life without being in constant motion with others. Maybe it's because I am now 100% aware and tapped into those who are authentic and those who are not and I prefer to be around authenticity. I choose wisely.

Happy Hump Day, July 18th. I am back continuing the blog for what I have learned during year 46.There is so much I want to write and it may just be a mish mosh of crap so bare with me.

Let’s go back to 1973. I was two years old and I specifically remember watching The Wizard of Oz belly down with my hands under my chin, close to the big, old school, hand channel changer tv with 2, 4,5, 7, 11 and 13. I buried my head everytime that scary, green faced, screechy wicked witch with those cheesy long ass nails would come on the screen. It didn't take so long for me to stare at the screen and look her straight in the eyes. After 45 years of watching this movie over and over again I always found a new meaning. A deeper meaning. But nothing as deep as this amazing book I discovered just a few months ago. I have shared it in class but feel the need to share it today, on my 47th Birthday. This movie is a part of me. It always was and always will be.

“It is a story we remember, believe, and cherish in our hearts. To each generation, the story rises and blooms anew in the psyche. It is a story invested with all of our potentials and highest ideals, as well as our shadows and terrors.  It speaks to the basic human need for companionship. It is innocent and sincere. As it remembers a golden age in our past, it simultaneously portrays a technological golden age in the immediate future. We find the security of place, the assurance that we have in us a sufficiently of capacities to confront evil and survive, and the ability to trust in our own enormous untapped potentials.  Then, like Dorothy, we can come back and re-green the wasteland, the Kansas of our lives. We are OZ. In any mythic structure we may identify with the hero, but in truth we contain all of the characters. Dorothy might be any one of us. Or we might be the Tin Man in our longing to feel loving connections, the Scarecrow seeking our true intelligence, or the Cowardly Lion seeking courage. We contain the Great and Powerful Wizard. What would happen if we dared to dip into this high and holy magic within ourselves??”-The Wizard of Us.

This movie has so many lessons that so many of us can learn from and The Wizard of Us is one book that I am learning from everyday. It just makes sense to me. I can relate 100%.

For many years on this earth, I cared so much of what others thought of me. The last few, specifically this last I have finally removed that completely out of my head. It no longer exists. Theo Roosevelt said it best “I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do” That is character!”

I have taken the time to really figure out who I would like in my life. Those who I value, respect and trust and those who respect and value me just the same. Those who are real, who lead and don’t follow. The people who can understand and accept decisions I have made or need to make and some were harder than others that’s for sure. Each decision has been a true lesson and wake up call that goes back to wearing masks and living a truly authentic life. I have made a commitment to myself to send only love, kindness and sympathy to those who portrayed themselves to be something they are not. I have let go of the situations that have occured. From phony emails and phone calls to cards and letters blowing smoke up my ass saying how much I changed their lives and then once things didn’t go their way; the real people under those masks appeared.

“A balanced individual is free to make the choice to change something if they’re comfortable with feedback that may be unflattering”-Wayne Dyer

Oh boy, did I get feedback. Ha ha.

I will continue to go on a rampage of appreciation rather than discussing the evils of the world and take every opportunity to continue to radiate joy whether you are on my side or not. Today, as I am approaching my 47th birthday I am sending nothing but hug and kisses to the evils of my world and everyday hope that halos are given and pitchforks are thrown in the trash along with the masks. Thank you for the lessons.

Boundaries.

Now this has taken a long time for sure and I am still working on it and the first step has been to practice self-awareness personally and professionally. SUKHA is a place of business and not a free for all. I will no longer allow a student or teacher to dictate or demand how I operate. I am always open to suggestions and there is now a suggestion box in the studio. In the beginning of my journey I have let too much get by. I have had past students drive to my house and threaten me if I raised prices, I have had negative comments thrown at me if I did not come around with oils, etc...Of course we all know people such as these have so much inner work to do. They just don’t seem to get the true meaning of yoga. With that being said, in November of 2017, I had felt like I failed as a teacher. With the number one thing coming to mind-”Did they not listen to ANY of my dharma talks? Holy shit, all the time and preparation and they still don’t get it but that’s okay. I get it now. I now fully understand that not everyone thinks they have healing to do and that many only think of yoga for the physical benefit or a social hour. Some people make situations so easy to walk away from. (Especially when you have a bird chirping in your ear front and center that likes to stir the pot)

I will continue to share even if some don’t fully understand the real reason why I am here

and what I am teaching and sharing. I congratulate everyone of my students who are on their authentic journey and practice yoga for the work-in.

As far as the personal boundaries go, well; I believe I am almost there with certain people that will unfortunately be in my life for a long time.

"I breathe in. I breathe out. What ain't working, what's still hurting. All the things I feel like cussing out."

Always remember, no person, no place, and no thing has any power over you, for you are the only thinker in the situations you create. When you create peace, harmony and balance in your mind you will find it in your life.
 

Competition.

It is only a word. Something I do not want to participate in. When I first opened SUKHA I was expecting peace, love and happiness from all and that was not the case. But again. That’s okay.  When it comes to the “C” word the best thing for me to do is mind my own business and that is exactly how I operate. I still struggle with others stealing Intellectual Property. Everyday I try to now to send peace to those who can’t seem to think for themselves, it’s been challenging, but I’m getting there. I am always flattered, but it still gets me heated. The hours and time brainstorming for someone else to steal? Ugh.

From the bottom of my heart, all yogis are welcome to SUKHA to practice. Not to spy,or have any alternative motive but to practice. And keep in the back of your mind that SUKHA is not only for beginners and we leave egos at the door and continue to keep it real. On the mat and off. On the screen and off. My wish is for yoga instructors all over the world to share this beautiful practice with as many people as possible and from the  heart, I wish you all nothing but the best on this magical, yet challenging venture. Always remember to be yourself. Teach how you want to teach and what feels right to you. Be your authentic self and teach that way. Let go of the script and teach from your heart. Your book and your lessons. Make people smile.

Healing.

Even at this age I am healing every freakin day. Healing from old wounds, present day bruises and learning to accept things that I can’t change.

I am trying to figure myself out and this is just the emotional healing. What I have learned is that any physical problems are caused from emotional issues that we carry and hold on to and I have many. This year I have found the root cause of a few and have found ways to heal through juice, essential oils, and making a change to my diet and letting go and removing blockages caused by people, places, and food.

To end this mish mosh of a blog, I would like to end with this:

I am proud of my flaws and I have so many and I will continue to work on them everyday.

I breathe in. I breathe out.

“We are each responsible for all of our experiences.

Every thought we think is our future.

The point of power is always in the present moment.

Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt.

The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough”.

It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

We create every so-called illness in our body.

Resentment, criticism, and guilt are the most damaging patterns.

Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer.

We must release the past and forgive everyone.

We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves.

Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are keys to positive change.

When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”-Louise Hay

Thank you for reading, learning, practicing and sharing with me everyday. It’s going to be a great ride and I wouldn’t jump off just yet if I were you. :)

"I think I'm stronger than I was. I breathe in, I breathe out. I got friends to call who let me talk about. What ain't working, what'still hurting. All the things I feel like cussing out. Now and then I let go around the waves I can't control. I'm learning how to build a better boat"-Kenny Chesney

Listen to it here. It's a good one! (Amy may even like it) :)

 

 

Be Confident. Be Inspired. Be Yourself. A Blog from Jen Cory.

Once again it is my absolute pleasure to announce Curvaceous Yoga at SUKHA starting next Wednesday, July 25th with Jen Cory.

The last few years has been so incredible inspiring others to get on a yoga mat for the first time and having them leave happy and confident no matter what age, shape, size or gender. Now there are specific classes for all.

Jen emailed me this amazing blog about her yoga journey as a "Curvaceous Yogi". Very inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story with us. 

Be Confident
Be Inspired
Be Yourself

Yoga has been a part of my life on and off for the past 20 years. I would always
start and stop my practice yet my mat kept calling me back. I would spend hours
searching out studios looking at the teacher’s pictures and bios trying to work up the
courage to walk through that door. Why you ask? Well because I am not your typical
yogi. I am overweight and not athletic in the least.

Walking through the door of multiple yoga studios was the hardest thing
for me. I knew I loved yoga, I knew I was good at it, yet I knew I would feel judged.
Some days I was able to manage a brave smile while the teachers looked me up and
down or told me “just try your best.” Other days it would shake me to my core sending
me running out of the studio after class to cry in my car. Never to return again. Yet
somewhere in the back of my mind I said to myself, “I want to be a yoga teacher!” Then
my self-doubt would return and I’d push it to the back of my mind.
About two years ago I found myself called to my mat once again. I started
practicing regularly and began to push aside my self-doubt. Slowly that voice in my
head changed and started to say, “So what! Let them look! Let them doubt! Let me
prove them wrong!” I enrolled in Yoga Teacher Training and was determined to see it
through. I had a goal and I wasn’t going to let my self-doubt or other’s assumptions
hold me back anymore.
Don’t get me wrong….it was Difficult! I began my 6-month teacher training
journey with determination and excitement. Little did I know how hard it would be.
Even where I thought I would be safe among a small group of fellow yogis (six women),
I was judged, stared at, and looked down upon. I still had to deal with comments about
my weight and abilities. There were times that I left the long weekends of training
heartbroken, discouraged, and ready to throw in the towel. Yet I didn’t!

Enough was Enough! I was DETERMINED to finish what I had set out to
do, to become a yoga teacher. I promised myself to be a yoga teacher who would be
inclusive of all bodies. I was determined to make sure that all people who attend my
class would feel safe and not judged or intimidated! That’s why when Maribeth asked
me to teach a Curvaceous yoga class at Sukha the Non-Intimidating yoga studio I was
thrilled! If I can help someone to love yoga and be able to find their yoga practice and
better yet, believe in themselves…. then count me in!
Is it still hard? Yes. Is it still scary putting myself out there and being so brutally
honest? Yes. Is it still embarrassing having my name attached to a Curvaceous class,
saying aloud to the world that I am a curvaceous yoga teacher? Yes. Is it worth it?
Hell Yes! If I can do it, then anyone can do it. That is exactly what I hope to convey to my students! Hope to see you on your mats Wednesdays 4:30-5:30.

Namaste,
Jen Cory-Curvaceous Yoga Teacher

IMG_6126.jpg

Akashic Records Readings at SUKHA

As you all know, I share what I learn and experience. This afternoon I had the amazing experience of Akashic Record Reading with Viki Quirk. I have been thinking about blogging the entire reading, but I have decided to share in class or give all of you the opportunity to experience this reading for yourselves. Truly amazing, eye opening and healing.

Imagine a place where you can obtain answers to any questions you have about yourself.  The answers are given to you by Ascended Masters and Teachers as well as other guides who have been charged with not only storing and protecting your sacred information, but also with assisting you in remembering your divine light and path.  This place is known as your Akashic Record and it is the energy of your soul. 

Do you need clarity, direction or more healing in your life? The loving,healing energy of the Akashic Records is a profound tool for self-exploration and empowerment.

In this 30 minute reading, Viki will ask your permission to enter your Akashic Record and act as the vessel for the conversation between you and your Record Keepers.  You will be able to explore a question or two you have about past lives, life purpose, or receive general information. 

Viki Quirk is a contemporary healer who believes the power to heal lies within the individual. Her work in this field started with Pilates back in 2009 when she earned her certification to teach through Pilates Academy International and Ellie Herman Studios in Brooklyn, NY.  Over the years, she has increased her knowledge and understanding of the physical body through continuing education studies on safe spine practices with Rebecca Leone and pre/postnatal with Debbie Goodman.

The more she learned about the body and worked closely with clients, she saw that the emotional, energetic, and spiritual experiences all play a role in wellness.  In an effort to provide comprehensive guidance and support to those she works with, Viki pursued additional certifications such as Reiki in the tradition of Dr. Usui Shiki Ryoho, learning to access the Akashic Records for healing with Vanessa Codorniu, and Breathwork first with Erin Teldford and then master teacher David Elliott.

Viki moved her practice to Monmouth County in 2016 where she currently lives with her husband, young son, and their dog.   

These readings will be held on the following dates in three 30 minute time slots.

Tuesday, August 7th

7:00 pm

7:30 pm

8:00 pm

Friday, August 17

11:00 am

11:30 am

12:00 pm

$30 for 30 minute private reading. Readings will be held at SUKHA individually. 

Are You Living Courageous and Free?

Today we celebrate Independence Day. Music Speaks Dharma has been my description of all of my classes since I started SUKHA in 2015 and I traditionally teach all of the holidays. By now, many try to do the same, and I am so honored to have inspired others.

I decided today I would change it up slightly and steer away from the normal July 4th class.

Independence-" the fact or state of being independent. self-determination, freedom" 

Independent- "free from outside control; not depending on others authority"

You see, I am very independent. Always was and always will be. I can honestly say that if I was dependent, I would not be living a truly authentic life.

Many people live in a state of co-dependence and allow others to shape our beliefs and decisions from how to dress, political views, financial decisions and so many other things that we forget who we really are and this I can't seem to digest. (it gets my blood boiling)

Independence is knowing who you are, owning it, being aware of boundaries, saying no, speaking your truth, being clear on exactly what you want and most importantly respecting yourself and owning your life.

Today, start making your own decisions, give yourself permission to think, feel, support, love and do whatever the fuck makes you happy.

How the hell do people survive, achieve and live a life based on what someone else dictates to them?

America is the LAND OF THE FREE!! Get your shit together and start living your life, YOUR WAY.

The place where we can do whatever we wish. So let's do it. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart, your dreams, wear what you want, be whoever you want, travel, quit the job that you are constantly complaining about and find a new one, stop bitching and start doing. Stop asking permission and advice from the people that will tell you "don't do it". (this will be for another dharma)

America. "Home of the Brave"

Are you courageous? Do you step into your true self? Do you tell your story? Are you afraid of making decisions on your own? What is holding you back from having the courage to do what you want? Is it you that keeps telling yourself that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, educated enough or is it someone from the past or the present that has planted these thoughts in your head. Those thoughts are going to stop TODAY!!

"Courage is required in almost every basic human activity or endeavor. For instance, to allow oneself to love and commit to another person takes courage. Separating from our parents and forging an independent life for ourselves is a courageous act. To survive an abusive, traumatic or neglected childhood or relationship with dignity and integrity demonstrates courage and resilience." -Wizard of Us

Stop basing your dreams and decisions on someone else. Put on your big girl/big boy pants and take the step into independence. You will begin to start doing everything that inspires you on your terms. Stop wasting time living someone else's life.

Let's begin to have the confidence, courage, self-love to live the life you want to live. In the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.

Be happy

Be healthy

Be strong

Be free

Be Brave

Today and always

Have a Happy Independent Life!

Curvaceous Yoga

I am so excited, proud and grateful to offer a new class at SUKHA starting Wednesday, July 25th at 4:30 pm.

SUKHA has been and always will be The "Non-Intimidating" Yoga Studio. At SUKHA it is our goal to make everyBODY feel comfortable no matter what shape, size, age, or gender. 

Let's face it yoga can be intimidating. From yoga photos on social media to people automatically jumping to the conclusion you have to sit in stillness, listen to "yoga music the entire time, get a lotus tattoo, go vegan, drink smoothies, stop shaving, drown yourself in Patchouli Oil, be a size 0-4 and wear yoga pants that cost $150. 

It can still be scary to attend a class for the first time no matter what. My goal is to share this practice with as many people as possible. 

It is my pleasure to announce "Curvaceous Yoga" to SUKHA with the beautiful Jennifer Cory.

Please welcome Jennifer Cory to SUKHA.

I am an elementary school teacher in Howell Township for over 10 years.   Yoga has always been a part of my life. For many years I would start practicing and then stop.  A few years ago, I found myself called to yoga again and began practicing regularly. I was beyond happy when I achieved my goal of becoming a RYT 200!  Not only do I practice myself on the mat, but I bring yoga to my students in school. I am a certified RCY-30 soon to be RCY-95. Sharing my practice with others is my passion and I look forward to coming to the Sukha community!

Class Description:

This class welcomes all levels of yoga students.  It’s perfect for those of us with a little bit more to love!  You will learn adjustments that suit your soul as well as your body.  AnyBODY can do Yoga!

Thank you Jennifer and Welcome to SUKHA!!

New Classes at SUKHA

I am so excited to announce new classes at SUKHA this summer.

There will be three new classes with three amazing women who practice at SUKHA.

Gentle Yoga with Cathy Higgins!!!

Cathy will be teaching every Sunday at 10:30.

Here is a bit about our friend Cathy:

After 32 years as an elementary teacher, I decided it was time to retire 2 years ago. I had spent 20 years with the Barnegat Twp. school system and another 12 in Jackson Twp. while being married and raising our two boys. Towards the end of my career, I was also battling chronic Lyme disease and coinfections. There were days I had to drag myself out of bed and into school, counting the hours until I could go home and nap. It wasn't fair to my students or me, so I decided it was time to leave.

I had "dabbled" in yoga during different stages of my life: high school, prenatal classes before the birth of our first son, and some Saturday classes at a local studio about 10 years ago. I say, "dabbled" because I never stuck with it. Life got in the way: college, motherhood, work, closed studios, and I let it. That first September that I didn't return to teaching, I was drawn to yoga again. I enrolled in yoga classes being offered by the Ocean County Vocational School adult education program and began taking classes there twice a week. It was hard. Although I was feeling a lot better due to my Lyme treatment, I was pretty out-of-shape and overweight. I could barely hold a plank and downward facing dog was hard, too. I took a lot of child's poses at first, but I pushed myself and I didn't quit. As my body became stronger, I found myself loving how I felt, not just physically, but spiritually. The asana, the teachings, the philosophy, the chanting, I loved it all and I wanted more. I signed up for the Spring session at OCVTS, and when Summer came, I found Sukha...happiness. After taking classes there that summer, I learned about their teacher training program scheduled to begin in September, and I knew I needed to be a part of it. Boy, am I glad that I did! It has changed me for the better, not because I can hold a plank or do chaturanga, it has changed me on the inside, and I strive to be a better person today than I was yesterday. It's hard, the inside work, but SO worth it.

I look forward to helping others learn about yoga, and feeling the difference it can make for them, too.

Slow Flow with Gloria Hermo every Thursday 5:00 pm

Slow Flow
This class welcomes all levels of yoga students, ideal for beginners or people getting back into yoga after an injury. We will warm up working our way into a slow flow, relaxation will include an aromatherapy scalp massage. Sending you on your way feeling confident and relaxed.

Gloria is a RYT-200 who hopes to provide a nurturing and safe space where you can feel comfortable to be yourself while exploring your body as it progresses through patience and practice.
As a licensed massage therapist she focuses on helping clients struggling with injuries offering modifications for their individual needs.
She believes wholeheartedly that yoga inspires a happy healthy way of life. She is honored to join Sukha’s “non-intimidating” community. 

Coming in July "Curvaceous Yoga" with Jenn Cory.

A class for the full figured learning movement and adjustments that suit your souls as well as your body.

Full description, bio and class times to follow.

Please welcome Cathy and Gloria to the SUKHA Teacher Community. 

Download the FREE SUIKHA app for class times.

New Friends 5 classes for $50. As a courtesy, please download the FREE SUKHA app and sign into class prior to arrival. 

To My Graduate.

June 19, 2018

Well, today is the day!! You are graduating 8th grade at Brielle. It feels like yesterday when you started and you probably don’t remember but you didn’t want to leave my side. I hope you never do.

Patrick, I wanted to write you this today to tell you how extremely proud I am of you. You worked really hard in school and in everything you put your mind to. Baseball, Basketball, Soccer and school work. This year I received emails that I didn’t want to get, but that’s okay. It’s all part of growing up and ready to “get out” of the school you have been in for years. I get it. As long as you learned a lesson from each one. Remember that I will ALWAYS have your back if you are not at fault or blamed for something you did not do. (I will always ask for proof and do my homework)

You are starting a new chapter in your book and I know that you will continue to work hard at everything that you do. Continue to stay focused in school and on the field and you will go far in this life. Respect your teachers, coaches and peers. Be a leader and not a follower. Stay healthy. For you only have one body in this life and you need to take good care of it.

Have fun, but learn how to balance it all. Study!! If there is one thing that does not come easy to both you and I, that’s school work; but that’s okay. Work hard, play hard, show up, listen and lift others and it will all pay off.

Remember that having fun does not mean drinking just because you are in High School or because others are doing it or because others think it’s cool. It’s really not that cool and definitely not all that fun and it will make you slow, sick, silly and chubby. Make good decisions, not stupid ones. Choose your friends and girlfriends wisely. Observe and take note carefully of peers and their parents. Children are a reflection of their parents. Keep those eyes wide open.

Be a sponge. Listen and learn.

Be a player on the field and not with the girls.

Think for yourself. Do not let others talk you into doing something that doesn’t feel right. Always go with your gut, listen to your heart and always ask dad or I if you are not sure; whatever it may be.

I look forward to this next chapter in your life and I am so happy that I am able to watch you everyday grow into the man you are becoming.

You are and always will be the man of my house (12 years and many more) and the sunshine of my life. There are so many days I wish I could still rock you to sleep, and lay in my bed and watch movies with you. I miss that and I hope one day you will ask me to watch a movie or ride bikes, or have a race. Time went by too fast and I miss my little boy.

Please continue to shine bright. Smile always. Stand tall. Walk with your head high always. Stay sweet. Respect all life especially the girls. Be true to your feelings and be honest with them. Remember, lying gets you nothing but caught. Especially with me. (ha)

Shake hands always with a firm grip, look people in the eyes, say thank you, hold doors for everyone, play the game on the field, in the classroom and in life. I know sometimes its hard, but you have to do it in order to win this amazing game called LIFE.

I love you Patrick James. Congrats on 8th Grade Graduation.

 

The Ideal Dad

Happy Dad's Day to all!

For those who have been taking my class or read my blogs, you know my past. I am not getting into that today. If you would like to read, all of the blogs can be found on sukhayogaclass.com under "New Blog".

I hope all of you dads have a great day whatever it is that you are doing. Hopefully it's spending the day with your children. Especially, if you work crazy hours throughout the day and get home late at night. 

I have decided to call this day, "Dads Day"!!

You see there's a  big difference between what makes a Father and a Dad. A father is someone who believes that by just creating you by having sex and sending his sperm off for creation, he has done his duty in life with little emotional investment. A dad is someone who gets up every day and does whatever he can do support, guide, and most of all be present. It is just not about providing food and roof our their children's heads. There is so much more in my opinion.

You become a father at birth, you earn the title of dad.

What does The "Ideal Dad" look like in my head? A role model for boys and girls. Physically and mentally strong. The dad who helps around the house, gets up at any hour the night or gets on the floor to play or outside to play catch. A man who can do this without being short of breathe, who lives a healthy lifestyle and is driven to do life a long life to see his children grow old. A dad who shows love, kindness and compassion,  and admits when he'w wrong and not perfect. A man who leaves his ego at the door and does not expect his dinner to be ready and on the table every night. This dad shows love and respect to his wife/x-wife always and will offer to take on some of the daily responsibilities because he is fully aware of everything mom's do to make the house a home and the children happy, and healthy. 

A man who sees that his primary role is not just a check book and that there is so much more.

The Ideal Dad accepts all responsibilities to his children even if he has "others", or not.

A dad is present. A father is just the is the sex ed version of a parent. A sex partner to create; to be blunt. 

Someone who makes spending time with his child/children a priority and actively participating in their lives as much as possible.

A dad who empowers, teaches, educates and disciplines just as much as the mom. If not more.

A man who can take care of himself when he is not feeling well. In order to be a great dad, you must take care of your health. A dad should be a role model who lives a healthy life.

A man who doesn't think it's cool that his 2 year old knows what a beer is and has him get him one from the cooler. A man who doesn't "check  out" attractive women in front of their son and daughter and shows respect to all life. 

A man who is authentic at home, in the office, on the field, at a school meeting and most importantly around others. A dad is someone who does knows how to say no when necessary. To say no to his friends, co-workers, girlfriend and say yes to his kids. 

Parenting is not easy. It requires, love, support, guidance, discipline, honesty, friendship, and loyalty. 

Teach them confidence and self-esteem but make sure you are good to yourself. Every parent deserves time to themselves to clear their mind a connect with themselves. 

A dad and a man who is good to mom. Be good to the mother of their children whether they are married or not and be sure to remember who your biological children are.

Remember, kids learn from their parents and they are always watching. Drinking, smoking will become planted in their brain. Bad manners and inappropriate behavior will rub off on them.

One thing kids want most is time. Quality time with their dad. Make time before it's too late.

If there is anything I ever wanted, it was a dad and to have quality time with my Father. 

 

 

 

A Blog about a Boutonniere

I felt the need to write last night. My mind was non-stop. I knew what was on my mind, but not sure how to get it all out.

Last night was the 8th Grade Dance. The "Last Dance".

For months, Patrick was going solo until the day before. Kelsey and I were thrilled by who decided to ask a beautiful and smart young lady, but as a busy mom, last minute running around is not fun. But this time it was. Shoes, a tie, a hair cut and bonding. Late Monday night it dawned on me about FLOWERS!! Crap. Amy to the rescue! The first thought was a Succulent for Patrick. Not sure why, but it was the first thought and it was perfect. Keeping reading on how it all comes together.

My stomach was torn up with emotions that as always, I held back. This is hitting me pretty hard. High School. College. Life. My baby. The man of my house. 

Anyway, the night went like this....

5:30 pm pictures at my house with Patrick, Kelsey, Woody and I. The Perfectly Imperfect Divorced Parents. The tide was up and the train was flying by. The ducks, the birds, the perfect breeze and two sets of the most beautiful blue eyes a brown eyed mother would only have look at her in her dreams. Smiling, making jokes and of course hitting one another on a creaky, old, white-washed gazebo that is just perfect at high tide and mucky and buggy at low tide with the train still cruising by no matter what. I love the train and I love mud. No mud. No lotus. You first have to sit in the mud. In life's terms, the work and suffering that we put in are what yield in return, the reward. (I don't mean a bigger house or money. For me anyway.)

You see, when I first moved to Brielle someone asked me, "Where do you live"? I was confused because our kids both went to Brielle and you have to be a resident. I answered. Her response."Oh, "over there". Slightly taken back by response I asked what exactly does that mean? Response "On the "Other Side of the Tracks". Tracks? What Tracks? The Rail Road Tracks? You see I love the train. My grandmother lived in the Bronx. No air, windows always open, the sounds of horns honking and the train chugging, hissing, screeching and whistling. Music to my ears!! A small home, by the tracks, low tide or hide, it doesn't matter. Less is more. Noise can be calming. Silence and sterile can be sad and lonely.

Still torn about the reasoning for this blog I was starring at the Instagram post I posted on my personal page. swiping and swiping. Looking and thinking about the afternoon, the "photo party in the hills", the breathtaking view, the beautiful young teens, the parents, and my son and his friends. Then I figured it all out. It all came together.

The first photo is Patrick and I on the gazebo with the tracks and the "creek" in the background, the second was Patrick and his date on the River up in "the hills", the third photo is Patrick and his two friends, then Lilly and Patrick, Kesley and Patrick and Patrick solo.

You see the three boys in the photo are all sons of hardworking, very strong, single moms that continue to work their asses off for their children and continue to thrive everyday.

 Next pic....LILLY!!!! Patrick and Lilly have been best friends for years. They are one! Most Athletic and friends until the end. I admire and look up to this young lady so much than I can say or write in any blog or any book. Before I continue I want to say that from the teens I did see, everyone looked beautiful and handsome, but Lilly stole the show!!! Classic white button down, pink khaki pants, a low, wind blown pony, clear, bright, natural ,glowing, freckled skin and a smile that projected her confidence across the river. Come to find out Patrick and Lilly spoke the evening before about the dance. She did not want to go. I am not sure of the entire conversation, but what I do know is, real friends stick together. Through the mud and the rough waters. Friends help each other up when they are feeling down. Friends are confidence boosters and a support system. Lilly, continue to be you. Less is more. Walk with your head high ALWAYS.

Still confused about this blog? So am I. Here's the deal.....

SUCCULENTS.

They are difficult to kill and require little maintenance.

 

They are grown as ornamental plants because of their striking and unusual appearance.

They survive in HARSH climates.

They're reflections and reminders of our existence and consciousness. The colorful leaves brighten up any room. They are living Mandalas. (means circle in Sanskrit)

The circle center of our power is the third chakra. Solar Plexus. It is the center of will power, personal power, confidence, responsibility, reliability, self-esteem and warmth in your personality.

Succulents and Mandalas. Both like art, just like every photo that I described. We overcome situations that gives us a clear opportunity for doing things in ways we have always known we should do. We learn how to make it work by making it work. Just like three single moms, a teen putting it all together within one day  and a natural beauty inside and out, showing up. HER WAY.

Lastly....

No mud. No Lotus.

"Most people are afraid of suffering. But suffering is a kind of mud to help the lotus flower of happiness grow".

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong,

 

The happy, single mom, living on the tracks in the mud. 

Proudly.

 

Be a Succulent

Wonder Woman or Washing Machine

What role do you play? How do you want your children to remember you?

Getting it all done. Being in two different places at the same time. This is nothing new because I have been doing it for over a decade with no complaints. Just get up and GO!! FLY. Everyday. For this is the life I chose and to be honest, this is the life I love. Some days are harder than others and on the dark days I would like to fly up, up and away. I push through and carry on, surround myself with like minded people who truly want to prosper in life and looking to improve themselves everyday just like Super Heroes. Eliminating Villains and keeping "Super Friends". Unfortunately, for every genuine person you meet, there is always the opposite. There will be one or more people that appear as an evil force spreading their negative influence on whoever will listen to make things difficult. By being a "super" person with a positive mind and outlook, you will always come out on top.

A few things inspired me to write this blog. How I was feeling Sunday night and a few things that I heard and read about. 

How do you want your children to see you now and what will they say when you are gone? As a hero or a 1950's housewife/Washing Machine? I guess it can be both but.....

I choose the cape and wristbands. Maybe because lipstick,  pressed skirts, fancy clothes and afternoon tea (which is not the local drink of choice), is not my thing and having the sense of feeling worthy and not boring is. (Without judgement. To each is own.)

I chose to empower my kids. And with power comes the responsibility of being super. To have a normal life. To have a career and have fun and basically live a regular, genuine life with super powers so they can be stronger than reality and overcome obstacles and stand up for themselves and to all villains . To be mentally strong like steel. To speak their truth always and have enhanced senses/intuition and trust it.

I want them to remember me as someone who can do it all (not only as the washing machine a maid and a cook), so they know that they can be and do anything they want. Follow their dreams and do whatever comes their way, even if it does include laundry but not to leave that as a lasting impression.

All superheros have weaknesses and I want them to recognize those which I know they do. Slowly we learn to use our strengths to overcome our weaknesses, work through all conflicts the dark and light ones; the good and the evil. To conquer any challenge and obstacle that they may face. To be fearless and empower others.

"Wonder Woman is not fiction. She is a state of mind"

"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable"-Chrsitopher Reeve

Be a super person. Not a Villain.

What will your legacy be? Leave an impact of being a super person. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salted Gems, Yoga and Meditation

You do not need to be a yogi to join us for a very special evening on the beach for a yoga/meditation essential oil class.

Combing essential oils with your yoga and meditation practice is a great way to support your body, let go of all of the negative thoughts, uplift your confidence, promote happiness, clarity and courage.

During meditation, combing crystals with essential oils will assist you in clearing any blocked chakras you may have.

You will learn about the top ten oils, the uses and Benefits and how to start living a healthy, vibrant lifestyle with certified pure therapeutic grade oils.

Join us on June 21st at 6:30 pm.

Meet up at Salted Gems then we will walk to the beach for meditation and yoga
$10 per person

906 Grand Central Ave.

Lavallette

Move Mountains

How many of you can honestly say that you are thriving or just surviving? Are you up all night stressing and worrying about things that have not even happened yet? Are you dreading going to work the next day and causing yourself anxiety instead of the falling into a peaceful sleep thinking of happiness, joy and accomplishments that are fueling your fire?

If you are tossing and turning every night with anxiety and stress, chances are you are just surviving and not thriving. What's the difference? To survive means to continue to live or exist, especially during hard times. To thrive means to be fortunate or successful, to grow and flourish.

Unsure? Ask yourself these questions. Write them down if needed.

Do you feel stuck?

Are you constantly complaining and blaming others?

Day after day are you being your authentic self or do you always feel inauthentic?

Do you always feel sorry for yourself and telling yourself that "things always go wrong"?

"Thrive Mode is characterized by what psychologist Martin Seligman refers to as PERMA"

  • Positive emotions
  • Engagement and flow
  • Positive relationships
  • Meaning
  • Accomplishment

The first thing you have to do is admit the mode you are in. Maya Angelou said it best

"My mission in life is not to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style".

Years ago, I did nothing but worry. Many sleepless nights. Then one day, I woke the fuck up. "There is nothing that I can do about this particular situation at 12:30 am, 2:30 am, or 4:00 am and why don't I just chill out and see how it plays out. I began to take one minute and one day at a time with a positive mindset and then it happened.....

I began to "Move Mountains" by changing my mindset, removing toxic people out of my life, and doing what I wanted to do and not listen to others. Granted, there were other things I needed to work on such as setting boundaries with certain people and situations and I am 95%  there.

What is the secret to reaching to where you want to be mentally, physically, spiritually and professionally?

Have small accomplishments every day and start with the inner work first. Our brains record EVERY one of our experiences. The bad, the good, the ugly and the beautiful. Guess what? More often our brains record the positive experiences more than the negative. I know it sounds crazy but it's all about your mindset. The more inner work we do and heal, the more motivation and momentum we have.

Don't worry about huge accomplishments, instead be happy and celebrate the small wins of everyday life. The small wins are the secret to moving mountains and thriving. 

Remember you can't do it alone. 

"I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot.

Together we can do great things"-Mother Theresa

Let's do great things together.

This morning I guided my class through a meditation that I would like to share a piece of it with you.

In summer, there’s no snow on the mountain except perhaps for the very peaks. In fall, the mountain may wear a coat of brilliant fire colours. In winter, a blanket of snow and ice. In any season, it may find itself at times enshrouded in clouds or fog or pelted by freezing rain. People may come to see the mountain and comment on how beautiful it is or on how it’s not a good day to see the mountain. None of this matters to the mountain which remains at all times its essential self. Clouds may come, and clouds may go. The mountain’s magnificence and beauty are not changed one bit by the way people see it or not or by the weather. Seen or unseen, in sun or clouds, broiling or frigid, day or night, it just sits, being itself. At times, visited by violent storms, buffeted by snow and rain and winds of unthinkable magnitude. Through it all, the mountain continues to sit unmoved by the weather, by what happens on the surface, by the world of appearances.

And in the same way, as we sit in meditation, we can learn to experience the mountain. We can embody the same unwavering stillness and rootedness in the face of everything that changes in our own lives over seconds, over hours, over years. In our lives and in our meditation practice, we constantly experience the changing nature of mind and body and of the outer world. We have our own periods of light and darkness, our moments of colour and our moments of drabness. Certainly, we experience storms of varying intensity and violence in the outer world and in our own minds and bodies. We endure periods of darkness and pain, as well as the moments of joy. Even our appearance changes constantly, experiencing a weather of its own.

By becoming the mountain in our meditation practice, we can link up with its strength and stability and adopt it for our own. We can use its energies to support our energy to encounter each moment with mindfulness and equanimity and clarity. It may help us to see that our thoughts and feelings, our preoccupations, our emotional storms and crises, even the things that happen to us, are very much like the weather on the mountain. We tend to take it all personally but its strongest characteristic is impersonal. The weather of our own lives is not to be ignored or denied. It is to be encountered, honoured, felt, known for what it is and held in awareness. And in holding it in this way, we come to know a deeper silence, and stillness, and wisdom. Mountains have this to teach us and much more if we can come to listen.

 

 

Perfectly Imperfect

Sunday I shared a blog about being a Imperfect Mother and I feel like I need to take this a step further and share more. Starting this month I will be having a series of blogs, posts and maybe even a  video on" How to embrace our perfect imperfections"- "The Journey of embracing imperfection on and off the mat."

The past few weeks, we discussed how therapeutic it is to write whether in a journal, a blog or a letter to your children.

I would like to offer all of you this opportunity to write, to own your imperfections!! Because your imperfections are your own PERFECT.

The entry can be a few sentences or a few pages. No need to think too hard or stress. JUST WRITE. You do not have to be a practicing yogi or a SUKHA client. This is a great exercise for everyone! It can be funny or serious. Just write. Writing is HEALING.

"Write until it becomes as natural as breathing. Write until not writing makes you anxious"

Please submit your "imperfect' blog to sukhayogaclass@gmail.com

All entries will receive a FREE guest pass to SUKHA and a my newest roller bottle blend "Perfectly Imperfect".

If you request, your name will not be mentioned on social media.

Please continue to stay connected on Facebook and Instagram.

 

 

 

Wellness Membership at SUKHA

Are you looking to heal physically, mentally and spiritually the natural, authentic way?

On May 21st Sukha is celebrating the one year anniversary. There is nothing I would like more than to continue to share the best ways of healing than through yoga and pure, natural essential oils. Both are life changing and change is COMING...The U.S healthcare system is BROKEN! Out-of-pocket costs are rising and accessing quality care in a timely manner is increasingly difficult for many Americans.

"Doterra is leading an innovative movement in healthcare in which medical providers are taking an integrative approach to keep their patients healthy and thriving. Proven methods of healthcare delivery-including traditional western methods, essential oil treatment and wellness services-are utilized in an effort to prevent disease and maintain optimal health".

From now until the May 31st  you can become a Sukha member for $55 a month for 6 months with the purchase of a wholesale membership with doterra. These multi-purpose, pure essential oils are revolutionizing the way families manage their health. doTerra harnesses nature’s most powerful elements and share these gifts through a global community. As a wholesale member you receive 25% off all products, access to two private group Facebook pages and essential oil education with yours truly. (there absolutely no sales obligation. This is for your personal use and benefit)
As a Sukha member, you have unlimited access to all yoga and Pilates classes. This one time offer comes with TWO free guest passes to bring a new friend to Sukha!! 

Start your healing the natural way with yoga and essential oils for EVERYONE!!!

If you are interested in the Wellness Membership at SUKHA, please email or call Maribeth

sukhayogaclass@gmail.com

877-SUKHA-11

**to get started in Wellness Package, members must purchase a starter kit of your choice before May 31

**if you have currently purchased a kit through Maribeth and would like the $55 a month for 6 months unlimited yoga and pilates, you must place your LRP order for $150 before May 31, 2018
 

Happy Imperfect Mother's Day

What a great weekend of celebrating. My baby boy turned 14 and today we are celebrating Mother’s Day. Every day is Mother’s Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you hard working, multi-tasking, beautiful, strong, sometimes under appreciated, talented, mom’s out there.

Happy Mother’s Day to my beautiful mom!!! I know I was not easy and guess what? Some days it is coming back in full force to bite me in the ass. But that’s okay. It’s full circle. Thanks for putting up with my shit during my younger years and even sometimes now. This strong mind of mine just keeps getting stronger. Thank you for doing what you did back in 1981. I am not sure the three of us would be who are today and where we are in life if you stayed. Working your ass off. I get it. Boy; do it get it. Full Circle for sure. Anyway, thank you and I love you. Have a Happy Mother's Day!

Before I continue to write, I would like to share something from a “unknown author”

“Mama, you were given these children. You—no one else. You were given these children because you are who they need. You have the soul to love them even on their hard days. You have the motivation and love to give to these children everything they need. You have the heart to wake up every morning and do it all over again, even when you are exhausted. You have the smile that they crave and the touch to make everything okay. You are their sunshine and their comfort. You are theirs, and they are yours, Mama. On the days you are questioning yourself, remember this…you’ve got this.” ~ Unknown

Yes!!! We’ve got this!!! There are so many days when we may think we don’t. There are days where you just want to run. Days where you are not sure how you are going to possibly handle everything. Days when you forget to pack lunches, baseball hats, give lunch money, forget to wash their favorite jeans, days when you don’t feel like having 6 teens over the house because you don’t feeling like dealing with 6 more sets of hormones or maybe the house isn’t clean enough or you just don’t have enough food in the fridge to feed 6 more mouths. But, it’s okay. We are human. We are superheros and some days we lose our power but it is only just for a moment.

There are plenty of sleepless nights. Worrying if some idiot that’s drinking and driving will run off the road and not see your kid on their bikes. Stressing over how you are going to pay for the next set of braces, the next trip to Spain, cars, college. Thinking about grades, parties, games, friends. The list is endless. What guess what? We’ve got this!!! We are strong, powerful, we are natural nurtures. We are doctors, taxi drivers, therapists, cooks, teachers, accountants, a voice, ear, and the eyes of amazing people that came out of us!! Think about that. WE CREATED!!! We created, we teach, we learn, we practice and we continue to share in hopes that our children turn out to be just as AMAZING as we are. But guess what? We need show that we are not perfect, show our flaws and teach them that it is okay.

I read a blog a while ago that inspired me to write what I am going to write.

I am sorry that I will NEVER be the perfect mother.

Everyday, I wake up knowing that Kelsey and Patrick deserve the best. Kelsey and Pat, I hope you read this one day.

I love you both will all of my heart and soul and I hope you know that. I am so blessed to have smart, talented, funny, beautiful, respectful teenagers. Some days, I am simply amazed at how amazing you both are and I  wonder “How the “F” did this happen”. I am proud. I am happy. I am blessed. But I am far from perfect.

I am sorry you did not grow up in a “traditional family”. But this is the road we were meant to be on. I have no regrets at all, but this is what  you needed even if our situation is different than your friends. You are simply two of the most wonderful young humans I have ever met. Not perfect, but that’s okay. 

I would fight for you and die for you.

I am sorry to the things I have to say no to. It’s rare and there isn’t a whole hell of a lot I deny you of. If I can make it happen, I will and I am in the process of doing so. Sit tight. 

I am sorry that in the past, I dragged you to before care at 6:30 am and after care until 6:00 pm and being so tired and slightly grumpy when we got home.

I am sorry some nights, I was logged on working remotely. I am sorry I dragged you to work with me on Saturday’s.

I had to and will continue to work. I am not perfect. But now I finally have the flexibility to pick you up from school, attended games, cook dinner almost every night and be there for you. Some days and nights I have to teach, and get work done when you are home. I hope that one day you understand my drive, motivation and determination for my why’s, and I hope it’s contagious for you in your future. Good work ethic is hard to find these days. If I can teach you a few things; I hope you have the ethic and drive to work hard at whatever you choose to do in the future.

I am sorry I was so tired that I just did not have the energy to play catch or bake with you at the time you wanted, but I am so glad that I did make the time and push myself to get out there enough times to make memories to practice, bake cookies, color or watch I Carly, Power Rangers,  because it was well worth it.

I am sorry for yelling at times in the past, present and I know I will continue to raise my voice in the future. But I promise that I will take a step back and remember to breathe. Remember that I love you. I am your parent, your disciplinarian and then your friend. I am not perfect and I am not a “Disney Parent”. You will understand what that means one day when you begin to figure it all out.

We are going to fight. We are going to disagree. You may not like me some days and I will not like you at that present moment, but the only thing we can do is know that these crappy moments will not last forever.

I am sorry I was not a honor student and can’t help you with all of your homework. Continue to study hard and work “your way”. I will guide and support you but this brain just doesn’t function well with academics and I am not embarrassed to say so. Continue to study and work hard. I am proud of the both of you for the achievements you have made so far. Keep it up. Don't "B" so hard on yourself if you get a "B". 

I am sorry some days the fridge is slightly empty.

I am sorry for not buying the junk food you crave, and going out for ice cream every night in the summer. Outings like this should be a special treat and a special moment. Not a demand or a habit. One day will thank me for the healthy lifestyle, I can promise you that.

I am not sorry for signing and dancing to Johnny Cash in the kitchen back in the day and singing Kenny Chesney with the top down in my jeep present day. I hope that one day you will remember the silly things and most importantly to sing and dance like no one is watching and not give a shit if some one is. Why? Because it feels good. "I hope you dance" "Now and Forever."

I am not sorry for posting selfies on my Instagram page because one day you will look back at them and be proud of me. Continue to share your stories. Follow the real, genuine stories and keep scrolling through the ones that portray themselves to be perfect. It's called False Advertising.

I am not perfect and to be honest, I am not looking to be. I am not the perfect mom, friend, sister, daughter, girlfriend, and boss. I will curse. I will go out of the house looking like a slob. And I will continue to take all of my hard work in the home and outside the home seriously.

I don’t need a big house, a fancy car or fancy clothes in order for people to think I live a perfect life or think that I am a perfect mother. There are days when I get nervous that my imperfections will somehow transfer to you. But guess what? You don’t need someone to show you perfection. You need someone to show you what REALNESS looks like. Realness is meant for the three of us. Real. Honest. Genuine. Low maintenance.Slightly Messy. IMPERFECT. This is US!! In a peaceful, happy, quiet, no frills, small kitchen house.

I am not sorry for not being be perfect. But I WILL NEVER BE SORRY for doing the best I can to continue to raise two awesome teenagers every day. Play hard. Study hard. Work hard. Laugh hard. Live hard.

I love being your mom even on the crappy days. It’s going to be a bumpy ride, but in the end you will realize that perfect is so F’in boring and does not exist.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the IMPERFECT mom’s out there! Have a great day today and everyday!

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Strong

The Proud, Imperfect Mom